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Hard time - 12/27/2009 9:56:58 PM

XXlittlegirlXX

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I'm having a hard time finding a Mistress down here in south florida area. Are their other sites like this one with the same concept? I am a lost little girl still,and i know it'll take some time.. but it's taking much longer then expected. I'm also not looking for a pro... so... suggestions anyone,please?

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RE: Hard time - 12/28/2009 5:20:41 AM

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(1) Get a real profile. Your profile looks like a typical beginning male sub profile, in that it lists kinks but doesn't say anything about who you are as a person. You also don't make any useful mention of why a dominant should choose you -- what do you bring to the table?

(2) Google for "BDSM" and the name of your town. There is a ton of BDSM stuff in your area. Look for munches and workshops and meet real people.

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RE: Hard time - 12/28/2009 5:30:31 AM

SweetPoosy

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What Drifa said.

Another thing is, having a "switch" profile may turn some Dommes off, or may make you not even show up in their search if they only put in sub. I know that when I was actively searching, I only put in that I wanted a Dom, not a switch, therefore, I didn't get any in my search. Also, hopefully you are sending out cmails to Dommes who look interesting in your area...making sure that you send a PROPER cmail, NOT a one-liner.

Good luck finding your Mistress.

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RE: Hard time - 12/28/2009 7:11:27 AM

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I'm going to echo what has been said here. Your profile doesn't look real, at all. In fact, I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt by writing to you, but you do not inspire me to believe that you are legit with your profile, at all. I'm convinced that most well-balanced people who look at it are having the same instinctual impression.

And I find it interesting that they say it looks like a sub boy's profile, as you state you are a girl. Just that speaks volumes.

While far from perfect, you introduction thread would be a good starting point: http://www.collarchat.com/m_2948057/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#2948057

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RE: Hard time - 12/28/2009 7:35:30 AM

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Get out there.

The fact that you ask about other sites is telling. Turn off the puter and go to munches and local groups.

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RE: Hard time - 12/28/2009 8:09:59 AM

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Get out there.

The fact that you ask about other sites is telling. Turn off the puter and go to munches and local groups.

And if you don't want to go to munches and local groups (contrary to what many people think, that isn't the only option) make sure your profile is approachable and detailed.

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RE: Hard time - 12/28/2009 8:44:23 AM

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If you're having a hard time finding someone in South Florida it's you...not the location or anything else. South Florida has a HUGE kinky community...I know...I'm here.

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