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RE: Cuckold question? - 12/28/2009 7:05:51 PM   
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There is also the Hot Wife end of the spectrum. One I find distasteful but it occurs as well. This is more of a Male Dom led situation in which the wife is sub and is used by others at his directive.

Cuckolding is Female Led Relationship based. Although I know of cuck couples in which the husband pays for the dates, clothes, even trips for his wife and her lovers. This is not uncommon at all, however, it is not his only purpose in her life. There is a wide spectrum of cuckolding relationships and it is based on what works for each individual couple themselves regarding the relationship. There is always some form of an emotional relationship involved even if only one sided regarding the cuck loving his Cuckoldress. I find those that I've known in that type of dynamic rarely last long term. (Gawwwwd....I hope not!)

What you are describing is voyeurism and akin to prostitution once money is involved.





Peewee that was in reference to when the love was not reciprocated


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RE: Cuckold question? - 12/28/2009 7:08:56 PM   
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Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.

(My bad).

(Never mind then....)

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RE: Cuckold question? - 12/28/2009 7:10:45 PM   
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Peewee that was in reference to when the love was not reciprocated



your quoting sucks too.

Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.

(My bad).


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RE: Cuckold question? - 12/28/2009 7:14:12 PM   
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(Cuckolding is the BEST relationship :) )

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RE: Cuckold question? - 12/28/2009 7:22:07 PM   
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(Cuckolding is the BEST relationship :) )


This is very true!


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RE: Cuckold question? - 12/28/2009 7:28:22 PM   
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JAYUS!!!!!

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RE: Cuckold question? - 12/28/2009 7:31:34 PM   
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There is also the Hot Wife end of the spectrum. One I find distasteful but it occurs as well. This is more of a Male Dom led situation in which the wife is sub and is used by others at his directive.

Cuckolding is Female Led Relationship based. Although I know of cuck couples in which the husband pays for the dates, clothes, even trips for his wife and her lovers. This is not uncommon at all, however, it is not his only purpose in her life. There is a wide spectrum of cuckolding relationships and it is based on what works for each individual couple themselves regarding the relationship. There is always some form of an emotional relationship involved even if only one sided regarding the cuck loving his Cuckoldress. I find those that I've know in that type of dynamic rarely last long term.

What you are describing is voyeurism and akin to prostitution once money is involved.



Why would you find this distasteful, but ok if the cuckold is a male?


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RE: Cuckold question? - 12/28/2009 7:44:11 PM   
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Why would you find this distasteful, but ok if the cuckold is a male?


Well I find it distasteful because

A. I'm a FemDom

B. It goes deeper than humiliation.

Basically the female that is getting fucked in the Hot Wife scenario is a sub and doesn't have a say in who or what occurs. In a male cuck he isn't getting sexually used.. He's watching or participating of his own volition.


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RE: Cuckold question? - 12/28/2009 7:46:13 PM   
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One reason for these questions is because, I keep hearing from both sides that either there are no real cuckolds or/and no real cuckoldress.

Well, I don't know who you are hearing that from, but I can promise you that it isn't the case.

Best wishes to you.


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RE: Cuckold question? - 12/28/2009 7:47:19 PM   
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Ms. Mlicious often asks me what would be worse...hearing it, seeing it, or just hearing about it later. I don't really have an answer. They are all excruciating in their own ways.
Vamp, you could not be more wrong. I am a cuckold to a fantastic cuckoldress, whether you believe it or not.
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@slavekal

Often it is simply his knowing that I'm on a date that can be as humiliating or more so than if he was right there in the room. It's very much a psychological thing, But the emotional attachment has to be present or it's no different than watching porn.




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RE: Cuckold question? - 12/28/2009 8:02:08 PM   
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Ms. Mlicious often asks me what would be worse...hearing it, seeing it, or just hearing about it later. I don't really have an answer. They are all excruciating in their own ways.
Vamp, you could not be more wrong. I am a cuckold to a fantastic cuckoldress, whether you believe it or not.
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@slavekal

Often it is simply his knowing that I'm on a date that can be as humiliating or more so than if he was right there in the room. It's very much a psychological thing, But the emotional attachment has to be present or it's no different than watching porn.





Yes they all have their own unique brands of suffering. I have to say I have always seen the two of you as one of the most successful cuck couples around here. A real rarity and I always appreciate hearing your view whenever this subject comes up.


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RE: Cuckold question? - 12/29/2009 10:33:41 AM   
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Wow...thanks. She is out of town right now, clubbing and flirting her sweet little ass off In NYC. For whatever reason, we have made cuckolding work while some (I hear) have trouble doing so. We know another couple who are also into the cuckolding lifestyle. I think they make it work too.

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RE: Cuckold question? - 12/29/2009 11:32:50 AM   
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Just had to smile at this. you two are truly awesome! 

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RE: Cuckold question? - 1/4/2010 5:15:09 PM   
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I heard it defined as a voluntary demotion of status with one's wife or lover.  By allowing your wife to humiliate you by flaunting her sexual intercourse while you do nothing except perhaps watch is a very submissive action.

