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RE: female forced orgasm - 3/5/2010 8:56:04 AM   
PrimalConsonance


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ORIGINAL: ricken

I have been thinking about the concept of a forced orgasm for my sub...Seen some ideas on porn and thought it looked good, so I would try it.
She does have orgasms and often pretty intense I love watching her.
This weekend, I thought it would be cool to try...I started out slowly teasing her and makeing sure she was really horny. Then I stoped and made her do a few things...make me a drink, change her outfit to do some modeling for me, I told her to put on a porn  DVD she likes, then I bound her (standing)  and put the vibrator to her. I was talking to her and playing with her tits, and a couple of times she seemed like she was close. But never orgasmed, even she wanted too.
When I realized it wasn't working, I backed off, let her calm down and re-started in a less agressive way. At the point she told me her pussy was too numb from the vibrator, I actually used the low setting.
I am wondering if this is common, are vibrators too much for some women? Or do I need to change the way I'm doing things?  I wasn't even useing one of those Hitachi (sp?) Any insight would be great, thanks



WARNING!  The Hitachi is a killer of sorts...the words addiction and dependency come to mind.  Use sparingly, and if you cut it out all together for awhile, you may even see her orgasms become stronger and more sensitive with touch and such.  Oh they are great things and the Cadillac (outside of a good 'ol Maytag that is off-balance...ahh the good old days for some) of hand-held vibrators...barring a Harley, but just beware.  Get her used to more manual stimulation and back off the vibrators since she doesn't have a problem orgasming.  You both will be thankful for it.  Once weened off, she'll be capable of some wonderful things without getting too numb (raw and sore maybe, but not numb) to play with.  Good luck!


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RE: female forced orgasm - 3/5/2010 3:11:54 PM   
GotSteel


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Status: offline 		Um....I really can't say that I've ever run into the problem you're talking about.

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RE: female forced orgasm - 3/5/2010 3:19:49 PM   
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Status: offline 		Focus on that very special orgasmic zone... I'm sure you know where it is... just in case you don't... it is 2-3 feet higher than where you were working. 

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RE: female forced orgasm - 3/5/2010 6:39:47 PM   
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...I'm too busy scouring the internet for an affordable Hitachi magic wand


No need to "scour"... here ya go:  http://www.google.com/products?q=hitachi+wand&scoring=p



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RE: female forced orgasm - 3/6/2010 5:01:15 AM   
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Status: offline 		FR, ive got numb in the past, but only after ive orgasmed and the urge isnt so much.  the nerve endings get such an overload of sensation that once that initial 'yeeha bejainey' has eased up things can start to get a little lame down there.

i agree totally with fetishrose - sometimes something new, wanting to please, getting it right, pressure from you cos youre all looking forward to it all, so some level of scrutiny from you too, her being youre absolute focus (even with the TV on) - can get in the way. 

also you have to be ever so careful where you place that thing.  too close to the clit without using the labia as a sort of insulator against too much and itll just hurt rather than pleasure, if you keep touching the clit with that thing racing youre just going to make her tense and unable to really get into whats happening.

ive O'd standing up - coming from someone who was convinced she could only O in the missionary position - im just saying it shouldnt be much of an issue really

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RE: female forced orgasm - 3/6/2010 11:41:24 AM   
DesFIP


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ORIGINAL: ricken

...and if she never orgasms while standing it wont be for lack of me trying


No but it will be destructive to the relationship. If you keep focusing on this and she, like many of us, is incapable of it then you are telling her that she's a failure.

Is that really the message you want to send? "You can't imitate the girls faking it in porn so you aren't a real woman". Tell her to fake an orgasm and move on. It would be kinder to her than what you're doing.

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RE: female forced orgasm - 3/7/2010 8:21:18 PM   
GotSteel


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Status: offline 		DesFIP, that was really needlessly negative. But I would say that the OP may want to spend some time getting more familiar with her and letting her get more comfortable with him before he tries to replicate elaborate porn scenarios.

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RE: female forced orgasm - 3/8/2010 10:48:58 AM   
ricken


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Status: offline 		Just a little update....
DesFIP, I of course mean I am making a strong effort, it is not the onlything we do...So I don't want people to think I am fixated on this, Think of it as a goal, something I want to see her do, and am willing to invest time in it, if it doesn't happen, well it doesn't but I dont give up easily.

So whats been happening, as I said, I have stoped introducing new ideas, I have been working on the standing orgasm, so far I got her REAL close over the weeknd, I got her started on her back made her stand, then let her get on her back again, the second time she was standing...she was starting to cum but she begged me to let her lie down...and yeah I gave in, I know maybe not the most Dom thing to do but watching her cum drives me nuts So I let her lay down and in seconds she got off.

I was just using my mouth and a regular vib. 

I plan on pushing her a little farther each time, and just so people know, I've let her have a few regular, on her back orgasms, with out makeing her stand since I started this post


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RE: female forced orgasm - 3/8/2010 5:24:55 PM   
Drifa


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Status: offline 		Very pricey, but a Sybian is about the only device that can force me into repeated orgasms like this. And watching your partner sitting in front of you twiddling the control dials as you helplessly take all the buzz they are dishing out... um, excuse me, gotta go see what my honey's up to!

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RE: female forced orgasm - 3/9/2010 5:06:28 PM   
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ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

Focus on that very special orgasmic zone... I'm sure you know where it is... just in case you don't... it is 2-3 feet higher than where you were working. 


Bravo for adding this important bit. 

As many have said, every woman is a bit different.  Nevertheless, I think the following short article is one of the best all around guides for men:

10 Lessons about the Female Orgasm

With regard to your current technique of moving her to standing once she's close, you might pay particular attention to the lesson entitled "Follow Her Lead".

The biggest issue I've ever had with  men when it comes to me getting to orgasm (aside from those who don't give two hoots if I do get one), is they lack patience.  Depending on the stimulation, it takes some women more time and... concentration in order to reach orgasm.  I can't orgasm if my attention is being diverted to other things... like trying to keep my balance, ignore being in an extremely uncomfortable position, or stay standing up.  I might get close, but going over the top is nearly impossible.  And if I'm being made to feel that I'm taking too long?  Forget it.  It ain't happening at all.

Add enough mental and physical distractions and that Hitachi might feel incredible but it'll numb me long before I ever get an "o".

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RE: female forced orgasm - 4/3/2010 7:03:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		Why would anyone want a FORCED orgasm?  I find that most women like them just fine, and don't need to be forced.  It's quite fun to start and stop though, until the woman threatens to kill you unless you let them come.

I've had no trouble having an orgasm standing up.  Never thought about it. 

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RE: female forced orgasm - 7/7/2010 12:02:18 PM   
ricken


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Status: offline 		I know it's an old post, but for the people that contributed I wanted to update

After thinking about this post I gave up the idea of a "forced" orgasm, beause I think with her it is impossable

SO....she did a standing orgasm, TWICE....I've backed off from this for a while, then the other day she was doing something else and I just wanted to play with her, she was trying to fall down a bit but I wouldn't let her...Then she did it. The next day she comes up to me and started teasing me and said she wanted me to make her cum (standing) again...This time it was BIG, the feeling of holding her up, and the look on her face was such a turn on for me.

I never like to give up, and think that now she has had a couple it will be easier for her.

And why did I want to do this? Because I can, its a big turn on for me...

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