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RE: Femdom Mistress Parties - 4/9/2010 7:33:06 AM

slavekal

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Thanks, Lady Pact, Jen...Of course it is POSSIBLE for someone to be lying about marital status and such, but at many private parties, the people invited are people you have known a while. There are clues when someone is cheating. And actually, most people are honest about marital status. When I host a party, I invite people I have known a while, or guests who have been vouched for by a long time friend. CFNM party on the 30th.

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RE: Femdom Mistress Parties - 4/9/2010 8:29:12 AM

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azjojoba, yes, some people might lie about it, but most people will answer honestly when asked directly, and as other people have mentioned, the people who are invited to private events (especially as servers) tend to be screened fairly thoroughly, and only invited when they are vouched for/known by the organiser. If I discovered that you or another cheating man was planning to serve at an event I was intending to attend, I would contact the organiser and inform him or her, and ask if they still planned to allow you to be there. If the organiser didn't care about such things, I probably would decide not to attend due to the incompatibility between their mindset and mine. If they simply couldn't get another server on such short notice, I would probably go, but would not allow you to serve me. With the mindset that you have expressed frequently toward service, even if you were not cheating, I would prefer not to interact with you in that way.

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RE: Femdom Mistress Parties - 4/9/2010 5:53:37 PM

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ORIGINAL: Madame4a

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I've waited a bit on this.. here's my rant about Femdom parties as such.. I had tried to attend an 'open' one (advertised on the net) in Florida and I was told I could not as my relationship did not conform to the model. I was told I would not be welcome as my boy was not biologically male. I am not sure that the whole dyke thing didn't freak them out. In the end, I found it annoying and pissy. I do think that Femdom is Femdom, regardless of who is in service to you. I also think that I have a great deal in common with my straight Femdom friends etc. I also find at the local Femdom gatherings, I am welcome -- so who knows.

Personally, it put me off to the point where I won't bother again.

I TOTALLY agree. As a male slave, I've attended and served at a number of femdom parties. I really enjoy serving women unclothed. There is often a woman or two how serves as well. So what? A female dominant is a female dominant; a slave can be either a male, female, or trans.

I agree that femdom is femdom. As a male slave, I identify more with a female slave than a male dom.

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RE: Femdom Mistress Parties - 4/9/2010 6:14:34 PM

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ORIGINAL: BoiJen

With a few exceptions (slaveKal being one of them) most of the guys I've met looking to go to one of these parties treat the situation as a fetish buffet and go about objectifying the Women there under the guise of "serving". It becomes about how many Women they can get to x, y, and z to them....not so much about what those Women really want to do.

Odd. I've never seen this type of behavior at a Female Domme party. Many of the Dommes bring their own subs/slaves; the single ones are just very hopeful to find a woman to serve.

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RE: Femdom Mistress Parties - 4/9/2010 6:20:37 PM

trueshadow

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ORIGINAL: BoiJen

*****WARNING: Rant*****

I am personally distinctly opposed to serving naked or being served (if a guest in someone's home) by a naked anybody when it comes to food or drinks. It's simply inappropriate to put anyone's sexually based fantasies near anybody else's food unless otherwise previously arranged and consented to.

And no matter what anyone else may think, FORMAL service includes clothing, no gag, no butt plug, no wigs...none of it. Formal service is done in formal attire with formal manners and in formal settings. Having been a formal server professionally...this is beyond pet peeve when individuals insist on calling fetish oriented service "formal". And I refuse to be open minded about it. Thankfully, there's several FemDoms in this area who happen to agree with me on this aspect and only a few who are clouded by what turns them on.

****End Rant****

To each his own, I suppose. I've served at parties, and we go to a kitchen, fill up a pot of tea, have kitchen slaves put sandwiches etc on a tray. When a server walks, they don't hold a tray by their genitals. The hold a tray as one would carry an ordinary tray at a, say, ordinary restaurant. Perhaps you should think about this when/if you go to restaurants.

We put the tray beside us as we kneel before a Domme. We then sit silently, filling the lady's cup up. We offer sandwiches from the tray, and so on.

Since you've never been to a tea, perhaps you could suspend judgment until/unless you go to one. Cleanliness is very important to all. Servers are allowed to eat after the ladies are served, if desired.

Perhaps you are all hot and bothered because your situation doesn't lend itself to such an event. Perhaps you should just not comment about things you don't know about.

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