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ORIGINAL: perverseangelic i have a friend who is currently searching for a submissive. he recently met someone through another online dating thing and was in contact with her for a little while. (read, a day or so) because he met her on the internet, he ran her screen name through google and came up with information about someone using the same screen name and with similar identifying features, however while she had claimed to be 19 on the site he met her on, this information indicated she was only 16. because he wasn't totally sure this was the same person, he asked her about it, telling her he'd googled her name out of curiosity and just wanted to make sure everything was kosher. she flipped. told him this was totally uncalled for and that this violated trust and that she believed what he told her. that he'd have to go find a sub stupider than her becuase she wasn't falling for this. my question. IS that uncalled for? is it bad/wrong/untrustworthy to google someone's name or generally reserach them? he's new to the scene, and i've never been in a similar situation, so i have no prior experience. it seems like common sense to me, but i would very much appreciate other opinions. thank you First I'd like to ask, why google would have a minor's information. Or mine either as far as that goes? Why would they know how old I am or what I look like? Other than those obvious questions. I think checking people out is good. However, I know I would never do it on the net. I'd go to a group they belong in. I may ask on a BBS for a munch they belong to. Or a group. Ask people to e-mail me in private. Still, even that way you never know who may be his online friend just covering for the person. There really is no sure way to check somebody out unless you actually do the footwork on them. Of course unless you have an in with the FBI or some law enforcement agency. Although just the fact she hit the roof when she found out he was even trying to look. I'd stay away from her. She apparently has something to hide. Why else get so defensive? Anyway I wish him luck on his search.
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