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RE: Is it ever difficult to be a Gorean? - 2/10/2010 12:22:28 PM   
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or, you could nick the ice cream offa someone just coming outta DQ, if you're up for it.

Hup


So the word "conquer" can mean standing in line at Pennys to conquer me some undies. Or nick someone out of their soft serve?

Aaaa-ight.  Think Iz going to the BK and conka me a whoppah.

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RE: Is it ever difficult to be a Gorean? - 2/10/2010 12:57:51 PM   
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Tal

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ORIGINAL: domiguy
Unbuilder, I think what people have a problem with given any belief system is when folks take that belief system and then elevate it up to the point of absurdity.


I agree. I think, some folks do tend to think that because they have taken on some given belief system that they are somehow invested with some sort of divine purpose to "spread the gospel".  I kinda think that is linked to the idea that "I am closer to god than you are, so... I have an obligation to drag you kicking and screaming closer.... although not quite as close as me"

*I* think that that type of thinking is.... crap....

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ORIGINAL: domiguy
Nothing is perfect in life.


If it ever was.... where would the satisfaction of overcoming obstacles or inertia go?

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ORIGINAL:domiguy
Right off the bat you kind of strike me as a fairly normal dude.


Fuck you, and the mule you rode into town on.... I am a Gorean man


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ORIGINAL:domiguy
hope things continue to go your way.


It might be luck.... my ex-wife always said I had a really brown dick.  I think it has more to do with effort, and what we expect of ourselves tho.

I wish you well
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RE: Is it ever difficult to be a Gorean? - 2/10/2010 1:04:43 PM   
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In the novels is it common place or the routine to utilize the "capture of flies by honey" technique?


Greetings Master,

No, this girl does not remember any books pertaining to capturing flies... possibly Priest Kings... but they preferred beetles to honey In the novels, a slave could be bought and acquired by other means supported by law, so generally enslavement didn't need to be too subtle. However, you also asked about the application of things from the books here in the real world. And here, slavery is achieved by internal enslavement. Girls vary and respond differently to different tactics. As Master Koa put it, "A great conqueror will conquer without anyone ever seeing it coming."

well wishes,
anna

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RE: Is it ever difficult to be a Gorean? - 2/10/2010 1:13:18 PM   
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Howdy, eclectic Ambassador,

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ORIGINAL: domiguy
Please explain what it means that you will conquer what you desire.


It means that with those to whom I have no personally accepted &/or acknowledged obligation, I will take what I wish by any means necessary to achieve success. In saying this I qualify the statement in a way so as to leave out situations that would require I get what I want at a cost I'd consider prohibitive.


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ORIGINAL: domiguy
quote:


it is not legal in this country to go to some other country and steal. Also, stealing things someone has illegally is still theft under at least US law.

It is a position and thought that is not defendable.


Both of these statements are incorrect, at least in the U.S.A.

Consider Joe Hillbilly, with a car sitting on blocks way back on the edge of his 2 acres. He builds a fence about 15 feet over into his neighbor's woodland & that fence stands for 10 years before J.H. decides to sell his property (car & all ;-p). The surveyor notes that the original property line is now 15 feet off, to the hillbilly's gain. Regardless of how legal the claim was by the neighbor, & regardless of how J.H. obviously stole 15 feet of land from said neighbor, that land now belongs to J.H. through a nifty little thing called "adverse possession"....& it's legal.

Now, go all the way to the top of the food chain in this country & consider how quickly some small companies can get gobbled up, regardless of the wishes of the "owner", by a thing called "a hostile takeover"....also legal here in the U.S.A.

We are discussing TWO different things: man-made concepts of what should be "right" & natural concepts of what IS "right". Nature says that "right" is what succeeds. Man says that "right" is what meets the agreed-upon societal standards of the moment for 'acceptable behavior'.

We all recognize that any choice of standard comes with a cost. It's simply a matter of what you are willing to 'pay' for adherence to your chosen standards. Most folks tend to find costs are reduced by maintaining standards close to the societal norm. Some folks choose to potentially incur excessive costs by dropping way below those standards or by muchly exceeding then.

Water finds it's level.