These days, as women become more sexually adventurous and less inhibited, I would suppose that this behavior is more common. 

Of course a cuckold can be a man whose wife is cheating on him, and he knows nothing about it, and would strenuously object to it if he found out.  Often, it is common knowledge among the woman's friends, who then treat the cuckold with scorn and humiliation, if not pity.

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RE: Cuckold question? - 1/5/2010 7:40:39 AM   
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I would suspect most need to look up the history of cuckolding and how it came about. What it is today is not how it was born.  Now days, most males are self-proclaiming to be cucks and actively looking for sex partners for their wives...sometimes, the wives aren't even aware of what their mates are doing. The male in turn tells the wife he is interested in seeing her w/ someone b/c he is "not worthy to have sex" with her.  Cuckolding is the "submissive male's domination of his wife"...

If a male was not MADE a cuck, then he is NOT a cuck...he is just a male voyeur.

Analyze for yourself...


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RE: Cuckold question? - 1/5/2010 4:30:32 PM   
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Not always. Mistress Mlicious fantasized about a cuckold relationship since she was a little girl. Of course, she didn't know the term for it at the time. It took quite a lot of struggle and courage finding to actually go through with it. Most of the Mistresses I have been involved with were either cuckoldresses, or they were at least interested in it...without any encouragement from me. For some reason, that is the kind of woman I seem to attract.

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RE: Cuckold question? - 1/5/2010 7:50:48 PM   
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I'm interested to know how soon in the relationship the cuckolding thing started...

{I have this thing where I say, OH, I am not into XYZ, then I remember that I have actually DONE it...yanno... I am guessing that the thing where I was fucking M while H was tied to a chair next to the bed is a cuck scene, huh? AND double duty since M was so hot to have an audience!} {Yes, I am a Very Considerate Dom}

Anyway. As one of those poly type folks, I make it clear that I will be beating ass whenever it takes my fancy, and being with ONE playmate forever is not my thing. The same goes for well... everything else. I am violently loyal, just not monogamous. Still, when I am in the new parts of a relationship with a person, I am not the butterfly going from flower to flower, if you will. (Sorry, Yul) What do you do if you hook up with someone and find that you are just not all that INTERESTED in finding some strange for awhile? Is there some kind of time limit involved, where the cuck is saying "Um, honey? That nice mortgage broker in the office next door to yours? Why don't you set up a nooner?" How soon before the lady would feel like she pretty much HAD to go hook up?







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RE: Cuckold question? - 1/5/2010 8:38:42 PM   
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I would also like to know if there are men out there that identify as cuckolds that would be willing to pay in order to watch a couple have intercourse? Or does he need the female who is engaging in the sexual act to be his actual girlfriend?

Would a self proclaimed cuckold be willing to enter into a relationship in which he is more or less a sugar daddy who instead of paying to play, would be paying to watch?


There are certainly men who would pay to watch a couple have intercourse.  There is an entire industry dedicated to this.  It's called pornography.

If the female is not his actual girlfriend, then how is he a cuckold? 

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RE: Cuckold question? - 1/6/2010 4:08:08 PM   
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Anyway. As one of those poly type folks, I make it clear that I will be beating ass whenever it takes my fancy, and being with ONE playmate forever is not my thing. The same goes for well... everything else. I am violently loyal, just not monogamous. Still, when I am in the new parts of a relationship with a person, I am not the butterfly going from flower to flower, if you will. (Sorry, Yul) What do you do if you hook up with someone and find that you are just not all that INTERESTED in finding some strange for awhile? Is there some kind of time limit involved, where the cuck is saying "Um, honey? That nice mortgage broker in the office next door to yours? Why don't you set up a nooner?" How soon before the lady would feel like she pretty much HAD to go hook up?


I suppose there can be a difference.  I enjoy being the cuckold only when She makes the decision to bed another.  In one relationship where I lived with her, she had a bedroom downstairs where she would bring home a man.  I'd know not to go downstairs unless she came home empty-handed, so to speak.  She didn't especially like me to watch, but it was impossible not to listen to them.  It was very humiliating since I was not allowed to have intercourse with anyone except her.  Obviously, hearing her with her lover would make me very hot.  Sometimes she would get him to go, and make me clean her up orally.  Then she would have her way with me, sometimes allowing me to have sex with her, sometimes not.

I have no idea what the neighbors thought. 

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RE: Cuckold question? - 1/7/2010 1:28:24 AM   
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I had a couple pay me to humiliate the husband and cuckold him, the wife to service me and become my sex toy, while the husband enjoyed the feeling of being a sub he felt more in control when he coughed the money. It helped him alleviate any fear that this thing was going on beyond his control, he felt that since he paid for it, it will never happen again unless he paid again so he can call the shots.

Boy was he wrong, he was such a good sub that he spent all his money buying his wife quality time with me. It was fun while it lasted but the wife turned into a size queen and the husband had to turn to his fleshlight.

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