Collarchat.com

Create a
Free Account
As the Collar Turns:
Collarchat.com - BDSM Forum

Home  Login  Search 
Espanol  Deutsch  Francais  Italiano  Portugues 

Cuckold question?


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Submissive/Slave >> Cuckold question? Page: [1] 2 3   next >   >>
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
Cuckold question? - 12/5/2009 7:47:36 PM   
vamp33604


Posts: 23
Joined: 7/12/2008
Status: offline
I am interested in finding out if there are men out there that claim to be cuckolds that really only want to watch two people having sex? Because, there are so many definitions of a what a cuckold and or cuckold relationship is, I thought that I would inquire due to me really wanting to know the answer to this question.

I would also like to know if there are men out there that identify as cuckolds that would be willing to pay in order to watch a couple have intercourse? Or does he need the female who is engaging in the sexual act to be his actual girlfriend?

Would a self proclaimed cuckold be willing to enter into a relationship in which he is more or less a sugar daddy who instead of paying to play, would be paying to watch?

And if that man is only interested in watching and not participating, what type of woman is he looking for to fulfill his voyeurism fantasy?

One reason for these questions is because, I keep hearing from both sides that either there are no real cuckolds or/and no real cuckoldress.
Profile   Post #: 1
RE: Cuckold question? - 12/5/2009 8:01:55 PM   
Lockit


Posts: 11292
Joined: 5/7/2007
Status: offline
I don't know where you are getting your information. Of course there are men who are into watching their spouse with another, but it is far more than watching and each might get a bit of something out of it that another might not. But there are relationships like this. If you are looking for a sugar daddy that just watches you have sex, you are talking about a different thing altogether. I won't speak for those who are into it because I am not into it and would surely say something out of line... but they are out there, they are real and they are active in their relationships.

Do a search on the topic... you will see many who are into this.

_____________________________

No matter how old a woman gets, some men will think she was born yesterday! ROFL... I love this place!


(in reply to vamp33604)
Profile   Post #: 2
RE: Cuckold question? - 12/5/2009 9:57:10 PM   
OralCuckGurl


Posts: 65
Joined: 8/1/2009
Status: offline
There are indeed real cuckolds (I aspire to be just that). For me, money has nothing to do with it. Whether she would allow me to watch has nothing to do with it (though I admit that I would enjoy that). For me, it simply affirms her superiority and power. Dainty Curtsey, Stacey

(in reply to Lockit)
Profile   Post #: 3
RE: Cuckold question? - 12/5/2009 11:31:00 PM   
liks2plzlf


Posts: 390
Joined: 7/21/2005
Status: offline
I have been noticing more profiles lately from dominant women, with cuckolding somewhere in their lists of desires. It seemed to be more of a male submissive's fantasy, no very long ago

(in reply to OralCuckGurl)
Profile   Post #: 4
RE: Cuckold question? - 12/5/2009 11:41:29 PM   
Underumam


Posts: 485
Joined: 12/18/2008
Status: offline
I have no idea what the thrill of being a cuck would be. To each thier own I guess..

(in reply to liks2plzlf)
Profile   Post #: 5
RE: Cuckold question? - 12/6/2009 12:49:19 AM   
Acer49


Posts: 1434
Joined: 8/7/2009
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: vamp33604

I am interested in finding out if there are men out there that claim to be cuckolds that really only want to watch two people having sex? Because, there are so many definitions of a what a cuckold and or cuckold relationship is, I thought that I would inquire due to me really wanting to know the answer to this question.

I would also like to know if there are men out there that identify as cuckolds that would be willing to pay in order to watch a couple have intercourse? Or does he need the female who is engaging in the sexual act to be his actual girlfriend?

Would a self proclaimed cuckold be willing to enter into a relationship in which he is more or less a sugar daddy who instead of paying to play, would be paying to watch?

And if that man is only interested in watching and not participating, what type of woman is he looking for to fulfill his voyeurism fantasy?

One reason for these questions is because, I keep hearing from both sides that either there are no real cuckolds or/and no real cuckoldress.



I am not sure where you are getting your definitions from. a cuckold refers to a S.O. watch his partner engage in a sexual act. I person who watches to other people have sex is associated with the term voyeur. If you are looking for someone to pay you, you may need to find out if this act consitutes prostitution or not.

_____________________________

Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself.
Harvey Fierstein

(in reply to vamp33604)
Profile   Post #: 6
RE: Cuckold question? - 12/6/2009 3:35:05 AM   
vamp33604


Posts: 23
Joined: 7/12/2008
Status: offline
Thank you all for your comments.

(in reply to vamp33604)
Profile   Post #: 7
RE: Cuckold question? - 12/6/2009 4:24:19 PM   
antipode


Posts: 1787
Joined: 4/19/2004
Status: offline
quote:

Thank you all for your comments.


Ah - the not-a-conversation syndrome.

But I concur with others, cuckolding is where the male is made to watch his SO have sex with another. It is one of those rather narrowly defined things. The scenarios you sketch have nothing to do with cuckolding.

