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BoiJen -> Guys and strapons....a rant (10/26/2009 2:18:55 PM)
So everyone mostly knows I filter the Ma'am's messages. I'ma dyke, I'm in for packing and I'm mostly like the horniest little boi anybody can find out there....but for fuck's sake I am SO damn tired of reading messages about how guys think taking it up the ass is "service". I'm not THAT fascinated with the plastic bits....grrragh! boi

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Guys and strapons....a rant (10/26/2009 2:39:33 PM)
I love you, man. Um, boi. [:D]

LadyPact -> RE: Guys and strapons....a rant (10/26/2009 2:43:38 PM)
Seconded.

BoiJen -> RE: Guys and strapons....a rant (10/26/2009 2:47:26 PM)
Here comes the second part...if FemDommes feel this way...then isn't using that as your (strapnon crazed male "s-types") opener is like dumbest thing ever. Seriously! It's like opening a conversation with a woman with "so I really like getting blowjobs...and you blowing me, is like me serving you." You can't really be expected to be taken seriously. boi

ShaktiSama -> RE: Guys and strapons....a rant (10/26/2009 2:57:27 PM)
Agreed. Nothing feels less like "being served" and more like "service topping" than strap on play. That doesn't make it bad or wrong. And it IS service. Just not HIS service to ME.

AvidRunner -> RE: Guys and strapons....a rant (10/26/2009 3:11:10 PM)
It's not doing me any favors, for sure. It's hardly "submission" when they're running around like a gaping hole wanting ANYONE to do them.

ghitaPVH -> RE: Guys and strapons....a rant (10/26/2009 3:17:05 PM)
Wow, and here I am on the opposite end of the opinion....Im actually LOOKING for someone to use a strap-on with...for my own amusement actually...not really because I think Ill get any enjoyment out of it, but because its something Ive never done and I have a brand new one sitting in a box and Id like to try it...Although I expect it will probably be one of those things I do, then go "hmm, that was interesting" and file it away in my list of "done" things, and go back to doing my regular activities....So far though, the list of "volunteers" has been pretty crappy...

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Guys and strapons....a rant (10/26/2009 3:20:07 PM)
Wow, I am amazed you don't have a dozen volunteers, Ghita!

AvidRunner -> RE: Guys and strapons....a rant (10/26/2009 3:20:10 PM)
So do you just want anyone to do that to...and who would take anyone to do it to them? The reason that I ask is that lots of men are WILLING to do various activities, but don't feel the list to enumerate every one of those activities upon first contact. To me, it's an intimate act. If someone needs to know in the first conversation what the chances are that I'll have sex with them, then the answer is NO chance.

ghitaPVH -> RE: Guys and strapons....a rant (10/26/2009 3:30:26 PM)
No...I dont want just "anyone"...and yes, Ive had plenty of offers...just none I felt comfortable accepting. I guess Im just picky. I'm not looking for anything long term or emotionally involved, but I still want to be attracted and feel comfortable with a play partner. In truth, Im looking more for a bottom than I am for a submissive. And I dont like the femme men, I prefer a more masculine male. Someone with some decency and integrity who doesnt want me to tell them they are a dirtbag. I dont want to see you wearing pink frilly underwear and calling yourself a pussy. If you dont have any respect for yourself, why should I waste my time with you? And Id rather the guy not look like he just escaped from prison...wow there are some scary looking dudes on here lately....

Sylverdawn -> RE: Guys and strapons....a rant (10/26/2009 3:33:29 PM)
I enjoy the power dynamic of strap on play.. it does it for me... I swear if I had a cock Id never put it away.. but I think that illegal... now if he enjoys ok.. if he doesnt welll.. as long as there is enough lube.. I dont fuckin care.. I like the moaning and the groaning and the dirty talk.. but then I am perverted that way.. I like the ropes and the lil panties down around his knees.. and the way he wrinkles his nose with discomfort and I like how it makes me cum.. but again Im perverted that way... I dont like boys who say oh god I cant wait for you to take me up the ass im so hot for you in the first ten seconds or even ten days of a conversation with them.. but then again... IM PERVERTED THAT WAY

