Amaros
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And this right here is where I always part ways with the similar views of others.
I will not Hide, Hinder, Stuff, or Curb my affectionate actions in front of others. I may not desire to be caught making out and engageing in heavy petting in the public park, however that is the assumption you make.
The girls hold hand, hug, and kess each other hello and good bye. It is simply OBVIOUS that they are in love with one another. I would not hinder that for one moment. As for an Excersize in Decency, let me say this. The girls aren't stripping down in front of people, they aren't playing grab ass but rather just being affectionate. I would no more ask them not to to that then I would be willing to allow someone to tell me I should not hold hands with my wife or kiss her.
It seems people are assuming to some degree that the girls are dry humpeing each other in the middle of the streets, it is certainly the case from the few provate e-mails I received on this. So far the kindest e-mail and most helpful came from someone who is actually LDS who gave me part of the LDS Belief to use as a way of deflecting questions.
I was asking for advice in how to handle the questions not in how to curb the girls affection for one another, first off I don't WANT to curb their affection I want good ways to handle when people ask questions.
The point I am making is that I am not willing to make what we do some dirty little secret, I do quiet certain conversations when they come up because they are being started at the wrong time and in the wrong place, but there is nothing wrong with how the girls interact together, just in this town two girls interacting that way draws attention and I am looking for ways of deflecting that attention when it is bold enough to present itself.
Steel
Well that would be great if the topic weren't "how to manage nosey neighbours' questions so our kids don't get taken away."
Seriously from the previous posts it sounds like the town is going to start some sort of Morality Crusade and run you out of town, taking your kids as they do. But now you're saying basically "screw what they think, we're going to engage in PDA" and really the two don't mesh too well.
The way I see it, if you *want* privacy, you have to behave as a private person would. You can't put yourself on display then complain that people are being nosey. It just doesn't work that way.
PDA is an interesting subject, a lot of people seem to find it objectionable, and not just for religious reasons - i.e., the "mushiness" squicks them out, it can intensify feelings of acute loneliness in some observers, in short, unless year spent looking at naked women has injured you to this, it triggers primacy effect. Sex and violence are very primal behaviors and when they appear they tend to "crowd out" everything else - people react to PDA much the same way they all go running to see when there's a fight.
Keeping track of who's doing what to who is very likely a selected trait, it probably helps keep track of whose kids are whose and avoid incestuous matches. The practice of verbally denouncing it is the act of announcing their inclusion and belonging to a specific social group, religious, male sporting culture, Blue collar bourgeoisie, and of the other social demographics that have their own idea about "how the world should be".
Acting like cavemen may be so last century, but you're talking about a half century of democratic reform vs. millions of years of evolution - the veneer is very thin, and not just in the "dog eat dog" sense - we band to together for survival, our complex social relationships are key to our success, and people react negatively to anything they perceives as being threatening to group fitness.
So, if you're going to out, loud and proud, you're going to need a thick skin, and make friends where you can - eventually, most people will learn to adjust, meantime, you're going to be something for them to talk about.
We're actually lucky to live in a time when a lot of stuff has become quasi-acceptable, but it takes time for some of this stuff to filter down to the provinces.
< Message edited by Amaros -- 10/10/2009 8:17:40 AM >
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