winterrose77
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ORIGINAL: chamberqueen
I am in a poly family - none of us living under the same roof. I am the Alpha slave, and in that position it is part of my job to help guide and train my sister slave. For the most part I truly enjoy this. I am a natural teacher, I show compassion, and I enjoy that I have my Master's ear in a special way.
First and foremost, you recognize that teaching and guiding is something you feel born to do and something you love. You also feel as though it is expected of you and you are apparently comfortable in that role. This is important. If you ever feel like you don't enjoy it, as though it's a chore, or as if you're wasting time doing it, you need to stop immediately. Natural talent should never be pushed past the limit that you can handle. Know your own strengths and be wary of them.
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ORIGINAL: chamberqueen
She has a lot of insecurities, and I find that I spend a lot of time showing her how special she is. Herein lies the problem. The more special I try to show her she is the less special I feel. I know this is not anyone else's fault but my own. I have tried to puzzle this through on my own, but I don't know the best way to be balanced - to be able to make her stronger and more mature without feeling drained and almost invisible in the process.
Number one, this slave doesn't sound like she's ready to be a slave, and number two, it sounds like you're doing too much of your Master's work. He needs to pay attention to his slaves, to build them up himself and make them feel special because of his own words...you can say anything you want to this girl, but if she feels she needs to hear it from Master's mouth first, it's not going to do anything but frustrate you both.
The fact that you address the amount of your interaction with her as a 'problem' proves that it isn't doing anything positive for either of you. If you feel like your Master is neglecting her, and therefore you as well, leaving you in his position, it's certainly going to depress both of you. The thing about any D/s relationship is that the balancing act depends on the ability of the Master to provide enough strength to support the submissive...and only a Master who can support more than one slave easily should be doing so. If he doesn't have time to keep up his end of the scales, it's time to take some weight off.
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ORIGINAL: chamberqueen
Has anyone else dealt with this? Are there any suggestions on how I can be upbuilding to her and yet not feel torn down myself?
You're trying to do your Master's job, and therefore you're running down your own supplies of feeling submissive. If you feel like you're taking his place your subconscious is probably going nuts, trying to figure out why you're suddenly in the place of the dominant, and what happened that he made you go there.
While it's great to support your sister-slave, your Master has the responsibility to both of you to make sure you both have the level of his support that you need. Talk to him about it and let him know you feel that he's putting too much pressure on you. If he can take over some of the duties with this girl himself, it both proves his own dominance over her and will relieve you of the feelings of neglect.
I wish you the best of luck in this and hope everything turns out okay. <3
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~Rose~
"I'm sick of just liking people. I wish to God I could meet somebody I could respect."
-J. D. Salinger
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