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You just mold the message to fit the times of today.  You bend  them to adhere to the laws and the society that is present.  You do have  to make some compromises. 
What about that it is a work of sci fi. Does that ever bug you?


It's not necessary to live forevermore in the shell of a tortoise in order to manifest in your daily life the moral illustrated in Aesop's fictional fable, "The Tortoise & The Hare". Nor does the fact that he elected to illustrate said moral lesson via fiction negate the practical value of "slow & steady wins the race".

I like quotes, & Norman is not the only person I enjoy quoting. I'll share a passage I find personally resonant here, in closing:

quote:

"I am free, no matter what rules surround me. If I find them tolerable, I tolerate them; if I find them too obnoxious, I break them. I am free because I know that I alone am morally responsible for everything I do."~Robert A. Heinlein


If living by my own standards costs me a bit of effort, I figure the excellences & successes to be worth that effort. All in all, though, I find it's pretty easy being myself. ;-D

I wish you well!

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RE: Is it ever difficult to be a Gorean? - 2/10/2010 1:18:58 PM   
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ORIGINAL: AnnaOfAramis

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In the novels is it common place or the routine to utilize the "capture of flies by honey" technique?


Greetings Master,

No, this girl does not remember any books pertaining to capturing flies... possibly Priest Kings... but they preferred beetles to honey In the novels, a slave could be bought and acquired by other means supported by law, so generally enslavement didn't need to be too subtle. However, you also asked about the application of things from the books here in the real world. And here, slavery is achieved by internal enslavement. Girls vary and respond differently to different tactics. As Master Koa put it, "A great conqueror will conquer without anyone ever seeing it coming."

well wishes,
anna


Tal,

You rocking cats of Gor.

Kao and anna that is also known as date rape.  Be careful with that shit. Bubba is waiting.

My dearest AnnaOfAramis, if the "capture by honey" technique is not really a primary influence in the Gorean novels or a heavily promoted belief than why would you think that would be the reference that Orion was trying to emulate in his post? 

Mal on all,

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RE: Is it ever difficult to be a Gorean? - 2/10/2010 1:31:05 PM   
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{fast reply}

Tal and greetings all....

Actually, Orion and Domiguy do share a Home Stone in that they are part of the same country and world and it is not legal in this country to go to some other country and steal. Also, stealing things someone has illegally is still theft under at least US law. Whether or not it is honorable to steal from a specific individual is up to a specific person's honor and ethical systems. Just about everything else that has been said on the subject so is just playing with fantasy, not reality.

Be well all....

Malkinius


If I might add but one thing to this: I most certainly do not agree that two people share a Home Stone simply because they are of the same country. NO WAY.  The Home Stone is to me, a very sacred thing. It might be shared by close companions, family and indeed by persons of the same city in the Gorean context, buy it is certainly not to be assumed that persons sharing the same country share the Same Home Stone.

Just my copper tarsk on the subject.

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RE: Is it ever difficult to be a Gorean? - 2/10/2010 1:42:55 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Kimveri

Howdy, eclectic Ambassador,

quote:

ORIGINAL: domiguy
Please explain what it means that you will conquer what you desire.


It means that with those to whom I have no personally accepted &/or acknowledged obligation, I will take what I wish by any means necessary to achieve success. In saying this I qualify the statement in a way so as to leave out situations that would require I get what I want at a cost I'd consider prohibitive.


I like quotes, & Norman is not the only person I enjoy quoting. I'll share a passage I find personally resonant here, in closing:

quote:

"I am free, no matter what rules surround me. If I find them tolerable, I tolerate them; if I find them too obnoxious, I break them. I am free because I know that I alone am morally responsible for everything I do."~Robert A. Heinlein


If living by my own standards costs me a bit of effort, I figure the excellences & successes to be worth that effort. All in all, though, I find it's pretty easy being myself. ;-D

I wish you well!

~Kimveri





Tal baby,

Norman and Heinlein....Hmmmmm.

Nice post.   Pretty much what I expected.  To achieve success or conquer stuff does kind of pale when we have to put it into todays times.  Takes a little starch of your shorts when you realize that "conquering" is now viewed as acquiring your quarry as long as you don't pay a prohibitive price.

