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Dealiing with Womanitis - 3/11/2010 1:28:58 AM   
Darkmike


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Status: offline 		Ok, I realise that this is one of those silly questions and every sub is different but how are other masters out there dealing with Womanitis, female insecurities and jealousy.
Say your woman throws a wobley every time she thinks about you interacting with another woman.
Do you keep your mouth shut about your day to day interactions with other women in case she throws a hissy, risking the fact that if she finds out and feels uninformed it will be twice as bad or tell her about every little detail and have hundreds of micro hissy fits. Or just cut loose?


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RE: Dealiing with Womanitis - 3/11/2010 1:34:26 AM   
RCdc


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Status: offline 		It's not a silly question but it is a sexist one.  It's not just females that suffer from insecurities and jealousy.

You just have to look at it from your position and see if there is something you are doing or not doing that is making her suspicious.  If you feel you haven't and you can't deal with this, then really the relationships messed anyway.

You have to accept your part in this and then work on it from there.

Edit to add - And stop thinking of someone as male or female and as a person instead, and talk about them as a person and the way you interact with said person when the issue arises.  Don't purposefully hide it, don't flaunt it either.  Just be yourself and if it's normal, you have no probs.  If your partner has, then that's their issue and if their lack of trust bugging you, then end it.

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RE: Dealiing with Womanitis - 3/11/2010 1:39:44 AM   
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Status: offline 		I suffered a boyfriend with that affliction... eventually i had to leave him, it was incurable apparently and i could not cope with it any longer

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RE: Dealiing with Womanitis - 3/11/2010 2:12:10 AM   
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Status: online 		"hundreds of micro hissy fits"

Why would you submit to a bratty Domme that will "throw a hissy" if you look at another woman or talk about it?  I just don't understand your choice in relationship partner if what she is doing makes you unhappy.


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RE: Dealiing with Womanitis - 3/11/2010 2:15:30 AM   
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Status: offline 		i dont talk about every conversation or interraction i have with every person i come across through the course of the day - male or female - i dont see the need to be honest to 'rub' her nose in youre interractions with women if they make her feel insecure.

in the end it isnt really about that, its about making her feel secure and she obviously doesnt - that might be to do with her past history or it might be she is just a very jealous person - if the former then i think youre being a bit insensitive and if its the latter then maybe you should walk, since youve offered that as an option youd consider.

whats she going to find out, that you talked to someone, so what - but if its that she's going to find out that youre cheating on her then its probably time for her to walk away.

if youre into a more open or polyamarous relationship then youve clearly found youreself someone who doesnt fit youre personality.

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RE: Dealiing with Womanitis - 3/11/2010 2:15:52 AM   
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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

"hundreds of micro hissy fits"

Why would you submit to a bratty Domme that will "throw a hissy" if you look at another woman or talk about it?  I just don't understand your choice in relationship partner if what she is doing makes you unhappy.



Other way round, RS; he's dominant.

And his profile says nothing about already having someone.

OP, if you're neglecting to mention her existence is it any wonder she feels insecure? You treat her like that in real life?


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RE: Dealiing with Womanitis - 3/11/2010 2:24:09 AM   
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RE: Dealiing with Womanitis - 3/11/2010 3:01:34 AM   
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Status: offline 		If she's insecure because of trust issues between the two of you, then it's up to you to put her at ease and reassure her that there's nothing to worry about...as long as there's nothing to worry about.
If she's insecure because of personal self esteem issues, then it's up to her to figure out what and why she has these insecurities. All you can do is support her.

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RE: Dealiing with Womanitis - 3/11/2010 3:08:15 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Darkmike

Ok, I realise that this is one of those silly questions and every sub is different but how are other masters out there dealing with Womanitis, female insecurities and jealousy.
Say your woman throws a wobley every time she thinks about you interacting with another woman.
Do you keep your mouth shut about your day to day interactions with other women in case she throws a hissy, risking the fact that if she finds out and feels uninformed it will be twice as bad or tell her about every little detail and have hundreds of micro hissy fits. Or just cut loose?


