CatdeMedici
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I do not believe this has anything to do with submission and everthing to do with the fact that UM's get wired by what they see, hear and learn. You clearly stated that she is just like you when you were that age--is this what you want for her? I doubt it, I would assume you would hope she had learned from your life, it seems she did not---that is where the issue lies, not in any so called submission--this is her definition of loving and being loved--its now a cycle, it has to be broken. He does what she allows him to do, she allows it because in her wired psyche it means love---this isn't submission, this is a train wreck. I'm not being glib, I've had a similar situation, because her low self esteem for whatever reason lead her to deadbeats, I fought tooth and nail with every breath I had ,to stop it, get counselling, get her to wake up before it was too late, she is only 19--it worked and she wasn't even close to what you have, but she was teetering. Don't enable.
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