Kind of sad.  Way of the fucking world my friends.

kajira to her Master:  "Don't buy that milk at the grocery store it's a buck less at the gas station. 

Master walks in throught the door after shopping.  Proudly sticks out his chest and says, "Honey, I conquered the shit out of that milk!!!"

It's all so sad. What have we become?

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RE: Is it ever difficult to be a Gorean? - 2/10/2010 1:44:26 PM   
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Kao and anna that is also known as date rape. Be careful with that shit. Bubba is waiting.

My dearest AnnaOfAramis, if the "capture by honey" technique is not really a primary influence in the Gorean novels or a heavily promoted belief than why would you think that would be the reference that Orion was trying to emulate in his post?


Greetings Master,

To clarify, this girl did not assume that Master Orion meant any one means of conquering at all. She was simply open to the fact that his use of the term was broader than physical force because she has experienced being conquered by other means, and possibly because she has read his posts on other things and may be influenced by having that as a framework in which to interpret. Also what is in the books physically, is fiction. What this girl reads the books for is for the lessons therein, so it makes sense to this girl to read Master Orion's statements with regard to those lessons, not necessarily by what was done in the books.

This girl does not equate internal enslavement with "date rape" as begging the collar is what shows the consent and acceptance of that mastery.

Well wishes,
anna

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RE: Is it ever difficult to be a Gorean? - 2/10/2010 2:02:33 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Qorvas

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ORIGINAL: Malkinius

{fast reply}

Tal and greetings all....

Actually, Orion and Domiguy do share a Home Stone in that they are part of the same country and world and it is not legal in this country to go to some other country and steal. Also, stealing things someone has illegally is still theft under at least US law. Whether or not it is honorable to steal from a specific individual is up to a specific person's honor and ethical systems. Just about everything else that has been said on the subject so is just playing with fantasy, not reality.

Be well all....

Malkinius


If I might add but one thing to this: I most certainly do not agree that two people share a Home Stone simply because they are of the same country. NO WAY.  The Home Stone is to me, a very sacred thing. It might be shared by close companions, family and indeed by persons of the same city in the Gorean context, buy it is certainly not to be assumed that persons sharing the same country share the Same Home Stone.

Just my copper tarsk on the subject.

Qorvas



Tal,

My Gorean brothah.

I have to agree,  I am fairly confident that Orion and I don't share the same Home Stone...I don't think I would even give that nut an old copy of Rolling Stone.

You know it's a damn pitty but a copper tarsk just don't get you very far in this world.

My Gorean brothers the world is a changing.

The battles we fight are now comprised of rush hour traffic and trying to keep our damn kajiras on a sensible diet.

It's all so sad.

Rock on.

Mal,

The Great (elected) Earthly Ambassador to Gor Lord Domiguy

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RE: Is it ever difficult to be a Gorean? - 2/10/2010 2:06:11 PM   
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Does this mean I want some ice cream so it's off to the D.Q. Or does it have a more fundamental and deeper Gorean meaning?


Ok for you that thought process maybe fine thus you went to D Q. and quenched the desire for ice cream, but its often our own desires that are our downfall..

For Me its not a mere question of “want” (desire) its Me being able to focus within that desire.. You used ice cream here so I will stay with it.. I want ice cream..Do I have a way to DQ do I have the money to get it..right now I would say the heck with DQ of the weather about Me and the distance between Me and it..here is the "deeper logic"…thus what risk would I put Home Stone or My honor at for this and what risk would I put Myself. or at what cost for this desire..


Western PA Man craves ice cream and drives on bad roads slides into a car and kills a family of 6 film at 11..

What price does this ice cream cost?


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RE: Is it ever difficult to be a Gorean? - 2/10/2010 2:14:31 PM   
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Does this mean I want some ice cream so it's off to the D.Q. Or does it have a more fundamental and deeper Gorean meaning?


Ok for you that thought process maybe fine thus you went to D Q. and quenched the desire for ice cream, but its often our own desires that are our downfall..

For Me its not a mere question of “want” (desire) its Me being able to focus within that desire.. You used ice cream here so I will stay with it.. I want ice cream..Do I have a way to DQ do I have the money to get it..right now I would say the heck with DQ of the weather about Me and the distance between Me and it..here is the "deeper logic"…thus what risk would I put Home Stone or My honor at for this and what risk would I put Myself. or at what cost for this desire..


