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Free Time - 3/13/2006 5:09:51 AM

barelynangel

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How much free time do you give your slave to relax or for her to do personal hobbies/interests that are outside your own interests or to do things with her friends or lol peruse the message boards, chat online, read for pleasure, watch TV etc. or slaves how much time does your Master give you to have personal interests, friends, hobbies etc.

I am assuming most owned slaves here get freetime unless perusing messageboards is a task lol. Is freetime that is fit into your day? Is it mandatory from the Master ie even if you don't complete everything he wants done or you have to get done, does he required you to take a break? Is it a set time daily?

If you know your Master would like (not demand or order) but simply would like you to pick up a personal interest of his, do you see it as a task to learn it or become interested in it? Have you found yourself as your ownership progresses finding yourself losing your own interests and picking up more of his, do you find yourself trying to finish everything else even if you should be relaxing? Etc Etc Etc

Just a curious thought this morning.

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RE: Free Time - 3/13/2006 6:15:37 AM

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quote:

I am assuming most owned slaves here get freetime

you assumed wrongly.

My posessions do as I command. Any time not working or tending to the tasks and chores assigned is spent with the family as a unit wholly. Pursues are what I as the Mistress of the House enjoy and do and is shared by the family group as the interest wholly. Personal interests, friends, hobbies are all what ever My pursuits are as a whole for all. There is no such thing as free time for either My self or My posessions. When My Husbands/Masters were living it was what Their and My interests where as a whole that all others in the family persued. If Im online and My slaves are about and done doing whats expected of them they come beside Me and observe My presance online and We discuss whats being said or done wholly with Me at the helm. If Im away My First Slave is the One who stepps up to My place in My absence and does the head chores as I deem in My absence. Most all things with in My Homestone are done much the same way. Free Time is a phrase used in a D/s relationship for the most part and not one Ive seen used in a Gorean Home in real life nor online. We basically do all things together as a Family, Unit, Group, tightknit.
In other words its My way or the Highway.

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RE: Free Time - 3/13/2006 6:49:38 AM

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Dread i don't know what Gorean you know, but many relationships of Gor i talk to the girl does HAVE freetime. Even slaves in the books had freetime, where they were able to talk with friends etc. Whether it is called that or not was not a debate, this thread was not a debate thread so i don't care what its called, but the concept. And something tells me my assumption of a woman who is a slave posting on a message board is infact a time that could very well be deemed her free time concept. So i fail to see how that is not a Gor concept. As i have never seen your slaves or anyone identifying themselves as your slaves post, i guess my direction about posting on a message board would be moot in terms of your slaves.

Perhaps others will post differently and this thread will continue to be what it was intended to be, a nice thread of people sharing as part of their relationships without it being considered a "Gor" debate thread.

I look forward to hearing from others and seeing how households are run.

Thanks,

angel

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RE: Free Time - 3/13/2006 7:44:42 AM

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greetings and Tal
Well there is a big world out there so I understand a slave other responisbilities I have a few myself. That is the reality we all live in. I do understand the need for free time so I tend to be very open and all a slave the time she feels she needs. I do except her to come to me and discuss this with me prior to taking the time.

I wish you well

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RE: Free Time - 3/13/2006 7:45:42 AM

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Undoubtedly, no two Gorean Heads of House will be exactly alike. Where one may be like Miss Dread, a harsh task Master/Mistress that will allow no time for individual hobbies, others will lean to the other extreme, where the slave will literally sit upon pillows until called to please his/her Master/Mistress. Neither angel or Dread made absolute statements in their posts so I don't think it's so much that Dread is being confrontational as it is her being a Gorean HoH (Head of House/Homestone) and simply correcting a statement made. Lets just except it as a correction and move the thread al;ong, shall we?

As for me and mine, a slave of mine will ask for time to spend on a hobbie or personal interest away from me or the house. If it's something special, like going to a party thrown by friends or family, I may have her perform a special duty for the privilege. If it's something simple like merely writting to someone or calling a friend I would allow it as long as there is no pressing duty to be done. And as we all know, the larger the house, the more there will be to it's up keep.

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RE: Free Time - 3/13/2006 10:22:46 AM

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A slave may pursue her own interests and hobbies when she has completed her duties and the Free are not wanting for anything. She may have time to share with friends and family even. None of this is “Free Time’ but are matters I wish her to do to help balance her and help her grow to her fullest potential. I shall take an interest in all that she does and if necessary assist or help her in such things she requires assistance it for this too is part of my caring for her and my Mastery over her.

There is only one Free Time in House Iron Bear which happens at regular occasions and other special occasions if necessary. It is the time when the slave and her Master or Mistress (For personal collars) and me for House Slaves and we communicate. A slave may talk freely to me about what ever she wants or needs to freely but with respect at all times. She may even rant and rave and I will allow her to even try to belt the shit out of me to get the shutoff her liver and open up the real cause of the problem. This is where I search deep into her mind and soul. This is FREE TIME in House Iron Bear.

