chamberqueen
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Joined: 10/25/2007 From: Kalamazoo, MI Status: offline
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Was the question respectful? I'm not being facetious. I am always allowed to ask a question if I need clarification. I never ask "why". I know that my Master has a good reason or he would not choose to have me do something. That is only in my dynamic, and others will differ, but the type of question makes a huge difference for us. Tone of voice does, too. If you have never hesitated before and did not come across as bratty or trying to top from the bottom, then my guess is that he overreacted. If that is the case then he no longer had full control of yourself, and I do not trust someone who cannot control himself to control another well. Also, there are times when we may be feeling one emotion that it comes across as another. When I was married my husband saw my "sad" face as an "angry" one. He projected his own anticipated reaction to something onto me. Say that you were feeling confused, or a little ill or tired, or under stress - whatever - it may have come across to him as doubt, purposeful disobedience, or disdain. Not everyone is good at picking up on the emotions of others. You need to review in your mind not only how you felt and what you said but how his perceptions might have gone wrong. Then the two of you need to communicate. Know your reasons for hesitation without making any excuses for yourself. (That can be a very fine line.) I am sure that if he is a good Dom that he will remember how obedient you have been to him in the past and that he will realize that something must have been troubling you for you to ask questions for the first time.
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