Western PA Man craves ice cream and drives on bad roads slides into a car and kills a family of 6 film at 11..

What price does this ice cream cost?


I wish You well

Robert




Tal baby,


I see your point. Let's face facts, the road to D.Q. is a perilous journey filled with trials and tribulations and should not be navigated by the weak of heart.

There is always money and room for ice cream.  But there is a risk an reward for every endeavor,

Sorry about the family of six.  Bummer.  You at least hope he made it to D.Q.and was on his way back before he got into the accident.  Otherwise those six people died in vain.  Senseless, just senseless.

Rock on you crazy lil' Goreans,

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RE: Is it ever difficult to be a Gorean? - 2/10/2010 2:50:42 PM   
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Grins and just shakes His hooded head some people should never have children.. they populate the world with ignore people that we all have to take care of in the end..


you have yourself a good day now....

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RE: Is it ever difficult to be a Gorean? - 2/10/2010 4:45:29 PM   
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First off Orion...This might not be your first language so I'll try and keep this simple.

It is a forum...Much of what transpires out here is banter and verbal sparring.  It is kind of how this thing is supposed to work.  Still too difficult?  Please refrain from the trite "bandwith bullshit"  it is a weak statement and I doubt any twue Gorean would really fret over  CM's loss of bandwith.


See I misunderstood then, as it seemed like you were being purposefully obtuse, to increase banter and verbal sparring. So if you are actually asking a serious question, I will take you at your word.

quote:


"If someone is a "stranger" to me, then I will conquer what I desire."

Please explain what it means that you will conquer what you desire.

In the other thread you mention you took or stole another man's slave...Cool. 

The question is... what in your mind is the def of desire and to what lengths will a Gorean man go to obtain that which he desires?


Desire would be something that you want or need. This would of course be weighed with the consequences of the actions, as those may eliminate the desire. Once that is established, if someone were an enemy of mine, then I have no qualms about doing whatever I need to gain what I want. Depending upon how severe I consider them an enemy would determine how severe the actions I may take.

There are also instances where I would still attempt to conquer to gain what I desired, within the confines of my code. An example may be a contest with a wager, offering to buy and haggling, using legal means if it fell in that realm, etc. As I stated before, it is situational and depends upon circumstance. If someone knocks my mailbox down with their car, I am going to sue them and have the mailobox replaced, not gut them.

Is that more clear now? If you have any further questions just let me know, and I will take you at your word that you are being serious about actually wanting to engage in meaningful discussion.

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RE: Is it ever difficult to be a Gorean? - 2/10/2010 5:19:40 PM   
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Greetings domiguy....

I am going to make it simple for you. It is so simple that you missed it when Kimveri said or technically quoted it.

quote:

"I am free, no matter what rules surround me. If I find them tolerable, I tolerate them; if I find them too obnoxious, I break them. I am free because I know that I alone am morally responsible for everything I do."~Robert A. Heinlein


Pay very close attention to the last sentence. We are responsible for whatever we do. That sums up one key understanding of what it means to be Gorean. We CAN do anything we are capable of doing....good...bad...legal...illegal...etc. Whether or not we should do it is a moral and ethical choice. Whatever we chose to do or not do, we are responsible for that choice and ALL consequences resulting from it whether good or bad.

Once you understand this point you will understand Goreans much better and why we say things the way we do. Heinlein, like Norman was rather libertarian in his beliefs and I am certain that Norman has read Heinlein. For all I know, Heinlein may have read some of the Gor books. He was an avid reader of science fiction as well as one of the top writers of the genre. For all I know they could have met as an east coast convention at some point such as a PhilCon or a Boskone.

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RE: Is it ever difficult to be a Gorean? - 2/10/2010 5:21:13 PM   
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First off Orion...This might not be your first language so I'll try and keep this simple.

It is a forum...Much of what transpires out here is banter and verbal sparring.  It is kind of how this thing is supposed to work.  Still too difficult?  Please refrain from the trite "bandwith bullshit"  it is a weak statement and I doubt any twue Gorean would really fret over  CM's loss of bandwith.


