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I can't believe I read this whole thread. I seriously thought My eyes were going to bleed. If My poly family was in this kind of mess (I really want to say fuck up, as I think it's a more appropriate term), do you know who's fault it would be? It would be Mine. Period. Not only that, I can promise you that I'd be the one to fix it. Holy poop on a stick.
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ORIGINAL: SirKen963
Well hello all .. I am the insensative jerk you're all talking about. Glad to meet you all. Figure I would finally read this and see what is going on . First off I told her 5 months ago to make a post , and type down what has been going on .
Glad to meet you, too. I agree. It's about time you showed up. You told her to do this five months ago? Exactly where were you all of that time? You allowed this proverbial open wound to fester all of that time and now it's so infected that it's one hell of a mess.
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This was to help her get her feelings out in the open ( even if it was on a post) because she will not say what is bothering her. Instead it's because you made the bed, or because you did'nt make the bed. Or my favorite is when she gets home it's.. I thought you did this that is why I and upset. I love my slave.. I love my submissive. All I want is for her to be happy and that is just not happenning in any shape or form. We talk .. I take her feelings into consideration ... the whole house revoles around her not to piss her off.
Somewhere back in this mess (and I'm NOT going back to read it again) there was something in there about making the bed. Call Me nuts, but it sounded to Me like this bed making thing had some ritual overtone to it. One that your slave may have felt was something that was unique to your dynamic. (I could be way off base here.) That might be part of the issue. You've had major life changes through your time together and she wants very much some of the same structure that was there before.
I have a ritual policy that might help you with this part. I always have one ritual that is specific only to one sub. It is a unique thing. I don't duplicate it with anyone else. It is My way of showing each of them that there is one special thing that I share with them and only them. I think you'd be surprised to hear how important that's been to some of My boys over the years. It might be an idea that you would like to implement in your household.
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Having my slave post was a assignment ..one she did fail at because she did not tell it like it was .. so so so much was left out. And her sister loves and cares for her so much. She would and does so much for her. And becasue of her not telling the truth in her post , now her sister feels as though she is being bashed for telling the truth.
Guess what? You failed, too. Not only did you skip your responsibility of ensuring this little assignment was done when it was supposed to, your slave expressing her feelings has now become a drama fest because your submissive is somehow a part of it. When I have problems in one relationship within My household, I don't drag (or permit) another member of the household into it. What happens between your slave and yourself shouldn't involve your submissive unless it is effecting her. If anything, YOU are supposed to be the person in authority, that means YOU should be the mediator if there are problems between THEM. That's part of the responsibility that comes with authority. You're either the head of the household or you're not, and at this point, it sure doesn't seem like you are.
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I do not expect you all to know what is going on and know the whole story and MY GOD I did not think that most of you where so Mean. Is this how you going about helping people?
There is 2 sides to every story .. there are different emotions and feelings that are just too hard to explain in a post for you to fully understand. And i do not expect you to understand fully.
Let Me tell you something. Before you even showed up on this thread, as I was sitting here reading it, I swear I was sitting here thinking to Myself that if My life ever got to the mess that was unfolding in this thread, I absolutely would ask these people for help. There were some really good points made and I know that if I were in your boat, I would be listening. In fact, I'd say at least 75% of the folks on this thread had worthwhile comments. Were they all "nice" or phrased the way you wanted? Probably not, but some of them were on the money. If you saw that, you probably wouldn't have the troubles that you do.
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Now the last thing I would like to say, for those of you who think you know Me and my disability. You know the lowlife you think I am. In 96 i had a 1500 lb trailer drop on me and I broke 5 vertebraes in my back. Plus crushed my shoulder and left foot .. and 15 staples in my head. It took me 2 years to get back to work, but i did it. Even when the Drs. were telling me I will be in a wheel chair for most of my life. So I got back to work for 10 years before I was in to much pain to even stand anymore.
It saddens me to see my Girls unhappy and I would do anything in the world for them.
I am sorry that the above happened to you. I have every reason to think that impacted your dynamic with your slave. Especially because the two of you were already involved and had a life together prior to that incident.
You have several financial issues in your house. You have undue financial stress on your slave as far as the medical insurance goes. No wonder that your submissive (I'm hoping I'm getting these labels right for your household) can afford to do more 'luxury' type stuff for the household. She's the one who's making less, but she's the one paying the insurance premiums. In My opinion, that needs to stop. If the three of you are a family, the one who has more should do more. The three of you need to sit down and work out a financial plan. One that doesn't make your slave feel destitute because she's paying for your health care and makes her feel that she has no resources.
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So this will be the last post from either one of my Girls for it is not doing them any good . In fact it is doing more harm.
Well, that's probably a good thing, because your slave shouldn't have had this assignment so people on the forums could 'set her straight'. That's supposed to be your job. It really is time that you started doing it.
Some things that came up from the posts from your girls. Normally, I address the person that made the comments themselves, but this is your household, and you're supposed to be in charge of it.
Get the 3 AM sex issue straightened out. You didn't correct where some of the issue lies. Your submissive's teenagers live at home and you three are not 'out' to them. I do understand your problem. However, I'd suggest that you try something else. What are the work/school schedules like? Is there another time of day that would be more accomidating? BTW, if your slave can hear you having sex, there's a possibility that the teens already know. If nothing else can be done, you're going to have to find a better middle ground.
The 'take time off for family of three' time thing, I can actually see how that was a good idea gone bad. I have My impulsive moments, too, and it's not unusual for Me to have a spur of the moment idea hit My head and I happen to mention it when only one of the males is around. If it was enough of a decision for your submissive to go to work and ask for the time, it was your responsibility to make your slave aware. Stop this crap of your submissive informing your slave of whatever it is. The time off, the bathroom, or any other darn thing. It's honestly past time that you stepped up to the plate. If they are equals, that means the responsibility should fall on you.
I don't have the words to convey how much of a mess I think you seem to have on your hands. You're right. We don't know any of you. What we do know of you is so poorly managed that this little snippet ever came to the boards in the first place. I can't, in good faith, say that you are doing much of a job as a Dominant. Maybe when you start, your slave will feel less insecure and you'll have a more harmonious household.
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