AAkasha
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ORIGINAL: sodsta You talk about self-indulgent behaviour using only a certain set of traits (overt eagerness, suggesting, helping, being too keen) but what if a bottom's self-indulgence presents in other forms? For example... what if it really turns him on to be vulnerable, or perhaps even a little resistant? To struggle and try and escape/move away. What if THOSE behaviours are self-indulgent to the bottom because that is specifically what gets him off in a scene? Is that still a mood-kill for you, since he is indulging his own desires by being vulnerable/resistant/struggling/etc...? /devil's advocate. -- Kye No...I quite like resistance, and struggling, and all of those kinds of things..and yes, those can be self indulgent. I guess, to me, the line is crossed when I feel honestly like he's really not paying any attention - whatsoever - to what is affecting me. And I am an open book, for the most part, when topping; and afterwards, I answer to the best of my ability. But when a bottom/sub, both while he's being dominated and then after, really doesn't show much interest in anything beyond the acts and what it did for him - or will do for him - I start to shut down. Not sure if that makes sense :) Akasha
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