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ORIGINAL: HoosierScorpio

I have done all the right things when responding. I am never rude unless they show their rudeness and uncivilized manners. I have been looking for a while and still get allot of those who think I am player because I have been respond to allot because they are not responding back. Some of these ladies have had so many run in with players they have turned them selves off some one who is real responding to them.  I have made some good friends on here and have met them in person but I have also heard from allot from those same people with the same problems. When you run across 10 people and 8 have had the same problem then there is something there.  We need to talk about this so we can make change and in hopes making things better.  Were the protocol this lifestyle has we should be practicing this at all times.  If we can not be open and honest about our feelings about this issue then how can you communicate with your Master, Mistress, slave, and sub?

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ORIGINAL: CERCKL

If you send out emails and you get few responses, why? Are you boring as dried up shit? Rude?

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How interesting.  A whining post whining about whining.  Now I have seen everything.

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I wonder... when one complains about not being fullfilled... if they ever will be. My life is fullfilled now... with out a Dom or Master. Yes it would be nice to share with someone. But I do not need someone to make my life full. Everyone... no excuse me.. that should say SOME... want everything now.... use to be fun waiting, watching, looking about, searching one out.

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Good topic, Cerckl.

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A book I recently read summarized this simply by saying that you can't give away what you don't have.  The people I frequently see (in person, not talking about online) who are single and doing nothing but constantly complaining about it are also usually the ones other people are politely trying to back away from at a very quick pace........hopefully without spilling their drink.  

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Yes, but another tenant of Buddhism is compassion. Some people truly haven't learned anything about themselves nor do they care to. Still, it's their path. Not everyone will reach for enlightenment.

But, that still doesn’t mean they’re not annoying! Just that we understand why they’re annoying when they don’t! LOL

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ORIGINAL: litaTshai

Greetings, All,

i think there are a couple of issues here that contribute to the problem.

first off,  too many of us approach this, like everything else, with a "fast food" mentality.  we want instant gratification in every area of our lives.  face it, folks, it ain't gonna happen.  even bread must be given time to rise or it's no good.  most things in life are better if given time to develop naturally, not pushed because we are in such a hurry.  we forget that even with "fast food", a lot of time and thought has been taken by a lot of people for a long time ahead of your visit to the drive-up window to insure that you can get your food quickly.  even fast food may not really be all that fast.  we just think it is because  the restaurants have prepard a lon g time ahead, hoping we will suddenly want something quickly.

secondly, we do not want to have to think.  we want everything to work like machinery.  push this button, throw that switch, and voila!  a perfect item drops at our feet.  not everything works that way either.  we can perform steps 1,2, and 3 a hundred times over, but that doesn't mean the result will be the same every time, nor does it mean the "machine" is broken.  we are all human beings, and humans aren't "mechanical".   the same input won't get the same results with all of us every time.  heck it won't even get the same results with one of us each and every time.

so, getting what we want, whatever that may be, takes a lot of time, thought, and effort.  sorry but there aren't any shortcuts.

just the thoughts of an old slave.

respectfully submitted,

lita {Tshai}