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ORIGINAL: Andalusite

azjojoba, frankly, I don't think you should try to get involved with them, even if they are inexpensive to participate in. Even when they have training sessions, there is no guarantee that you will be allowed to serve. You come across as having a very poor attitude toward service, which would be likely to set a bad mood/vibe if you did so, and I believe that priority is often given to men who are already in service to one of the attending ladies, or who have at least one who will vouch for him, rather than by random lot. You'd probably still feel taken advantage of inancially, and the ladies would most likely be unhappy with you, and you wouldn't be welcome back again.

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ORIGINAL: Andalusite

azjojoba, frankly, I don't think you should try to get involved with them, even if they are inexpensive to participate in. Even when they have training sessions, there is no guarantee that you will be allowed to serve. You come across as having a very poor attitude toward service, which would be likely to set a bad mood/vibe if you did so, and I believe that priority is often given to men who are already in service to one of the attending ladies, or who have at least one who will vouch for him, rather than by random lot. You'd probably still feel taken advantage of inancially, and the ladies would most likely be unhappy with you, and you wouldn't be welcome back again.

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ORIGINAL: azjojoba
You might be right -- but until I try it I wouldn't know. Your attitude seems very defeatist

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ORIGINAL: BoiJen

I was waiting for someone to point out his past instances of poor attitude toward ProDommes and women in general. Not to mention that the women at these parties are likely to ask him if he's married and if his wife knows. If he says his wife knows, they're going to ask for confirmation of it. Not to beat the dead horse, but one would hope he's come to the understanding by now that women looking for personal situations don't want the married guy and women willing to take on the married guy are going to charge.

The events I know of are invite only and everybody needs references or extensive interviews. The primary reason behind that is to minimize drama. No organizer wants one cheating man's wife to show up at any event and start making noise. It's bad for atmosphere and future party potential.

In essence, I hate to break it to ya, azjojoba, but if you were looking to get away with womanizing, masquerading as an s-type isn't gonna be the way to do it.

So for all the married and not married, dishonest, cheating men out there who are looking for one of these parties, you're not gonna find a whole lot going for you if anything at all. If you think I'm full of shit about it...check your track record against the guys who are openly honest with their partners. I'd be more than willing to place the bet that those guys know about and get invited to these parties far more often than you do.

Just pointing out the obvious.

boi

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ORIGINAL: azjojoba

I'm hoping I can find a party that doesn't check marital status or other private personal details. It seems very wrong to me that these clubs would demand such a thing.

By the way, I don't have a poor attitude about service or pro dommes. You are giving me a bum rap.

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ORIGINAL: azjojoba

I'm hoping I can find a party that doesn't check marital status or other private personal details. It seems very wrong to me that these clubs would demand such a thing.

By the way, I don't have a poor attitude about service or pro dommes. You are giving me a bum rap.

• It's always her fault they aren't happy.
• Because it's her fault, they can lie about what they're doing..."I'm not trying to hurt her" it just happens that somehow doing something they know will hurt their partner if their partner finds out is somehow justified if they simply don't think about their partner during the cheating process.
• Partner finds out, cheater blames the partner and gets kicked out on their ass (from the relationship) and the cheater goes about the process of looking for the next sucker who doesn't have a clue about the cheater's past.

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ORIGINAL: slavekal

Marital status is not all that personal.  It's not like they want your social security number.  Lifestyle dommes have every right to know if the men they are dealing with are single.  

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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

So you are hoping to find an event which will allow you to lie to its members by omission while serving them, and yet you don't have a poor attitude.

Right.

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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009

Dude, you're digging the hole deeper and deeper, and you don't seem to realize it.  One more comment, and the hole that you're digging yourself into is likely to reach Hades.  Quit while you're behind. 

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ORIGINAL: azjojoba

Nope -- I wouldn't attend such a thing even if the question was asked and they believed my lie. If you had a brain you wouldn't either.

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ORIGINAL: azjojoba

It's not possible to dig a hole all the way to Hades....

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ORIGINAL: azjojoba

I'm wondering if there is anybody sane at CM.

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ORIGINAL: Venatrix

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ORIGINAL: azjojoba

I'm wondering if there is anybody sane at CM.

No, we're all lunatics. Unfortunately for you, that doesn't preclude us having high standards.

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ORIGINAL: azjojoba

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ORIGINAL: slavekal

Marital status is not all that personal.  It's not like they want your social security number.  Lifestyle dommes have every right to know if the men they are dealing with are single.  

Are you stupid??? Verifying marital status is totally personal. Just what kind of information do you think it would take to verify something like that? A phone number? An address where somebody can go to spy on the house? Social security numbers don't give you a clue unless you are plugged into an IRS database or insurance or some other computerized database. A telephone number reveals more than you think.

So, I think verifying marital status is OK if everyone at the party is comfortable with revealing their real names, phone numbers, and addresses. Whoever runs the party can then go to each place of residence and if nobody is home they can ask neighbors -- or maybe they can pay for a complete background check. Would that be cool to you nincompoops?

Of course I would avoid those parties because it would prove that everyone attending has the IQ of a chimpanzee. I wouldn't go to one if my wife wanted to go, or approved.

I'm sure not a single one of you has considered that just because a couple shows up it doesn't prove that they aren't both cheating on spouses. Go to craigslist and see how many of both sexes are looking for anonymous partners to attend kink parties.

The people posting here are just being hypocritical. I can tell you from experience that local bdsm groups allow everyone to use an alias name and there are no background checks. If invasions of privacy like this were allowed then nobody in their right mind would attend these parties. I'm wondering if there is anybody sane at CM.

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ORIGINAL: azjojoba

Nope -- I wouldn't attend such a thing even if the question was asked and they believed my lie. If you had a brain you wouldn't either.

aren't there.