See I misunderstood then, as it seemed like you were being purposefully obtuse, to increase banter and verbal sparring. So if you are actually asking a serious question, I will take you at your word.

quote:


"If someone is a "stranger" to me, then I will conquer what I desire."

Please explain what it means that you will conquer what you desire.

In the other thread you mention you took or stole another man's slave...Cool. 

The question is... what in your mind is the def of desire and to what lengths will a Gorean man go to obtain that which he desires?


Desire would be something that you want or need. This would of course be weighed with the consequences of the actions, as those may eliminate the desire. Once that is established, if someone were an enemy of mine, then I have no qualms about doing whatever I need to gain what I want. Depending upon how severe I consider them an enemy would determine how severe the actions I may take.

There are also instances where I would still attempt to conquer to gain what I desired, within the confines of my code. An example may be a contest with a wager, offering to buy and haggling, using legal means if it fell in that realm, etc. As I stated before, it is situational and depends upon circumstance. If someone knocks my mailbox down with their car, I am going to sue them and have the mailobox replaced, not gut them.

Is that more clear now? If you have any further questions just let me know, and I will take you at your word that you are being serious about actually wanting to engage in meaningful discussion.


Tal big O,

I was giving you a tad bit of a hard time but that does clear things up a bit.

It doesn't sound nearly as cool as your original post.   It's kind of a drag when are ideals of how the world should work run smack into reality.

Suddenly we are discussing demolished mailboxes when we should be discussing demoloshing the box of our enemies.....You know she wants it!!!

It's been a slice, now it's back to banter and flames and wasting bandwidth for me.

Just trying to get me some of this fine CM pussy!!!

I am pretty much the U.N. when it comes to the snatch. Never had me one of them slave girls or a kajira.

Got any spares laying around?  If not, don't be surprised if you come home and your mailbox is run over and all of your women folk have mysteriously disappeared.

It wasn't me.

Rock on and hard.

Mal Baby,

The Great (elected) Earthly Ambassador to Gor Lord Domiguy


 


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RE: Is it ever difficult to be a Gorean? - 2/10/2010 8:06:16 PM   
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All, I sincerely apologize for a quick sentence for what deserves a few paragraphs.

But a primary confusion contributing to the miscommunication in this and the related thread(s) is between Principles and Practices.

From there, a few dozen side issues mixed up all at once.

Is it hard to be a Taoist? No....and yes.

Is it hard to be a Christian? Hell, I don't know any.

Live well.

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RE: Is it ever difficult to be a Gorean? - 2/11/2010 1:24:25 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Malkinius

Greetings domiguy....

I am going to make it simple for you. It is so simple that you missed it when Kimveri said or technically quoted it.

quote:

"I am free, no matter what rules surround me. If I find them tolerable, I tolerate them; if I find them too obnoxious, I break them. I am free because I know that I alone am morally responsible for everything I do."~Robert A. Heinlein


Pay very close attention to the last sentence. We are responsible for whatever we do. That sums up one key understanding of what it means to be Gorean. We CAN do anything we are capable of doing....good...bad...legal...illegal...etc. Whether or not we should do it is a moral and ethical choice. Whatever we chose to do or not do, we are responsible for that choice and ALL consequences resulting from it whether good or bad.

Once you understand this point you will understand Goreans much better and why we say things the way we do. Heinlein, like Norman was rather libertarian in his beliefs and I am certain that Norman has read Heinlein. For all I know, Heinlein may have read some of the Gor books. He was an avid reader of science fiction as well as one of the top writers of the genre. For all I know they could have met as an east coast convention at some point such as a PhilCon or a Boskone.

Be well....

Malkinius



Tal Malkinius

well put is what I tried to convey but I see I was lacking in the efforts, LOL

I wish You well

Robert

again I will share this as I just placed it back on My profile..

