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GreedyTop -> RE: I Admit It I........ (2/12/2012 11:10:29 AM)

I admit having FD as a poster here is fun :)



CalifChick -> RE: I Admit It I........ (2/12/2012 12:28:33 PM)

I admit that I'm on day four of a cold/flu/upper respiratory infection/sinus infection thang, and it is kicking my substantial white ass.

I admit that my nap wore me out and I need another one to recover.

I admit that during yesterday's nap, the little chicklet cleaned my room.  Imagine my panic when big buzzy was NOT by my bed.  "Honey, where is mommy's back massager?"  "I don't remember" "Well lets find it together, SHALL WE?????"

I admit that a 7 yr old's method of "cleaning" is to put everything into empty suitcases, whether it is clean laundry, dirty laundry, trash, etc.

I admit that recleaning what she "cleaned" wore me out this morning.

I admit that I'm giving a workshop next weekend on "how to love others as they would like to be loved".

I admit that it's been a long time since I gave a class of any kind.




needlesandpins -> RE: I Admit It I........ (2/12/2012 1:00:20 PM)

i admit hugs for everyone who has had losses, or infact just needs them.

i admit that yesterday i felt rather positive. i admit that today has kicked that into touch.

i admit that i feel like there has been a better offer on the plate that i should have been on [>:]

needles



Daddysredhead -> RE: I Admit It I........ (2/12/2012 1:07:04 PM)

I admit that I hope Cali is well soon.

I admit that I understand FD's spending angst.

I admit the brood sends its love to Greedy :)

I admit that I just got home to find out Daddy had a fall while I was out. Thank God my Manny was her and picked him up and got him all bandaged up. This was his second fall this week.

I admit that Daddy may be right, in that, he may need more care than I can give him now :(

I admit he is almost 87 and I am struggling to make sure he's got everything he needs during the day and I worry like crazy at times when I'm not home and the Things and my Manny aren't here in case something happens like this.

I admit I am really having insane amounts of guilt that I can't do everything for the people in my life who I love so much. I worry what people will think of me if he has to go to a nursing home. I'm afraid of being thought of as a failure and some sort of monster.

I admit this was the topic of my conversation with Daddy yesterday, where he said, "It's no one else's business. You are my only child who has done a thing for me, given me a home the past 10 years, looked after me, and sometimes people just need more help than what we can do. It doesn't mean we failed, it means we're human."

I admit I wish I could make my brain accept that. A few of my neighbors have said, "Thank goodness you aren't one of those kids who dumps their parents in a home. I hate those people."

I admit I told that to Daddy and he said, "Tell them I said to shut up."

I admit I want to cry. This is such a hard thing for me. Doesn't anyone know how hard I have tried to give my Dad and my children, and even my ex-husband all the support and care that I can possibly give? :(



FemmeDominion -> RE: I Admit It I........ (2/12/2012 1:18:02 PM)

[:D] Thanks Greedy.



needlesandpins -> RE: I Admit It I........ (2/12/2012 1:21:33 PM)

i admit Red that some people just don't get how insensitive they really are being. i work in care and see family members wracked with guilt because they promiced their loved one they'd never put them in a home. what people don't realise is what a drain it is mentaly and physically to look after another adult who isn't that mobile and independant anymore. i told my son that should i ever ask (some do not realising what and how much they are asking) him to promice he is to say no no matter how hurt by that i may seem. it's nothing to do with anyone else at all what you and your dad choose to do. do what is best for dad, and dispite what people think, residential care is often the best thing. if he's falling it's best for you both if you can't get in-home help. sod em all Red. ((((hugs)))) to both of you!

needles



impishlilhellcat -> RE: I Admit It I........ (2/12/2012 2:16:37 PM)

I admit I am craving vietnamese pho!

I admit it's hard Red when you have to deal with that type of situation. My mom and I went through some similar with my grandfather and it was absolutely heartbreaking. I hope that you find a good compromise for every one involved!





Daddysredhead -> RE: I Admit It I........ (2/12/2012 4:16:37 PM)

I admit thank you so very much, Needles and Impy.

I admit that I have been talking to Daddy this evening and we told my Manny what we've been thinking. Manny said I had no sense of putting my Dad first. My Dad told him to be quiet because it's not his choice. My Manny also said to be aware that my siblings are going to give me shit if we ever make the choice to put him in a nursing home. Again, my Dad said, send them to me & I will remind them who the head of this family is.

I admit I love him *warm fuzzies*

I admit that if I didn't love him, he would not have lived with me the past 10 years when the rest of my family has done nothing.

I admit that Thing 2's hammy has a tumor on its belly and is not long for this world.

I admit this day has been full of suck.



hausboy -> RE: I Admit It I........ (2/12/2012 5:40:40 PM)

I admit hugs to Red and her family.

I admit.... big breath here...

The entire phrase "put him in a home" should be abolished. There are decent alternatives today to homecare, and many insensitive folks just don't realize how incredibly difficult and draining it is to take care of a loved one 24/7. For years, my own mother refused to consider alternatives, she called her mother 3x a day, brought her dinner daily and medications, cleaned for her, did her finances, home repairs, bought her clothing, helped her with daily living needs. I could not believe the toll it took on her.