(in reply to vamp33604)
Profile   Post #: 8
RE: Cuckold question? - 12/6/2009 4:36:39 PM   
hazze


Posts: 9
Joined: 8/22/2008
Status: offline
My understanding is the same as the guys here.
Cuckolds are in a serious relationship were their parnter has sex with other people.
I think its quite an old style submissive fantasy. That the Dominat partner humiliates the submissive by behaving in such a way possibly in front of them.

The key part is the bond between partners and the humiliation of one parnter by breaking that bond in front of them.

I agree that watching other people have sex is just voyerism.

But I guess if someone wanted to experience an element of being a cuck they could develop a bond with someone, act like a sugar daddy etc, then that have that person humiliate them by having sex with them in front of other people. Its arguable its the same thing, but if it gets them of then I guess it works.

Personally its never done anything for me. But there must be people who get of on it.

(in reply to antipode)
Profile   Post #: 9
RE: Cuckold question? - 12/6/2009 7:54:01 PM   
CougarStud


Posts: 105
Joined: 7/24/2009
Status: offline
I've had 2 men proposition me to hole them in cuckold.  They would pay the bills, treat me like a queen as long as my bedroom had a revoling door of men coming and going.

1. guy #1 wanted to be the cum disposal unit for the Bull

2.  guy #2 just  wanted a show and some humiliation by me.







< Message edited by CougarStud -- 12/6/2009 7:55:45 PM >

(in reply to hazze)
Profile   Post #: 10
RE: Cuckold question? - 12/22/2009 7:42:19 AM   
rubbertrevor


Posts: 2
Joined: 12/22/2009
Status: offline
i am looking for a sub in a cockold couple to domminate, and use ....

(in reply to liks2plzlf)
Profile   Post #: 11
RE: Cuckold question? - 12/28/2009 12:00:11 AM   
guntercuk


Posts: 2
Joined: 11/24/2008
Status: offline
To me being a cuckold can only happen when you are in a true loving relationship

For the Dominant it should be the ultimate in power over her devoted sub

To the sub it would be the ultimate acceptance of that devotion

Money only makes a mockery of a very personal feeling between a couple, its much more intimate than that.

The truth is you cant be cuckolded by someone you don't have real feelings for & visa versa.

Just my thoughts

(in reply to vamp33604)
Profile   Post #: 12
RE: Cuckold question? - 12/28/2009 1:19:11 AM   
SDFemDom4cuck


Posts: 2682
Joined: 5/23/2005
From: Illinois
Status: online
There is also the Hot Wife end of the spectrum. One I find distasteful but it occurs as well. This is more of a Male Dom led situation in which the wife is sub and is used by others at his directive.

Cuckolding is Female Led Relationship based. Although I know of cuck couples in which the husband pays for the dates, clothes, even trips for his wife and her lovers. This is not uncommon at all, however, it is not his only purpose in her life. There is a wide spectrum of cuckolding relationships and it is based on what works for each individual couple themselves regarding the relationship. There is always some form of an emotional relationship involved even if only one sided regarding the cuck loving his Cuckoldress. I find those that I've know in that type of dynamic rarely last long term.

What you are describing is voyeurism and akin to prostitution once money is involved.


_____________________________

Ms Jo

She dealt her pretty words like Blades -
How glittering they shone -
And every One unbared a Nerve
Or wantoned with a Bone -

I want a sensitive man - one who'll cry when I hit him.

(in reply to vamp33604)
Profile   Post #: 13
RE: Cuckold question? - 12/28/2009 9:37:42 AM   
servilething


Posts: 6
Joined: 12/24/2009
Status: offline
The feelings I like being cuckolded are from the jealousy. The normal possessive feeling has to be there to be violated. If I didn't have that sharp pang of distress, it wouldn't matter if she was doing with someone else what I associated with our intimate bond. The more I care about being with her, the more intense it feels when she is intimate with another. I have to be in love with her to be jealous. I have to be jealous to get turned on seeing her with someone else. Then it is very exciting. I have the same feelings that men normally do in response to their mate being interested in someone else, but it happens to turn me on tremendously. Watching other people have sex is OK. It can be pretty good, or it can be boring. For me the point isn't to see people having sex. It's not watching just to watch. It's the emotional pain that feels good.

(in reply to vamp33604)
Profile   Post #: 14
RE: Cuckold question? - 12/28/2009 11:15:54 AM   
switch2please


Posts: 494
Joined: 12/5/2008
Status: offline
This raises a question of the level of involvement: are the observed getting anything out of it, or is it all for the benefit of the observer?
A cuckold relationship would have to have an element of humiliation involved. The observer would watch me with another man or woman and realize their "inadequacies". If there's no humiliation, it's a different dynamic - that's the difference between cuckolding and voyeurism (for me - I don't expect everyone feels the same way).