LadyPact -> RE: Guys and strapons....a rant (10/26/2009 3:41:55 PM)
I think we're agreed, Sylver. Well, except for the panties part. [8D] I'm not into pegging just anybody anymore than I'm interested in having any other kind of sex with just any male that happens along. Now, add the activity in conjunction with Me taking My rights as an Owner (in other words, using My property the way I wish), the power structure, and of course the sexual turn on, it's another story. If the boy enjoys it, and to date all of Mine have, all is well and good. If they don't...... Well..... I'll let you know how that turns out if I ever encounter the situation.

queencaliph -> RE: Guys and strapons....a rant (10/26/2009 3:51:43 PM)
THANK YOU!!!!! I tried less than a week ago to explain this concept to a male sub that strapon play is the DOMME servicing the SUB. Not the sub servicing the Domme.

frankieboy52 -> RE: Guys and strapons....a rant (10/26/2009 3:59:45 PM)
Being taken with a strap-on scares the living poop out of me...but it is a good frightened.I certainly wouldn't want to be told in a blaring blanket statement or even if said play ever occurred..i mean i am pretty much going to feel it anyways...but i have to tell you,i would never volunteer...i don't like it but it isn't a limit.So bottom line is yes i am still a slut but at least i am a thought provoking one.

BKSir -> RE: Guys and strapons....a rant (10/26/2009 4:01:43 PM)
I would agree that, in many cases, yes, that is "service topping". But I have known quite a few female D-types that have LOVED using their strap-ons on guys because of the power and control they felt while using them. Having the male under them, clawing, squealing, moaning, being essentially helpless in the situation. Physically, no, it's not bringing much to the party for the female, but mentally and emotionally it really gets them off (so to speak). PS: Sylver. It's not all it's cracked up to be. Rolling over on the damn thing wrong while sleeping is NOT comfy by any means. And I swear that women invented the doorknob. No male would put something that hard and unforgiving at THAT particular height. You have no idea how many times I've run into a doorknob. Of course, they can be very very fun, but, they're not all bunnies and butterflies, that's for sure. [;)]

BoiJen -> RE: Guys and strapons....a rant (10/26/2009 4:07:38 PM)
BK and others...to me that's like the Ma'am telling me how much She likes to give head. If we're out cruising for any potential cuckolding situations, I wouldn't assume that the guy would approach Her about getting head. It would be upon Her not only as a D-type but a Woman to initiate that otherwise it's rude and presumptuous. boi

BKSir -> RE: Guys and strapons....a rant (10/26/2009 4:21:19 PM)
Oh, well, of course, Boi. That goes without saying. That would be like my pet coming up and bending over in my face and expecting something other than getting his butt smacked in a very not friendly manner. It's just not cricket. However, if I think it belongs there, I'll tell him to bring it over. But I'm going to do so because I wish to do so, not because he thinks it feels good, that's just a lucky perk for him. Granted mine is real and not plastic, but, for the purpose of this situational comparison, that's neither here nor there. Of course I like the physical aspect of how it feels, but, I also like the control aspect, the feeling of power it gives, holding him down and having him laying there helpless under me.

ghitaPVH -> RE: Guys and strapons....a rant (10/26/2009 4:28:00 PM)
I agree with you on that Jen....somewhat.... I would NEVER tell Sir that he LIKES to beat me or fuck me..Nor would I ever tell him he NEEDS to. But I would tell him if I was wanting it. But I know that telling him I wanted something, doesnt mean hes actually going to DO it. Thats his decision. But he needs all the information to make his decision with. He needs to know if I like something or dont like something. He needs to know how things make me feel..... I think telling someone you like something, is alot different than telling someone thats what you expect them to do...And when you are first making contact with someone, I find it useful to know what their wants/desires/expectations are.. Not neccesarily just about sex, but about all aspects of a relationship. I need to know if they are a match to me. And reading that someone "expects" me to do a certain thing to them...helps me know they are NOT the person for me....lol

Venatrix -> RE: Guys and strapons....a rant (10/26/2009 4:28:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BKSir I have known quite a few female D-types that have LOVED using their strap-ons on guys because of the power and control they felt while using them. Having the male under them, clawing, squealing, moaning, being essentially helpless in the situation. Yes, yes, yes, yes, and yes! Besides, my naughty bits get rubbed nicely by the other end of the dildo, so I wouldn't say there's no physical pleasure in it for the female. Agreed, though: don't tell me that my giving you anal is your servicing me.

BoiJen -> RE: Guys and strapons....a rant (10/26/2009 4:29:03 PM)
Bk the control piece is neither here nor there in the approach of which I am bitching. lol :-) boi

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