LaTigresse
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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse Granted, I have zero experience with submissive men, aside from having a few as friends/aquaintances, but I really don't think there is much difference in "return for effort" between men and women. I've yet to meet a submissive/slave woman, that was solely service oriented, without concern for her own gratification of some sort. Not saying these people do not exist, just saying I've yet to know one. That is becuase you have never been to Detroit. True......not one of the great American cities I've ever had on my list of "must see places". I've been thinking about this thread now that I am relaxing at home and have a clearer head. Aside from the guys that write me, ignoring or hoping.....the sexual preference that is quite clearly listed on my profile. Somehow thinking that I will still love the idea of ramming a big strapon up their arse after they've mowed my yard, or that their tongue is my idea of service.....aside from that stupidity. Any woman that contacts me as a service slave, that thinks it will always be only, all about me, nothing kinky at all, unless we've pre-agreed, is a moron. Somewhere in there is a line, and the bugger of it is, it's hard to define sometimes. But it definitely exists. I am not selfish enough to believe that someone will wish to spend the rest of their life behaving as a scullery maid in my home. I doubt I would want that. It is the level of expectation, that feeling that they would only be doing it to manipulate me to serving their kink. Maybe it is just my issue, something I should work on that I am unaware of, but I hate hate HATE feeling manipulated. Bottom line, I am not going to serve someone's kink. I do not NEED someone else to do my dishes or mow my yard. They will do it because they WANT to make me happier, they WANT to make my life easier. Without any manipulative expectation of me standing over them in a rubber catsuit or whatever. THAT would not make my life easier. I may as well do it myself if that were the case. It's not that there wouldn't be fun kinky things. That is not my point. Depending upon the person and our dynamic, there may be an awful lot of fun kinky activities. But placing that expectation above the service is like putting the cart before the horse. At least for me. I don't like command performances. If that's what people want, then I may as well become a pro dominatrix. Because having those expectations is how that would make me feel. I want someone that serves me because they want to serve ME, not their kink. And I want the person/people that serves me, to be someone I want around, that I want to spend time with, and if we are both lucky, someone that creates the hunger in me to do mutually interesting kinky things with. It has to be mutually satisfying, but when someone comes to me with demands and expectations, it turns it into a business deal and that is not satisfying to me.
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My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one! Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!
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