TexasMaam -> RE: Your new, now what? ~ a public service post ~ (2/15/2006 8:20:35 PM)
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I've never in My life had a single regret that I couldn't look back on later and tell Myself: "Yanno, I should have paid attention to all those 'little red flags'..." We all see them. We all feel them. Those little red flags that pop up in our heads the instant something doesn't feel 'just right'. It doesn't have to be a huge, major topic or limit involved, either. Red flags usually start over small, seemingly inconsequential things. Which is why we ignore them. For instance: "The first time he didn't give me his home number, I should have known he had a (girlfriend/wife/significant other) at home." or: "The first time he kept telling me how good looking the waitress with the 44D's was, I should have known he was just a tit man who'd leave me for the first bigger bra size that happened along..." or "The first time I told him how much I enjoyed spending time with him, and he just laughed, I should have..." Those little instances we have all talked ourselves out of at some point in our lives! For instance: "well, I believed him when he said he was separated and didn't have a home phone yet...", or: "well, all guys are tit men at heart, he didn't mean to hurt my feelings at dinner...", or: "when he laughed I think he must have been thinking how much he enjoyed my company, too..." We rationalize little red flags. Then when we end up crushed, we look back and kick ourselves for not paying attention to them when they bothered us to begin with. I was one of those people who had to train Herself to ALWAYS pay attention to little red flags. I've gotten to a place in My life where I pay attention and make judgment calls ANY time I see a little red flag. My advice would be: Don't ignore a single 'little red flag' ....! Texas Maam
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