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RE: "The rules of flirting are sexist and wrong" - 6/1/2009 11:55:28 AM

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Maybe I am missing something, but I don't see any of that as flirting.

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RE: "The rules of flirting are sexist and wrong" - 6/1/2009 12:22:43 PM

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That's just it, Lockit - maybe it isn't flirting in the sense that people usually use that word. It's not really contrived at all - there's nothing particularly artful about it.

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RE: "The rules of flirting are sexist and wrong" - 6/2/2009 3:22:38 AM

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didn't read article, but I don't have any problems pertaining to flirting or dating. As a guy I like it that the guy tends to be the aggressor, it's a pretty big turn on.
Which is not to say I don't like the opposite too though

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RE: "The rules of flirting are sexist and wrong" - 6/2/2009 3:42:48 AM

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ORIGINAL: ShaktiSama

I have never liked women who couldn't flirt with me, express interest in my thoughts and well-being, compliment my good qualities, and who were so one-dimensional that they ALWAYS had to be fucked, never the one fucking. I find it equally unattractive in a man.

Thanks SS, I'm really glad you mentioned this...in my almost non-existent experience I did run into this and I'm not sure how some dommes feel about it. With the one dominant woman I was with, I never had the opportunity but she expressed interest in me strapping it on for her - which I very much wanted to do. Heck I even practiced (oh don't ask...I'll leave it to imagination since I'm sure I looked pretty silly). And it was one of those activities that I wondered....did that make me not as submissive as I think I might be? I kept thinking about it...yes I want to be active, to do this too, I think it would be wildly fun and I wanted to please her. I know many of my fantasies around it are more a dominant woman doing it to me, yet I've also thought a lot about 'doing her' too. I'm glad that I'll just guess you'd agree, as other threads have, that it's not the 'act' that is dominant, it's the dynamics that are between the two people.

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RE: "The rules of flirting are sexist and wrong" - 6/2/2009 9:34:09 AM

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Perhaps it is easier when you have a woman's body to understand how pleasurable it can be to be penetrated? Providing someone with that kind of intimate pleasure is not necessarily "dominant" or victimizing when you realize how pleasing it can be to the receiver. A cock (or a strap-on), when used correctly, is an exquisitely pleasurable sex toy and using it on a woman's body can be every bit as submissive as massaging her with your hands or worshipping her with your tongue. The fact that you have a lot of fantasies about being a bottom/receiver of this pleasure is not a problem--obviously I have a lot of fantasies about being the top in a relationship, or I wouldn't take on the role. On the other hand, when it's my turn to receive some loving attention and pleasure, I don't think it is too much to ask for my partner to get off his/her back and do something for me. Lockit put it extremely well: there's being submissive and then there's being just plain damn lazy!

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RE: "The rules of flirting are sexist and wrong" - 6/2/2009 11:00:43 AM

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For me, I haven't liked being pursued since I was in high school and I cannot honestly say I was in healthy dating relationships then.

If I like someone and he or she has shown some mild interest in me, I'm pretty blunt when I ask someone out to talk, I'm also blunt about being poly and having zero interest in vanilla relationships.

"Mild interest" is generally asking me a question and carrying on a decent conversation at several munches, not just with me, by the way, but taking a seat near me, looking at me and talking to me in a polite fashion. Its being you and that you being interesting enough for me to think you are worth my time and that I might be worth yours.

Now I've been told by exes that I flirt in domspace -- I'm not sure that that means because if I'm flirting at a munch or something, I'm not conscious of it. I'm just being me. If someone catches my attention in a positive way, I'll check that person out next time and the time after that as well.

Just one dom woman's feedback on the thread.

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