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RE: Free Time - 3/13/2006 11:14:33 AM

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Every house is different. There is personal time in my house but the slaves need to have accomplished their respective responsibilities. What they are allowed in their personal time is reflected and restricted by where they are in their training. The newest slave in our house doesn't get much personal time simply because she is still too new in her training for her to use the time responsibly.

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RE: Free Time - 3/13/2006 2:34:20 PM

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Greetings angel,

Free time here is normally while I wait for coffee to brew and himself is sleeping. Normally I am up before the auto timer, so must be patient (and quiet!)

Other then that, everything usually revolves around him and what his needs are at the current moment. However, Master also likes me to have time to myself. That could be on the weekend for a Ren Faire, or just sitting in the sunshine knitting a bit. He asks what my day has been like when he arrives home and makes it a point to find out what I did to relax. I am allowed to check message boards in between chores, which works out just fine. I'm somewhat anal about cleanliness in the home, so not long after we were together he told me that it was his wish I took some time to relax, (I think I made him nervous with all the scrubbing).

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Have you found yourself as your ownership progresses finding yourself losing your own interests and picking up more of his

It's funny about the interests, aside from Ren Faires (which Master detests), we are on the same wave length. Through wanting to please him, I have aquired a love for museums and fine art. It's something that never interested me before, but I can honestly say now, I am an art buff. Through my love of Broadway musicals, now Master has developed a taste for them! I don't think he will ever find Faires to his liking, but hey, the rest is in sync, so I'm not quibbling, lol

Thanks for the thought provoking topic, I needed a break today.

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RE: Free Time - 3/16/2006 10:03:03 PM

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Mine has a free day every sunday, a day in which she may do as pleases, or atleast is free of her chores and other household responsibilities. She is still available to me for whatever I may need her for however.
In order to earn her free Sunday, all other work and assignments must be done by curfew on saturday, no attitude incidents, etc.

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RE: Free Time - 3/17/2006 5:40:07 AM

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when i have a master i'm busy (if he
s local)
when i dont i'm not

unless he's outta state (which sux,don't think i can do that again)
then there's free time sorta

hey i'm irish and i'm wearing green

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RE: Free Time - 3/17/2006 6:52:05 AM

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ThankYou MrDiscipline44m for seeing what others seem to not.

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RE: Free Time - 3/17/2006 7:59:04 AM

allyC

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quote:

ORIGINAL: barelynangel
I am assuming most owned slaves here get freetime unless perusing messageboards is a task lol. Is freetime that is fit into your day? Is it mandatory from the Master ie even if you don't complete everything he wants done or you have to get done, does he required you to take a break? Is it a set time daily?

If you know your Master would like (not demand or order) but simply would like you to pick up a personal interest of his, do you see it as a task to learn it or become interested in it?

In my case, I'm not really micromanaged. Sometimes my owner leaves me a list of things to be done and sometimes he doesn't. It all depends on him.

As long as I do those things that he requires of me (which includes earning an income) I can choose how I spend my spare time. My owner was aware of my passion for painting, drawing, photography, guitar, piano, writing, etc. before he made me his own. These were parts of me that he found appealing and pleasing so he encourages me to pursue them often. He has even gone so far as to purchase some pretty amazing tools/equipment for my art. I am grateful and fortunate.

My spare time ceases to be "spare time" the moment he says, "ally, do such and such." Then I stop what I'm doing and do whatever it is he asks. Is pretty laid back and simple and works very well for us.

He understands that with art comes inspiration and that I can't very well schedule those times. He allows me the freedom to express myself artistically when I am moved to do so unless he has a desire or wish that takes priority and he lets me know.

As for picking up interests of his, I have done so many times. For example, my owner is an amazing marksman and firearms collector. When I first came to know him, I had no interest whatsoever. Now I shoot regularly and he has purchased 3 firearms for me that I can call "my own." Taking up this interest wasn't a task - it was a joy to be a part of something that he is and I felt honored and priveledged that he would wish for me to become involved in it with him.

There are a myriad of other interests of his that I have embraced and enjoyed more and more as the years pass. Any time he opens a door and allows me inside to something important to him is a wonderful thing for me.

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Have you found yourself as your ownership progresses finding yourself losing your own interests and picking up more of his, do you find yourself trying to finish everything else even if you should be relaxing? Etc Etc Etc

I haven't lost many of my interests but I have changed a great deal as a person. I have gained a broader understanding of myself because of his influence and his interests. I haven't found myself losing interests - I've simply found myself, period. *smiles*

Well wishes,

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