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Road Map to Respect - 3/21/2006 7:00:38 PM

starshineowned

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Greetings..~smiles~

Over the years as I've become more intune with myself, and furthered my path into consentual slavery..I've noticed sort of milestones if you will of Attitude change.

"Respect is defined as a Attitude not requiring deference, and is not a behaviour."

In the vanilla world my Attitude towards other people was very suspicious, and uncaring really, and this showed in my social behavior when in contact with them. Basically, if you were not doing something for me then I had no need of you. There was no real room for earning my respect ..only tolerance.

In the beginnings of discovering the slave within..the Attitude of Respect towards other people changed to a different level. One of I will show Respect towards you if you Earn it from me..only in your actions and not your words.

Up until just alittle over a year ago it had evolved again to the point that I would show other people Respect first without them having done a thing..but if they did something which I felt negatively about..then that Respect was gone, and doubtful ever coming back.

This Attitude of Respect was always about other people until Master took me.

Today it has yet changed again in that the Attitude of Respect is not about people in this lifestyle..but for the lifestyle itself, and all that it means. This has almost been a major release and revolution for me personally in that by Respecting that which so many of us have jumped through hoops, and struggled to have in order to be away from that so-called vanilla normalcy..I no longer have as much of those trivial inner struggles of deciding who gets or deserves Respect. By Respecting this Lifestyle..I know that by entering into it as a slave, I have chosen of free will to accept the responsibility of living up to the basics of what being a slave is, that for the most part has been long standing, and truely across the board. Once Owned it becomes even more defined as the Owners demands are also present.

That has been my path in Attitude of Respect, and I was wondering if others have noticed a path over their lives and into this Lifestyle?

Thankyou in Advance

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RE: Road Map to Respect - 3/21/2006 8:01:36 PM

SabrinaRising

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starshine,

This was eloquent, direct and about as categorically true as one can get on such a hard to define word as: Respect.

Thank you.

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RE: Road Map to Respect - 3/22/2006 11:33:57 PM

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I've used up my quota of words today so I'll just say "I Concur. Well put."

< Message edited by IronBear -- 3/22/2006 11:34:28 PM >

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RE: Road Map to Respect - 3/23/2006 5:28:57 AM

sunshine333

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hi starshine ... it seems like you're really onto something here ... only i don't treuly understand what you're saying. :( i hate to sound dumb ... especially publicly. lol. but would you mind rephrasing your, what sounds like a, revelation?

humbly,
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RE: Road Map to Respect - 3/23/2006 6:33:18 AM

MrDiscipline44

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Let me see if I can help you, sunshine. If I miss the mark, someone step in and let me know.

quote:

In the vanilla world my Attitude towards other people was very suspicious, and uncaring really, and this showed in my social behavior when in contact with them. Basically, if you were not doing something for me then I had no need of you. There was no real room for earning my respect ..only tolerance.

Here, star is saying that, before she felt her slave belly, she respected no one. I know that you most likely already understand this part, but I'm giving a step by step, comprehansive analysis. So have a seat, sit up straight and eyes forward, please.

quote:

In the beginnings of discovering the slave within..the Attitude of Respect towards other people changed to a different level. One of I will show Respect towards you if you Earn it from me..only in your actions and not your words.

As she began to feel her slave belly, star began to understand that she would have to respect others. Most likely for social growth. But in the begining stages, she only respected those that would prove they deserved respect.

quote:

Up until just alittle over a year ago it had evolved again to the point that I would show other people Respect first without them having done a thing..but if they did something which I felt negatively about..then that Respect was gone, and doubtful ever coming back.

In this part of her evolution, star began to respect people upon first meeting them. As long as the person in question did nothing to dishonor themselves, she would continue to respect them.

quote:

Today it has yet changed again in that the Attitude of Respect is not about people in this lifestyle..but for the lifestyle itself, and all that it means. This has almost been a major release and revolution for me personally in that by Respecting that which so many of us have jumped through hoops, and struggled to have in order to be away from that so-called vanilla normalcy..I no longer have as much of those trivial inner struggles of deciding who gets or deserves Respect. By Respecting this Lifestyle..I know that by entering into it as a slave, I have chosen of free will to accept the responsibility of living up to the basics of what being a slave is, that for the most part has been long standing, and truely across the board. Once Owned it becomes even more defined as the Owners demands are also present.

In her final statement, star has evolved yet again. To starshined, the showing of respect to someone in this lifestyle is not about actually respecting the person. It's about respecting the lifestyle that you are both apart of and the fact that they, just as you, had to go through major obstacles to be apart of it. This allows her to show respect to all and be reguarded as a well trained slave despite the person(s) she is in contact with. Through this, she can remain pleasing at all times.

Well said starshined. What you present here is a model of behaviour that allows a person to be the slave that they are, but not sacrifice their sense of self-esteem.

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RE: Road Map to Respect - 3/23/2006 6:57:29 AM

fyreredsub

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the ole adage KISS strikes for this girl too,
Thank you MrD.for the easy lesson to starshines posting.
this one needs it simple more often than not and my mind is still realing as of late here.
starshine i can relate to how you feel in regard to steps to respecting others and i agree that it does and should show more in our training as we go on.
i like you used to have little if no repesct for others but as i change and grow in my slave path,those that care of my value and wish to see it grow, help me to learn. i find now that respecting others is something that flows naturally.
unless of course they do something so off base well then i have to stop and reeavaluate but i attempt to seek out guidance now before blowing my steam off and finding a better manner to go about it. course having other slaves to vent to helps*smile*. i find trying to be respectful and act as such to others is harder when they try to push my buttons(thinks on several posts in the slave rights thread) but each time i overcome my past unslavelike behavior it comes a bit easier. so now as i am more respectful i find others respond back as such too.
great thread, thanks.

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RE: Road Map to Respect - 3/23/2006 11:14:59 AM

sunshine333

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thank you Mr. Discipline. it seems so obvious now. ... grins ...

quote:

I was wondering if others have noticed a path over their lives and into this Lifestyle?

i think i spent a lot of years with no self respect. i didn't like myself and had horrible feelings of worthlessness .. etc. over the course of many years and lots-n-lots of hard work i developed a very deep love and appreciation for myself. i learned that i was worthy of love and that i was a respectable person. not only because i chose to believe those things, but because i became those things. consequently, i also developed a profound appreciation for the world and people around me. the respect that i show, as a person, is an expression of the respect that i feel inwardly toward myself and also toward the part of the person who i'm dealing with that is worthy of respect. that part, in my beliefs, is our basic human nature which is inherently good. when i was owned, there was a different level of respect which i would express simply out of respect to my owner/s. in all honesty, there really was nothing genuine about my (sometimes) extra display of respect toward any given Free person ... other than knowing that my actions represented my owners and their training of me.

so, to me, there's respect ... and then there's the show of respect.

lol. i wonder if i'm making any sense.

humbly,
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RE: Road Map to Respect - 3/23/2006 11:15:32 AM

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Thankyou Master MrDiscipline44...That probably was a better explanation than even I could of given.

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