Looking at Gorean philosophy, the ideals that form a Man, one has to look at each and apply it to himself. he has a duty to be honest to himself, to respect his own desires, emotions, dreams, and beliefs. In all actions a Man does, he must learn control. Knowing and accepting what he is inside, so that he has the confidence within to do what he deems best for himself. Being able to understand that he could be wrong about something, and taking the responsibility for his actions. Knowing when he just can't do it all himself, and knowing how and where to seek help. Being able to learn and grow, every day, and maintaining the control of himself. Losing control shows one hasn't mastered himself. Granted, there are external factors which can cause a reaction, but how one handles the situation as it arises will show how well he has Mastered himself. This Plain of acknowledgment moves forward as he grows within himself, he can then start to debate the philosophies of Others and learn to improve his own. for none are prefect and life is about change. Without change one can not grow to meet the day. I look back on My path and chuckle at My mistakes but take from them the lessons that where taught. I try to help My brothers about Me see from My own doing or undoing a path that may be better for him in hopes that My life and acknowledgment can reach a even Plain. My foe I offer My arm to help him to reach a even Plain for there would be no honor if the fields where uneven... Just as everyone is different, expectations are different between a Master and the slave he collars. Generally, there would be some rapport between each, especially in a Gorean lifestyle relationship. I have seen others speak of things they will of the slave before them, they speak of submission, devotion, servitude, and love. When the slaves have shared, they wish to submit to a strong man, to serve with devotion in every way possible. Gorean relationships, from both points of view, seem to have some requirement of love. And from what I have seen, between discussions online, and visits offline, there is an amount of deep emotion between the Master and his slave. For me personally, I am no different in these respects. I demand the girl's absolute submission and devotion, respectful servitude, companionship and love. I will, in turn, provide the companionship, friendship, compassion, and love to my kajira, discipline when required, and always careful correction and training. Gor is harsh, but not unnecessarily cruel; neither am I. Once this Plain of acknowledgment is obtained he can achieve his goals mastering his possessions to his will his creations come full color for A/all to see, learn from or stand in awe of his works..the power of this plain is not without its respects. he must keep focused on understanding those about him and within. he then within starts on the first path on the plain of acknowledgment why repeat his steps if it is not broken why fix it! IT Works!! the powerful feeling of seeing his dreams unfold can often without avail corrupt him or his work if he strays on the Plain of acknowledgment. True control is within and comes outward influencing all in its path the processed Plain of acknowledgment based on those of ancient and modern philosophies the goal is to find your zen, find a balance in life. the road leading to the plain is long and harsh NO Man should be alone but is he can he see foot prints of those before him or is someone looking upon his. even now in my own journeys of plain acknowledgment I share with those people learning with me for I feel I am in my home…

I wish You well

Robert

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RE: Is it ever difficult to be a Gorean? - 2/11/2010 8:34:20 AM   
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Tal,

My Gorean brothah.

I have to agree,  I am fairly confident that Orion and I don't share the same Home Stone...I don't think I would even give that nut an old copy of Rolling Stone.

You know it's a damn pitty but a copper tarsk just don't get you very far in this world.

My Gorean brothers the world is a changing.

The battles we fight are now comprised of rush hour traffic and trying to keep our damn kajiras on a sensible diet.

It's all so sad.

Rock on.

Mal,

The Great (elected) Earthly Ambassador to Gor Lord Domiguy


Would you agree then, that many things point to an end to this decadent and crazy world we currently inhabit, and that should such major social/economic/cultural change occur, men might again find themselves more accountable to Lex Talionis?

I have a feeling we are heading there, and much sooner than most anticipate, and in some small part of me, I look forward to being free of the decadence and PC weakness of this world.

Just one old Warrior talking here, mind you.

Be well

Qorvas

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RE: Is it ever difficult to be a Gorean? - 2/11/2010 1:01:05 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Qorvas

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ORIGINAL: domiguy

Tal,

My Gorean brothah.

I have to agree,  I am fairly confident that Orion and I don't share the same Home Stone...I don't think I would even give that nut an old copy of Rolling Stone.

You know it's a damn pitty but a copper tarsk just don't get you very far in this world.

My Gorean brothers the world is a changing.

The battles we fight are now comprised of rush hour traffic and trying to keep our damn kajiras on a sensible diet.

It's all so sad.

Rock on.

Mal,

The Great (elected) Earthly Ambassador to Gor Lord Domiguy


Would you agree then, that many things point to an end to this decadent and crazy world we currently inhabit, and that should such major social/economic/cultural change occur, men might again find themselves more accountable to Lex Talionis?