Do you love her? Or just like her? Have you worked with her on her insecurities, or is it worth it to you to do so?

Personally, life is too short to have perpetual battles going on in my life.

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RE: Dealiing with Womanitis - 3/11/2010 3:11:13 AM   
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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

quote:

ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

"hundreds of micro hissy fits"

Why would you submit to a bratty Domme that will "throw a hissy" if you look at another woman or talk about it?  I just don't understand your choice in relationship partner if what she is doing makes you unhappy.



Other way round, RS; he's dominant.

And his profile says nothing about already having someone.

OP, if you're neglecting to mention her existence is it any wonder she feels insecure? You treat her like that in real life?



I think he realizes that, he's just making a point that the OP isn't dominating her, it seems.

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RE: Dealiing with Womanitis - 3/11/2010 3:12:40 AM   
VaguelyCurious


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ORIGINAL: Level


quote:

ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

quote:

ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

"hundreds of micro hissy fits"

Why would you submit to a bratty Domme that will "throw a hissy" if you look at another woman or talk about it?  I just don't understand your choice in relationship partner if what she is doing makes you unhappy.



Other way round, RS; he's dominant.

And his profile says nothing about already having someone.

OP, if you're neglecting to mention her existence is it any wonder she feels insecure? You treat her like that in real life?



I think he realizes that, he's just making a point that the OP isn't dominating her, it seems.


Ah-sorry RS; dopey moment...

Thanks, Level :-)


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RE: Dealiing with Womanitis - 3/11/2010 3:19:09 AM   
RCdc


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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious
Other way round, RS; he's dominant.

And his profile says nothing about already having someone.

OP, if you're neglecting to mention her existence is it any wonder she feels insecure? You treat her like that in real life?



He VC... I'd ditto what Mr Level said.
That said, I didn't perv the dudes profile until you mentioned his lack of reference to his girl.
I would suggest that about says it all about why shes feeling insecure.  There isn't even a mention of poly on your profile OP.  Like I said... look at yourself and your own behavious first. 

the.dark.

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RE: Dealiing with Womanitis - 3/11/2010 3:21:19 AM   
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RE: Dealiing with Womanitis - 3/11/2010 4:16:59 AM   
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Status: offline 		Everyone else has covered this so I am just going to point out one little thing here.

-itis means inflammation, so unless your women is swelling, you might want to come up with a different word. Just saying...


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RE: Dealiing with Womanitis - 3/11/2010 4:18:06 AM   
Level


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Status: offline 		Swelling woman syndrome?

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RE: Dealiing with Womanitis - 3/11/2010 4:27:03 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		I was insecure and jealous with my ex because he enjoyed making me feel that way. At parties he wouldn't talk to me but to everyone else. The Man enjoys being with me and seeks opportunity to do so. Even when out with others he isn't eying every other woman and ignoring me. And he sure doesn't do so when on a date with me. He doesn't tell me about his interactions with other women by implying how superior they are to me, how much hotter etc.

If your actions are designed to make her feel unloved, unwanted etc then why be surprised when she feels that way?


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RE: Dealiing with Womanitis - 3/11/2010 4:27:18 AM   
divi


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Status: offline 		oops I must still be sleeping I thought Level said Smelling Woman Syndrome lol

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RE: Dealiing with Womanitis - 3/11/2010 4:42:40 AM   
RCdc


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Swelling woman syndrome?


Maybe he's actually talking about pregnancy?  See... now that wouldn't make his post biologically sexist.

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RE: Dealiing with Womanitis - 3/11/2010 5:00:17 AM   
Level


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ORIGINAL: divi

oops I must still be sleeping I thought Level said Smelling Woman Syndrome lol


This I suffer from:





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RE: Dealiing with Womanitis - 3/11/2010 5:01:35 AM   
divi


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