CallaFirestormBW -> RE: Master/slave questions (7/22/2009 9:30:29 AM)
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ORIGINAL: IronBear Actually Michael mate, I don't see TPE as you do for the simple reason that a slave collared to myself or even to the home will be in a 24/7 TPE dynamic. However it is my choice, will and way of working that I return some "powers" to her. These include but are not the total, caring for her child as she sees fit as a mother (with some guidance from both Neets and I as far as the child's impact on the home goes, the ability to make decisions especially if neither Neets and I are not there to ask. Since I do not micro manage, the slave does not need permission to carry out personal hygiene, pick up things and return them to their appointed places etc. I still have the final say in all things but unless there is some screw up I need not become involved other than offer suggestions and to make praiseworthy comments. You will find than many Masters/Mistresses do much the same. The fact that some "Powers" are granted back almost immediately, does not detract from the fact that the dynamic is a TPE one. However I know there will be others who will dispute this from their own stance. Here, here! It's the same for our household. Even our servants who have chosen the path that yields up everything to the Keepers are not micromanaged. We're firm believers in delegation, and delegation can include everything from outside jobs to school to caring for the kitchen. The thing with TPE (which we call an "absolute authority" dynamic), is that what is given up isn't necessarily specific -things-. What is given up is the authority to manage the things in one's life at one's own discretion. If I had a servant who was looking at ROTC and intending to go into the military, I wouldn't consider going for an 'absolute authority' relationship, because the dynamics of the military would preclude hir actually yielding up authority over every relevant area of hir life, and I don't really go much for illusionary options. With that being said, if I had a servant who had a set of skills and wanted to train those skills, it would be in both our best interests for me to make sure that something was done to hone that skill-set. It might mean that the servant would not be in a situation to offer hirself in an absolute authority arrangement, but as long as xhe were willing to yield up authority in areas we were able to negotiate, it would not affect hir capacity to serve the household, and, in some cases, once the period of training or outside requirements was completed, it would actually enhance hir capacity to serve us, over the long term, which are all things we take into consideration. Now, were we to find something that was not in our plans for the individual, or was not in the best interests of the Household, especially in a servant who had pledged to yield absolute authority, it is entirely possible that we would deny a request to do a certain thing, take a certain piece of coursework, or a certain job, or whatever -- and such a decision would, for us, come with an option. Either xhe could abide by our authority, or xhe could step back from hir decision to yield absolute authority, we could re-negotiate the terms of hir service, and xhe could do whatever it was that we denied hir -- with the understanding that, if it were truly not in the best interests of hir or the household, xhe may find that xhe was no longer a suitable fit to serve us. Dame Calla
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