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pervypig -> RE: 10 Steps For Making A Good First Impression (4/9/2005 5:12:28 PM)

Thankyou for giving such good and valuble advise Ladies,I hope I can laern from this to help me find a wonderfull mistress.
Very gratefull sub/slave pervypig




willy124 -> RE: 10 Steps For Making A Good First Impression (4/9/2005 10:22:54 PM)

i would like to thank MaitresseEden and LadyAngelika for their wonderufl insight and the information contained in tis post. i am new to all of this nad realy want to learn all i can, adn this information will hopefully come in handy...as i try to approach a Domme. this is not a easy thing for me and having this type of information os realy very valuable. i again wnat to say thank you to you both....willy




ProtagonistLily -> New Mail....priceless (4/17/2005 3:12:20 PM)

Ok, so LA and I are yammering on the phone, wiling away a nice spring Sunday afternoon, when low and behold, I get a note in my CM mail. Of course, being the attention whore that I am, I ignore LA as she telling about yet another of her charming escapades and zoom to my mail.

In it was a lovely note from a boy who had this to say:

I would very much like if we could get better acquainted, the how, when, where and pace I leave as your final decision. But if I may humbly propose that whatever is convenient for you, be it, emails, instant messages, chatting, phones calls, meeting for coffee, would be more than satisfactory for me. I understand fully that a lady of your stature does not make rash decisions. I understand that things may or may not progress at a pace of your comfort level.

If you will grant me the privilege of meeting you I promise to meet whatever requirements you may have of me. I understand that your safety is of paramount concern and will gladly respect whatever method you deem to be appropriate.

So of course, after I read, feeling special, I have to read it to LA on the phone. She says to me, "Damn, that sounds familiar, cut and paste that for me." So, I did, and of course IT CAME RIGHT FROM THIS DAMNED GUIDE. Apparently they didn't read caveat #2...don't cut and paste this as your own.

Alas, perhaps I should jettison this fruitless search and just give myself over to the person who REALLY writes like this ;).

I had LA's permission to write this.

Lily




LadyAngelika -> RE: New Mail....priceless (4/17/2005 3:14:17 PM)

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Alas, perhaps I should jettison this fruitless search and just give myself over to the person who REALLY writes like this ;).


Well just call me Cyrano ;) But I have a cuter nose.

- LA




MaitresseEden -> RE: New Mail....priceless (4/17/2005 8:45:47 PM)

I've received a few copies of it myself.. lol




LadyAngelika -> RE: New Mail....priceless (4/18/2005 4:37:16 AM)

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ORIGINAL: MaitresseEden
I've received a few copies of it myself.. lol


Nothing like having your words fed back to you, huh Eden? (For the record, Eden and I wrote that letter & the rest of the original post together).

At least it acts as a filter...

But the worst is poor Lily was all ooooh aaaah over the note. Damn! If I want to seduce her, I don't need no bratty boy as an intermediary! LOL

- LA




ProtagonistLily -> RE: New Mail....priceless (4/18/2005 6:02:02 AM)

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But the worst is poor Lily was all ooooh aaaah over the note. Damn! If I want to seduce her, I don't need no bratty boy as an intermediary! LOL

- LA


No, my friend, you certainly don't ;)

L




Oumae -> RE: 10 Steps For Making A Good First Impression (4/18/2005 8:19:10 AM)

I got the C&P mail too.... including the bit about meeting for a coffee.... seeing as the sub was in the States and I am in Ireland I thought it might be a bit of an expensive coffee! [:D]

Oumae




onceburned -> RE: 10 Steps For Making A Good First Impression (4/18/2005 8:51:41 AM)

Oh, but Irish coffee is so good. [:)]




Oumae -> RE: 10 Steps For Making A Good First Impression (4/18/2005 9:20:28 AM)


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ORIGINAL: onceburned

Oh, but Irish coffee is so good. [:)]


You get the flights and I'll get the whiskey [;)]

Oumae




YoungAsianCutie -> RE: 10 Steps For Making A Good First Impression (5/26/2006 5:34:59 PM)

Hi Mistresses,

I hope all is going well. I know things are going well for me now because I think I just found a new favorite site =), and I can't seem to click the x at the top right hand corner. I'm the new guy here, and I have just signed up less than 24 hours ago. After reading through some of these "tips" threads, I was just wondering if I can be a little greedy and ask for Mistresses to perhaps at least glance through my profile and see if there are any obvious problems with it. I would hate for a Mistresses to go " 'psshh' there's another one of those retard sub males with their retard profiles that I'm just going to quickly ignore". I would appreciate any constructive comments and suggestions.