I have a feeling we are heading there, and much sooner than most anticipate, and in some small part of me, I look forward to being free of the decadence and PC weakness of this world.

Just one old Warrior talking here, mind you.

Be well

Qorvas



I'm not sure about retaliation because who exactly is going to retaliate against what? 

It doesn't look like the PC world is going to abrubtly hault anytime too soon unless there is nothing to be politically correct about.

Which could go directly against some Gorean philosophy? Are we all equal?

Lastly, even though there is a moral code it does seem that there is  a certain level of Gorean decadence that is also part of the attraction, no?

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RE: Is it ever difficult to be a Gorean? - 2/13/2010 8:22:13 AM   
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Hello Domiguy,

I'm going to share with you a little history - You see, those of us who have been around for more than a few years have experienced the same thing.

There have always been those Jokers who step into the Gorean arena (the forums and prior to that, the chat rooms) to poke and prod at the Goreans. They mock and ridicule that which they make no attempt to comprehend. (Sound familiar?)

Eventually, one of two things will happen. The Joker will either get tired of it and disappear, or they will realize that something in this Gorean "thing" strikes a chord with them and develop a desire to know more.

I have a sneaking suspicion this is where you find yourself now.

That being said, those of us who have survived this poking and prodding over the years have become a rather prickly bunch. This would explain some of the responses you received here to what I believe is an earnest desire to learn more.

Because I believe that (and I could be over-estimating you, but then I'm an optimist), I will endeavor to answer some of the points you've raised.

I wonder, have you read any of the books? If not, I would suggest Nomads to start - I think you would enjoy Norman's humor. But, as the saying goes, I digress.

The books are not a "How To" manual to living a Gorean life. The books are fiction. The stories are the vehicle that Norman uses to demonstrate his philosophical theories. Theories that he tends to club the reader over the head with. The theories explain the "why" and the stories demonstrate it.

The process of understanding all this is what I've come to call "The Gorean Experience." There are no magic beans. There is no one mystical thing that a person can do to become Gorean. It is a process. An intensely personal process for each individual.

What does it mean to me to be Gorean?

Learn who and what you are. Do not apologize for your strengths, be proud of them. Do not make excuses for your weaknesses, accept them and if possible, work to overcome them. Find your place in nature and your place on the ladder of power. Work within nature rather than against it. Develop your talents, find your purpose and fullfill it.

Accept responsibility for your actions. Accept the consequences of your actions *regardless of your intent.*

I don't think any of those are impossible to live by today.

Difficult? It can be. In this "It's not my fault! I didn't mean it! I can't reach the bar, lower the standard!" society that we live in, it can be very difficult to stay true to a belief in personal accountability.

Example: In my workplace, I constantly butt heads with a Project Manager who tries to rush projects through. Part of my job is to review his work and when I push things back to him for corrections they're met with accusations of "you're being petty, don't be so picky."

He strives for "Good enough." To me, there's no such thing as "Good enough." It's either right, or it's not.

It took me years to figure out who I am and what I believe. I will not compromise those beliefs. It can make things difficult at times, but I don't know any other way to be. This is who I am.

You will notice I don't include the "H" word in that definition of a Gorean. Honor is a word that's bandied about by a lot of people who only possess an inkling of knowledge re: Gor. It is actually not required to be Gorean. It's been my experience that the more people throw that word around, the less of it they actually possess.

A thief may be a Gorean. He learns and accepts the Gorean tenets and strives to manifest them daily. He may accept that his talents lie in safecracking. He knows himself and fully accepts the consequences of his actions - yep, in my book, he can be Gorean. Perhaps not a Gorean I'd choose to hang with, but a Gorean nonetheless.

The Gorean experience is a journey into the self. It's an honest appraisal of your own strengths and weaknesses. It's taking ownership of yourself and your life and squeezing every ounce of joy out of every moment.

For years, I've been asked the same question... "How do I become Gorean?"

For years, I've been giving them the same answer...

"The journey is more important than the destination."

Should you decide to embark on your own journey... I can only say it's well worth the trip.

I wish you most well,

~Dangrus

 
 
 
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