All because of guilt. Finally, as a family, we looked at the reality. The big picture was this--my grandmother needed care and supervision around the clock. None of us could be there all the time, and she was a danger to herself. We realized that not only would SHE not want to be like this, but she would hate the thought of being a burden on her own daughter.

We found a smaller assisted living that specialized in dementia (her primary diagnosis). She didn't want to go, but once in a place where she was safe, and there was less stimuli, she could finally relax. She had activities daily, 3 hot meals a day, and most importantly, lots of interaction with people, which she was not getting being home alone.

My grandmother is now 99 1/2. Her dementia has progressed significantly, but we know that she is somewhere where they are taking good care of her and watching out for her. My mom got her life back--she can finally go out for a dinner, have friends over, enjoy social activities--things she couldn't do when she was a caretaker.

The key for us was finding the right place. We visited about 5 different ones before we found one that took her insurance....and we felt it was a good fit. Her current place (we had to move her when the money ran out/medicaid only goes so far) has less than 20 residents, and most of the staff have been there for more than 10 years (a good sign). While my grandmother is completely out of it (in her world, it's 1908) she's at least in a happy place.




LillyBoPeep -> RE: I Admit It I........ (2/12/2012 6:36:13 PM)

I admit, my eyes are rolling clean out of my head. :p (not dirested at any one here)

To the people here, I'm sorry for the sad family situations...



dcnovice -> RE: I Admit It I........ (2/12/2012 7:10:26 PM)

I admit I saw Hugo tonight.

I admit it was enchanting.



JanahX -> RE: I Admit It I........ (2/12/2012 7:28:18 PM)

I Admit it: in my first 24 hours being back on FET, Ive been kicked out of two groups (i lasted a full hour in both) and had a thread I started ripped down. AAAaaahhhhhh...... I feel fulfilled.



tiggerspoohbear -> RE: I Admit It I........ (2/12/2012 8:11:15 PM)

I admit my most treasured Redalicious, you have done more for your dad in 10 yrs than the rest of your siblings have their entire lives (to my thinking).

I admit your dad realizes how much you love him, how you've made a home for him and he loves you for all of it, all the time you've taken, all the love you've given.

I admit THE HELL with those who don't understand, including the Manny, the relatives, the neighbors, the so-called friends, the decision is between no one but you and your dad.

I admit I lubs your dad for his sound decision making and he'll always be your dad, he'll always love you as you'll always love him.

I admit WTF is the Mouse thingie on the Grammys tonight? I swear I'm getting to old for this shit. [8|] Okay, include this menage chick too. Now I really remember why I listen to what I do, and I don't care if it's from 30+ yrs ago, it still makes sense to me.



kitkat105 -> RE: I Admit It I........ (2/12/2012 8:59:15 PM)

I admit I might be doing something extremely spontaneous this week before leaving the US.

I admit I keep nervously laughing about the idea...mainly because I can't think of a legitimate reason not to do it.



GreedyTop -> RE: I Admit It I........ (2/12/2012 9:38:53 PM)

sends love and hugs to Red and Dad.



LadyRedRose -> RE: I Admit It I........ (2/13/2012 1:08:55 AM)

i admit insomnia sucks dirty sweat sox and i hate it with a passion

i admit i finally found a classical music station on my cable tv system i can actually listen to!

i admit i was a bad girl and didn't follow most sheeple and watch the grammy show so i could "properly" mourn whitney houston. to hell with it, i feel sorry for her kid and that's about it. she had it all and snorted it away.

i admit hugs for the sorrows and smiles for the good things for all!



LillyBoPeep -> RE: I Admit It I........ (2/13/2012 1:30:10 AM)

I admit, I'm getting ready for work, and then it'll be off for more work at the store. Oy... This will be a long day.

I admit, my bed was some kind of amazing amazingness -- snuggly snuggle bed of doom times two.



ShaharThorne -> RE: I Admit It I........ (2/13/2012 4:22:32 AM)

I admit that I just woke up to sheet outside my window.

I admit that I hope this clears up before my meeting with my caseworker.

I admit that I ordered more yarn on ebay but its from Turkey and cheaper than what I usually get from China. Double the size skeins as well.

I admit that Lizard found a new job at a restaurant in Austin. She just needs to pick up some red polos and read the policies booklet (PDF file) online and then she will start working.

I admit that it is a decent place to work. She can ride the bus there from home.



impishlilhellcat -> RE: I Admit It I........ (2/13/2012 7:16:44 AM)

I admit I am trying to keep calm, while waiting for some news whether good or bad.

I admit I'm trying hard not to think about it.

I admit I'm hoping for some good news, but I'm trying not to get my hopes up too high it always backfires.

I admit all this talk of the sick, dying, and aging has made me realize I haven't seen grandma in awhile and I promptly called her to set up a visit.

I admit I'm proud of her after my grandfather died she just sat in the house and now she's quite busy during the week at the senior center, bowling, and discount lunching with the ladies.



LadyHibiscus -> RE: I Admit It I........ (2/13/2012 7:56:03 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: JanahX

I Admit it: in my first 24 hours being back on FET, Ive been kicked out of two groups (i lasted a full hour in both) and had a thread I started ripped down. AAAaaahhhhhh...... I feel fulfilled.



SEE!! We NEEDED YOU!!!

~beamage for Red~ It's not easy living on Planet Caregiver. Your Dad knows what's best for HIM.



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