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RE: How We Transitioned From Monogamy To Poly - 2/27/2010 2:13:04 AM

Vendaval

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Lady Pact,

Thank you for sharing your wisdom and experience. And kudos to the other persons adding to the discussion.

This House Rule jumped out as I read the post, as being an often over-looked component.

"Problems between us would be settled between us, without putting someone else in the middle."

Few experiences are as aggravating and futile as being stuck in the middle of a disagreement that has nothing to do with you!

IME, the result is that everyone looses and no one wins.

I will add that being poly is a process not a goal or an end result and that persons and relationships are always changing and evolving. Rules and guidelines are very important but so are flexibility and the ability to adapt to changing circumstances.

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RE: How We Transitioned From Monogamy To Poly - 2/27/2010 10:14:52 AM

PrincessDonna

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Lady Pact,A very good post,I think people often forget that this lifestyle is a growth process too and poly can be a part of that,advice taken can too!1 Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

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RE: How We Transitioned From Monogamy To Poly - 3/1/2010 2:44:23 AM

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My Wife and I had been having some problems with emotional support. I am very strict, and loving to my pets, but I do not understand prolonged emotions very well... (i use the word understand because i do not know a better word for it, I know there is one.)

WE brought in another love/sub. I have always been poly, ever since i was in my early teens learning about sex, I always had multiple lovers, and was very open about it. I was also respectful! My Wife then found her niche. she needed the loveing support that only a woman, or feminine male could give her. and we switched to being fully poly.

thanks how it happened with me.

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RE: How We Transitioned From Monogamy To Poly - 4/21/2011 8:42:50 AM

Raenam602

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Thank you for writing this. W/we have discussed this a bit because of our situation. I never knew it would be called "poly". I just new that I felt comfortable adding another female and he did too, granted not just any female.

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RE: How We Transitioned From Monogamy To Poly - 4/27/2011 2:15:28 PM

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Thank you for a clear view into the workings of your style of poly.

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RE: How We Transitioned From Monogamy To Poly - 5/10/2011 8:59:10 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
I tend to think that open and poly are actually two different type of dynamics. Poly for us is based on love and family structure, where open relationships can be something as simple as those who want a variety of sexual encounters.

A friend of mine boiled it down this way: Poly is family, open is recreation

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