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How do you make yourself original? - 3/14/2006 5:16:59 AM

barelynangel

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Here's one for the Men and slaves on the opposite end (i sorta saw something similar in one of the other forums and snatched the idea lol): Unfortunately, i realize lol owned slaves may not be able to relate, but if you ever have had too do the search thang before being owned, think of that?

MAsters of Gor, how do you approach slaves on the net (if you do) in forum such as these to 1) show your interest, 2) get her to respond, 3) make yourselves different than the 292032032937 other Men probably messaging her.

slaves how do you approach Masters of Gor to make yourself original, beg attention, and try and get him to respond?

on the flipside,

Masters, what does or doesn't have you responding to an email from a woman who wants your attention?

slaves, what does or doesn't have you responding to an email from a Man who wants to indicate his possible interest?

Thought it was an interesting subject to apply to Goreans who unfortunately have to utilize forums such as CM to find likeminded people for possible ownerships.

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RE: How do you make yourself original? - 3/14/2006 5:53:54 AM

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ORIGINAL: barelynangel
MAsters of Gor, how do you approach slaves on the net (if you do) in forum such as these to 1) show your interest, 2) get her to respond, 3) make yourselves different than the 292032032937 other Men probably messaging her.

1) I tell her what it was that I saw in her profile that caught my attention, usualy common ground in what we are seeking, but has been something as simply as enjoying the sense of humour she displayed in her journal. Occassionaly I respond to someone who's photo has caught my eye but who hasn't written a profile, in such circumstances I comment on the photo and make the point that there is no way to tell if she is what I am looking for but if she looks at my profile and likes what she sees then we can take it from there and she can tell me in mail what it is that she is seeking.

2) If there is enough common ground then she will respond. If she doesn't respond then there was maybe not as much in common as first appeared.

3) I do nothing special, just be myself. Honest, direct, polite where it is appropriate. I don't play games and I don't lie, that alone sets me appart from 90% of what seems to be out there on the net!

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Masters, what does or doesn't have you responding to an email from a woman who wants your attention?

If she has taken the time to send a mail and it is more than a single line then she almost always gets a responce, even if just "Thanks but you are not what I am seeking. Good luck in your search"

What doesn't work is her virtualy throwing herself at my feet in the first mail with "I have no limits master, do with me what you want", that red flags her as someone lost in a fantasy. She doesn't know me, I don't know her and yet she assumes I would be willing to take on a girl just on HER say so that she is worthy of wearing my collar? I think not! SSC it is not! Her submission is not enough, I need to see there is a girl worth taking the responcibility for!

What does work is some indication that she has read my profile and knows what she wants well enough to be able to see where the common ground is. She makes the effort to show herself in a good light whilst remaining REAL about things. Polite, considerate, inteligent. A sense of humour helps get me interested too.

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RE: How do you make yourself original? - 3/14/2006 6:33:29 AM

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I do not contact slaves much anymore, that task having been relegated to my fc. Since we are a polyamorous house it was detrimental for me personally contact them as they bonded more to me. This wasn't generally a problem with kajiri but caused problems when they were kajirae.

We do not attempt to make slaves respond. They will or they won't and if they have no interest then I have no interest in forcing them.

The fact that my fc contacts them seems to put a few of them more at ease and has the added benefit of nearly instantly revealing those that cannot handle a Mistress as well as a Master, despite what their profile says.

I agree with RavenMuse in that a slaves email must be thoughtful, respectful, and above all cautious. Slaves offering me themselves, or their daughters, and sending a slew of images to tempt me generally are ignored. We are not in it for the sex and are not tempted with naked pictures. These send up red flags immediately, as do slaves that are looking to disappear completely from the world because they cannot handle it. If a slave needs to be commanded and owned because she is incapable of taking care of herself/himself then more than likely they do not, at this time, possess the abilitiy to take care of their owners.

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RE: How do you make yourself original? - 3/14/2006 8:49:48 AM

IronBear

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MAsters of Gor, how do you approach slaves on the net (if you do) in forum such as these to 1) show your interest, 2) get her to respond, 3) make yourselves different than the 292032032937 other Men probably messaging her.

On the rare occasions I initiate contact with either Free/Dom/Domme, slave/sub or switch, it is because I enjoyed something in their Profile and especially the Goreans, if they live in my state, or because of something they posted on the boards (a reply to something I posted perhaps). There is less that a hand full of females identifying as slave in the CM profiles who live in my state, less still are those who identify as kajira and none who will accept either poly or my advanced age. Thus there is no point in making such approaches. <<Chuckles>> Besides which, I can check out any apparently suitable subs (for play partners) with a few good reliable folk which eliminates the problems..

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Masters, what does or doesn't have you responding to an email from a woman who wants your attention?

Generally, how the email is worded and the sense of objectivity and genuiness I feel after reading. However 100% of them haven’t thought things through enough to realize where I live and thus relocation is not really viable. I have met some great people though and still talk to them..

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RE: How do you make yourself original? - 3/14/2006 11:41:02 AM

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MAsters of Gor, how do you approach slaves on the net (if you do) in forum such as these to 1) show your interest

If I have an interest in someone I simply email the person with what it is that I have an interest in.

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2) get her to respond

I don't. Her responding shows me that she, in the least, has simple courtesy which then hieghtens both her value and potential as a slave. If she or others think that I have to do things to make her respond then obviously she or they are confused as to the type of person I am and the role I take in life.

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3) make yourselves different than the 292032032937 other Men probably messaging her.

I don't. I am different from eveyone else simply because no two people are exactly alike unless they are a twin. To my knowledge, I have no twin.

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Masters, what does or doesn't have you responding to an email from a woman who wants your attention?

Because I believe in being courteous, I respond to emails I get. Even if it's some sarcasstic, assinine girl who believes she too good to be Mastered. Though I do admit that said girl will most likely get the same type of email she has sent, in return. Otherwise, as long as they're cordial, so will I. I even respond to those one line emails. To me it's like passing someone on the street, if they say hello, I say hello back. If they're looking for a conversation, then it's upto them to hold up an end of it.

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RE: How do you make yourself original? - 3/14/2006 3:14:52 PM

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not all profiles make my belly burn,lol,*shrugs* some do and some don't
just like i'm sure not al Masters see 'slave'when they read mine.
i can only be myself*shrugs again and chuckles* one can only hope....one day

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RE: How do you make yourself original? - 3/17/2006 1:26:42 PM

Jaxiam

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I will admit a difficult question, seeing as I have not approached a slave in quite some time.

I do on occassion message Free/slaves found here in collarme. But usually only to remark upon a slight interest I found in their profile, or blog. Something that either caught my fancy or a feeling that I felt the desire to respond to. Answered or not, never bothered me. I send such things out of my own want. But in these things (as in approaching) I am just myself. Good, bad, or indiferent to that they may be. Myself I shall always remain.

If I am messaged, in most every case they get a response. The nature of the response will of course be equal to the politeness of the message. I dont want emails expressing undying love, I dont want pictures of how wonderful they are. Show me the mind first. We can work our way towards the heart, the passion, the soul of the person. I have time, I'm not impatient. If the tone of the message or contact indicates impatience, I begin to wonder if the calling to steel is a thing of instant gratification as opposed to the a lifelong calling.

a slave's burn should start slow and build. lets not fry the lil darlins to a crisp *chuckles*

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