Thanks in advance,
Young Asian Cutie


*EDIT: I'm sorry, my profile is still pending approval. I think I'll bump it in a few days so you can be annoyed by it later =)




BlkTallFullfig -> RE: 10 Steps For Making A Good First Impression (5/26/2006 9:36:22 PM)

Dear YoungAsianCutie,
Your profile looks very well thought out and written to me, but you might get more feedback if you start your own thread with "critique my profile" heading in the Polls and other... section.       
Welcome to the boards,  M




Misstoyou -> RE: 10 Steps For Making A Good First Impression (5/26/2006 9:43:24 PM)

But it 's a good sign that you *found* the how to make a good impression thread in the first place. [:)] Welcome to CM.




Calandra -> RE: 10 Steps For Making A Good First Impression (5/27/2006 4:23:55 AM)

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ORIGINAL: MaitresseEden
My question for Laura is.. Why would politeness be viewed as a Negative? In order for that to hold up then rudeness would have to be viewed as a Positive. I am confused as to how one would view respectful and polite behavior as a Negative attribute. As for Sincerity, I would expect the words themselves to convey sincerity, or intent. Yes they should write personal, and from their own heart. I just don't see respect and politiness as sucking up. But of course, that is just my perspective.
Ms.Eden


I also found the over politeness a bit insincere, as if the person is "putting on an act". I don't see overpoliteness, or rudeness as polar opposites, rather I picture a baseline of neutral but good manners as the middle (positive) ground, and rudeness or overpoliteness would both be negative (like spikes way above and way below the baseline)
 
I want someone who gives a lot of the information about himself that you suggested, but I also hope to "get a feel" for his personality...




DiannaVesta -> RE: 10 Steps For Making A Good First Impression (5/27/2006 7:28:22 AM)

Dear LadyA I tired to send you a private message but it says that you have no profile. Could I please use this at The Village @ FemSupreme? The link is below in my sig. If its ok, would you mind dropping me a line here on collarme?

Thanks,
Dianna





LadyAlexa -> RE: 10 Steps For Making A Good First Impression (5/27/2006 1:57:00 PM)

Very good Ladies!   I"m impressed and hope that subs take this to hear...and don't c/p for sure.   Even the subs who I know it won't work....distance, age, my own life at the moment....when they send a polite letter to me, I always reply and even suggest we can still email if they would like.       The one liners I dont' respond to unless I'm really in the mood to humiliate.  Those who comment on just my pic...get deleted.

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika


2. State what attracted you particularly about her profile

The above is critical. Do NOT limit your attraction to solely our photo. That shows that you are superficial and vain. Most Dommes know they are beautiful, but wish to be appreciated for things other than our appearances.

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Mlicious -> RE: 10 Steps For Making A Good First Impression (5/28/2006 4:51:52 PM)

How wonderful. Thank you Ladies for taking the time to spell it out in braille and sign language! If a sub fails to take even a bit of this to heart, then it is on them, they can never say no one told them. Thanks again.




maledave777 -> RE: 10 Steps For Making A Good First Impression (8/31/2006 3:40:50 AM)

I appreciated your thoughts on making a good first impression.  I also appreciated  the thought on looking at her profile.  Is it short or long in length.




LeatherBentOne -> RE: 10 Steps For Making A Good First Impression (8/31/2006 3:31:07 PM)

MistressZanthia,

I, also am never interested in hearing sexual interests and sometimes not even play interests until I meet face to face either.  If I dont like one as a person why would I want to play or be sexual with "said" submissive?  In my relationships, sex is reserved as a reward, not a given, as is play perceived the same.  Service is just that ~ nothing more, nothing less and I reserve pleasures for those who serve me well without a hidden agenda.

LeatherBentOne




GddssBella -> RE: 10 Steps For Making A Good First Impression (9/12/2006 8:27:58 AM)

G'morning all:


As always, Angelika provides us with quality advice and subject matter. I've resurrected this thread so subs may take a hint and use the suggestions wisely.  I personally use this thread as a guideline to subs when they contact me. It tends to thin out the wankers from the serious potentials seeking a compatible connection. If someone's too lazy to follow through, it lets me know what degree of effort they're willing to invest on a possible relationship. Makes it easier to decide which ones to delete, block, or just simply say "Not interested." to.


Stay safe, play nice, & share your toys w/ others...


[:D]


Bella




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