(Same with crossdressing for me - if he feels humiliated wearing women's clothing and is obviously ashamed that he likes being treated like a sissy slut, then I enjoy treating him like a sissy slut. If he's trans and wears women's clothes because he likes it and enjoys identifying with that part of his personality, then I enjoy interacting with him woman-to-woman. Without either of these emotional investments in the persona, it's just a guy in a skirt, and that does nothing for me.)

(in reply to servilething)
Profile   Post #: 15
RE: Cuckold question? - 12/28/2009 11:46:51 AM   
slavekal


Posts: 1486
Joined: 7/20/2004
Status: offline
I am a cuckold who relishes the humiliation of the blatant double standard.  I do not necessarily need to see two people have sex.  So far, I have not seen Mistress having actual intercourse, although I have heard her.  She called me so that I could listen.  And I do have to have a connection with the lady, or else I would not care what she does. 

_____________________________

"The Courage to Submit: the submissive male's guide to finding a dominant woman"
http://www.lulu.com/product/paperback/the-courage-to-submit-the-guide-for-the-submissive-male-seeking-a-dominant-woman/5968917

(in reply to vamp33604)
Profile   Post #: 16
RE: Cuckold question? - 12/28/2009 1:07:02 PM   
SDFemDom4cuck


Posts: 2682
Joined: 5/23/2005
From: Illinois
Status: online
@slavekal

Often it is simply his knowing that I'm on a date that can be as humiliating or more so than if he was right there in the room. It's very much a psychological thing, But the emotional attachment has to be present or it's no different than watching porn.


_____________________________

Ms Jo

She dealt her pretty words like Blades -
How glittering they shone -
And every One unbared a Nerve
Or wantoned with a Bone -

I want a sensitive man - one who'll cry when I hit him.

(in reply to slavekal)
Profile   Post #: 17
RE: Cuckold question? - 12/28/2009 1:12:32 PM   
SDFemDom4cuck


Posts: 2682
Joined: 5/23/2005
From: Illinois
Status: online
This raises a question of the level of involvement: are the observed getting anything out of it, or is it all for the benefit of the observer?  I have never done it for him or his benefit. I do it because I want to. I do it because I can. I do it because his humiliation and suffering turn me on to no end.

A cuckold relationship would have to have an element of humiliation involved. The observer would watch me with another man or woman and realize their "inadequacies". If there's no humiliation, it's a different dynamic - that's the difference between cuckolding and voyeurism (for me - I don't expect everyone feels the same way).

Without an emotional attachment between the two humiliation won't be an aspect.

Edited because I cant quote worth a crap evidently!




< Message edited by SDFemDom4cuck -- 12/28/2009 1:16:29 PM >


_____________________________

Ms Jo

She dealt her pretty words like Blades -
How glittering they shone -
And every One unbared a Nerve
Or wantoned with a Bone -

I want a sensitive man - one who'll cry when I hit him.

(in reply to switch2please)
Profile   Post #: 18
RE: Cuckold question? - 12/28/2009 1:20:13 PM   
sissyshoefetish


Posts: 105
Joined: 5/6/2008
Status: offline
 
[/quote]

I am not sure where you are getting your definitions from. a cuckold refers to a S.O. watch his partner engage in a sexual act. I person who watches to other people have sex is associated with the term voyeur. If you are looking for someone to pay you, you may need to find out if this act consitutes prostitution or not.
[/quote]

This cerrtainly is not my understanding of the term cuckold nor one i have ever seen used in fiction or on other sites - the dictionary definition seems simply to be a partner to an unfaithful  partner, and probably knowing this is the case.
There seems to be no requirement to have actually watched though this is the inevitable humiliation that cuckoldry might lead to.
i think to suggest that if you are complicit in your partners infidelity but do not watch, you are not a cuckold, is somewhat picky and it would mean we'd need a new word for that situation.

(in reply to Acer49)
Profile   Post #: 19
RE: Cuckold question? - 12/28/2009 7:01:37 PM   
LookieNoNookie


Posts: 11528
Joined: 8/9/2008
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: SDFemDom4cuck

There is also the Hot Wife end of the spectrum. One I find distasteful but it occurs as well. This is more of a Male Dom led situation in which the wife is sub and is used by others at his directive.

Cuckolding is Female Led Relationship based. Although I know of cuck couples in which the husband pays for the dates, clothes, even trips for his wife and her lovers. This is not uncommon at all, however, it is not his only purpose in her life. There is a wide spectrum of cuckolding relationships and it is based on what works for each individual couple themselves regarding the relationship. There is always some form of an emotional relationship involved even if only one sided regarding the cuck loving his Cuckoldress. I find those that I've known in that type of dynamic rarely last long term. (Gawwwwd....I hope not!)

What you are describing is voyeurism and akin to prostitution once money is involved.



(in reply to SDFemDom4cuck)
Profile   Post #: 20
Page:   [1] 2 3   next >   >>
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Submissive/Slave >> Cuckold question? Page: [1] 2 3   next >   >>
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2014
Collarchat.com is a member of the Free Speech Coalition
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.156