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RE: Is there a difference between spanking for punishme... - 11/27/2009 7:22:41 PM

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I am not the great paingiver. I do enjoy the dynamics of a good OTK handspanking. The capture, the strugle, the sounds, and finally the playing with her sensitive parts. Impact play with her chained down with her ass in the air and a spreader on i only do if i know that is her need. It can be exiting for me but i much prefer doing the aftercare. "Punishment" i see only as a part of carefull choreographed roleplay. The same goes for humiliation. But it can be a great fun in that setting.

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RE: Is there a difference between spanking for punishme... - 11/28/2009 9:02:41 PM

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My sub loves to be spanked. But he says that whips and floggers hurt more than paddles, which he loves. So would it be best to use a flogger or a whip when I am spanking him for punishment and discipline?
-Queen Penelope

Why would you use kink someone enjoys for punishment?
Personally the LAST THING a disobedient sub gets from me is kinky. One of the most evil punishments I've dolled out involved a dime and a wall. I never laid a hand on him and literally made him wish he was dead. Then kicked him to the curb like the trash he proved to be.

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RE: Is there a difference between spanking for punishme... - 11/28/2009 10:09:11 PM

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Why would you use kink someone enjoys for punishment?
Personally the LAST THING a disobedient sub gets from me is kinky. One of the most evil punishments I've dolled out involved a dime and a wall. I never laid a hand on him and literally made him wish he was dead. Then kicked him to the curb like the trash he proved to be.
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A dime and a wall? What do you mean?

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RE: Is there a difference between spanking for punishme... - 11/29/2009 2:47:15 AM

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In two and a half years, I've only had to punish clip twice. I think in most health dynamics that do include punishment, it shouldn't be necessary nearly as often as you'll read some people talking about it. I happen to be a sadist. I don't *need* some kind of infraction or unpleasing event to occur for Me to want to play. Both My boy and Myself enjoy S/m. Why would I want something negative to have to be a precedent to something that are positive activities for us?

I agree with LadyPact on this. I would add that I don't actually really punish my play partners. I prefer what I call a correction, ie: they didn't hold a door open for me so while we play I might grab their balls extra hard and look in their eyes and say "so umm... what about that door that you didn't open for me?" and then laugh and say something like "let's enforce how important this is" and then maybe I'd do something I know make them cringe. But in the end, it's just another way of communicating and it's all in good fun.

Then again, I don't have a paternalistic relationship with my boys, nor an owner/slave relationship. They are my partners and we have fun together in a way that is mutually pleasing. If they were to really get me mad, *punishment* usually is time away to think and reflect, followed by a talk.

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RE: Is there a difference between spanking for punishme... - 11/29/2009 2:49:44 AM

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A dime and a wall... It means Rose is cheap - I've always used a quarter!

Traditional corner time is when a sub is disciplined by being made to stand in a corner, hands down by his/her sides, not allowed to speak and usually not being spoken to, usually with his or her about-to-be-spanked and/or freshly spanked rump on display (pants and panties around their ankles, and frequently with the implement of their punishment being held in his or her hand. To ensure that he or she does not move, the sub's nose must be pressed into a corner.

A variant of this has the sub press a coin (a quarter for us generous types) to the wall during this time. Of course, this can be used even in rooms with no accessible corners.

A further variant - once during funishment, I made a spankee press two quarters to the wall with her nipples while she was in corner time.

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RE: Is there a difference between spanking for punishme... - 11/29/2009 3:07:01 AM

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funishment

fun + punishment?

Was that a typo or intended? Since the boys I play with have strong maso tendancies and love when I give them big challenges, what you just described would sound like "funishment" to them!

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RE: Is there a difference between spanking for punishme... - 11/29/2009 3:10:55 AM

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It was entirely intended and is a word that pops up here occasionally. It's using impact play and what would be considered serious punishment in the vanilla world, for fun purposes.

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RE: Is there a difference between spanking for punishme... - 11/29/2009 3:26:04 AM

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

It was entirely intended and is a word that pops up here occasionally. It's using impact play and what would be considered serious punishment in the vanilla world, for fun purposes.

I love it! I'm stealing it ;-)

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RE: Is there a difference between spanking for punishme... - 11/29/2009 8:14:53 AM

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

A dime and a wall... It means Rose is cheap - I've always used a quarter!

Traditional corner time is when a sub is disciplined by being made to stand in a corner, hands down by his/her sides, not allowed to speak and usually not being spoken to, usually with his or her about-to-be-spanked and/or freshly spanked rump on display (pants and panties around their ankles, and frequently with the implement of their punishment being held in his or her hand. To ensure that he or she does not move, the sub's nose must be pressed into a corner.

A variant of this has the sub press a coin (a quarter for us generous types) to the wall during this time. Of course, this can be used even in rooms with no accessible corners.

A further variant - once during funishment, I made a spankee press two quarters to the wall with her nipples while she was in corner time.

Not cheap just truely pissed off. Quarter would have been too easy for this situation. He had to stand nose against the wall, arms behind without clasping, and knees bent (think giant S against a wall) while we discussed his infraction and what motivated it. If the change moved we started over. Needless to say there is a free sub in Colorado that now knows hunting online for another mistress when you have a live one considering you for her collar is in no uncertain terms a bad idea!
By the end of our discussion he was begging me to "just beat him and get it over with". I was in no mood to bother.

As for the nipples and change thing, that's going in the database for later.

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RE: Is there a difference between spanking for punishme... - 11/29/2009 2:55:09 PM

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ORIGINAL: QueenPenelope

My sub loves to be spanked. But he says that whips and floggers hurt more than paddles, which he loves. So would it be best to use a flogger or a whip when I am spanking him for punishment and discipline?
-Queen Penelope

Depends on the type and depth of the infraction

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