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hausboy -> RE: I Admit It I........ (5/20/2012 11:57:50 AM)
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ORIGINAL: YSG
Dont come to me saying "Oh Geoff, you need to take responsibility". Fuck you. I take too much responsibility. I let others get away with their bullshit, and I blame myself. It is MY time to be angry, it is MY time to heal. Either help me or fuck off.
Do you remember what you typed in your previous posts that were pulled?
I admit (and I really am admitting here...) that when my best friend, lover, Domme and wife of 14 years skipped off, I went through all of the cycles of grief--many times. ONce the shock of it wore off and I came out of denial, the angry was heavy and suffocating. It made me lash out people who had nothing to do with the divorce.
Be angry at whomever you want. Ask for support and get what you need. I finally found some acceptance five years later. I looked at my role in the divorce, how I was accountable, "forgave" myself for my mistakes and eventually will able to forgive her for what she did to me. That helped me move on.
it takes time, and in my case, hours of therapy. I found out who my true friends are--and I also realized how I had pushed so many people away. I didn't go to ex-wife's circle of friends, or her facebook page or her business and cry on their shoulders about what a terrible bitch she is-- just think about what you say and where you say it.
But don't acted surprised when you demand "help me or fuck off" and you don't get the answer you were looking for....
I'm sorry you're hurting. I hope you get what you need.
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