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RE: Black Doms/white subs - 5/11/2010 2:41:09 AM   
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I'll speak for THIS white guy: Damn, I love the Asian attitude. Mostly I prefer Indonesian (personal experience); but most Asian-born woman I've been intimate with are extremely and deliciously passive. They don't have much imagination; but damn, the pleasure of doing what you want is delectable.


You have no idea how bigoted and offensive that statement is, do you?

- LA




I didn't find that bigoted. I'm not offended by it. I've also LIVED in Asia for more than a year. *I do think part of his opinion is off base. Come to Korea, man, I'll show you how those "passive" women really are. *snort. The creativity part though... Yeah, it's sad. Many of the waygooks (foreigners) here comment on how terribly sad it is to watch the creativity be destroyed in the people around us. It is a common topic of discussion. When conformity is the highest measure, imagination and creativity are sacrificed.

From what I see, Pompeii is talking about his personal experience with certain women. Let me say it in reverse:

The Latino men I've been with are pretty much steeped in machismo. Love the dominant kind of confidence that comes with that.

Not a thing bigoted or racist ... just personal experience and recognition of a cultural norm.

There is also a certain truth in cultural differences. There *is* an Asian attitude. Asian people *do* tend to seem more passive. I can't get my Asian students to answer a dang open ended question I ask. They just don't speak. They are not assertive. It's a cultural thing. And it's REAL. My Latino students on the other hand wouldn't shut up. Another cultural thing. (I'm not going to go into the actual reasons for it, but suffice it to say that I've had lengthy discussions with many people from these two cultures about their behaviors and norms).

There is a difference between personal experience and bigotry, between recognizing cultural norms and trashing them.

As for the Columbia study, frankly, I think there is a difference by *age*. Men who were soldiers in Korea or VietNam I would think would have a higher preference for Asian women because those women are linked with their "coming of age" or a very traumatic time of their lives. We tend to be more open to change / suggestion during traumatic times. I would expect the preference but don't have any statistics. However, we do often link things like that.

And before you all flame me, I was tested in university, and I was an anomaly. In acceptance of others I was off the charts. Literally, my number went beyond the highest setting. My teacher was sure I'd done the numbers wrong but after checking it 3 times, he told me I was the most open minded, accepting person he'd ever met or would ever meet. He was over 70 years old and had over 40 years experience in the field.

At the end of the day, there is a difference in cultures. There just is. We can dance all around and say we are all the same, and that is a crock of nonsense. There are also personal preferences. Who cares? We like what we like. We like it because we like the norms, the culture, the smell, the way skin looks, whatever. I like men who use bifocals. I think it's hot. Who the fuck knows why? I don't. Does that make me bigoted? No, just weird.

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*edited for clarity

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RE: Black Doms/white subs - 5/11/2010 8:25:27 AM   
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It means that bella loves to openly discuss the atrocity that is circumcision


You don't make any sense. And you look gay. Are you submisisve or a switch?



Very funny. Why it doesn't make sense to you is that it appears that once God got done crafting your ass and small tits he forgot to place anything twix your ears.

You remind me of another poster named pompeii.

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RE: Black Doms/white subs - 5/11/2010 8:36:56 AM   
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I didn't find that bigoted. I'm not offended by it. I've also LIVED in Asia for more than a year. *I do think part of his opinion is off base. Come to Korea, man, I'll show you how those "passive" women really are. *snort. The creativity part though... Yeah, it's sad. Many of the waygooks (foreigners) here comment on how terribly sad it is to watch the creativity be destroyed in the people around us. It is a common topic of discussion. When conformity is the highest measure, imagination and creativity are sacrificed.

From what I see, Pompeii is talking about his personal experience with certain women. Let me say it in reverse:

The Latino men I've been with are pretty much steeped in machismo. Love the dominant kind of confidence that comes with that.

Not a thing bigoted or racist ... just personal experience and recognition of a cultural norm.



There is a difference between personal experience and bigotry, between recognizing cultural norms and trashing them.


And before you all flame me, I was tested in university, and I was an anomaly. In acceptance of others I was off the charts. Literally, my number went beyond the highest setting. My teacher was sure I'd done the numbers wrong but after checking it 3 times, he told me I was the most open minded, accepting person he'd ever met or would ever meet. He was over 70 years old and had over 40 years experience in the field.

At the end of the day, there is a difference in cultures. There just is. We can dance all around and say we are all the same, and that is a crock of nonsense. There are also personal preferences. Who cares? We like what we like. We like it because we like the norms, the culture, the smell, the way skin looks, whatever. I like men who use bifocals. I think it's hot. Who the fuck knows why? I don't. Does that make me bigoted? No, just weird.

Best,
sunshine


*edited for clarity


Really dumb post. First off he is not talking about "Korea" he is talking about life in the good ol' USA...So stay on point. secondly he is using incredibly negative stereotypes to marginalize a large group of people.

Fat people act a certain way. Or what makes Asians so fucking hot. Give me a fucking break.....The guy is a complete tool.

Much of what he suggest is not a cultural activity but one more based upon economics. Poor inner city whites act in a very similar manner to their black counterparts.

lastly, you trying to justify yours statement based upon some obscure test is complete nonsense. Your words should be able to stand on their own just like his......

Unfortunately some mod took it upon themself to remove the "meat" of his post which is complete bullshit!!!!



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RE: Black Doms/white subs - 5/11/2010 8:42:39 AM   
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One more thing.....Why would the MODS clean up his shit and not let it stand?

Seems like that might be a good reference point for people to know exactly who to avoid.


WHAT IS UP WITH THAT SHIT???????


MODS, IT IS ALWAYS NICE WHEN SOMEONE EXPOSES THEMSELVES FOR WHAT THEY ARE......WHY NOT LET PEOPLE VIEW WHAT pompeii HAD TO CONTRIBUTE TO THE CONVERSATION?????

I CALL BULLSHIT!!!

IT REALLY DOES DESERVE A SINCERE RESPONSE.

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RE: Black Doms/white subs - 5/11/2010 9:06:15 AM   
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your conspiracy theory and angry words reveal more about you domiguy than you may want us to know

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RE: Black Doms/white subs - 5/11/2010 9:08:58 AM   
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your conspiracy theory and angry words reveal more about you domiguy than you may want us to know
Nah, sweetie, he's always like this. We already know.

I kinda like him anyway.

Even though he always has a dead person for an avatar, and yet won't tell us whether or not he's got round to being embalmed...


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RE: Black Doms/white subs - 5/11/2010 9:21:11 AM   
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your conspiracy theory and angry words reveal more about you domiguy than you may want us to know
Nah, sweetie, he's always like this. We already know.

I kinda like him anyway.

Even though he always has a dead person for an avatar, and yet won't tell us whether or not he's got round to being embalmed...



She was sent out here to try and defend pompeii's lost dignity. He is apparently unable to man up.

She as well as slavelynn95008 have messaged me privately for taking that racist douchebag pompeii to task....They are all from Cali.


The shame is the mods removing his words so that he doesn't have to stand behind them...It's total bullshit.


Cute asian girl defending an asiaphile....How cute.

Taken from the Urban Dictionary....

1. asiaphile

Typically a fat white loser in his 50's who trolls around South-East Asia for a slim, submissive young May Ping Pang who wants him for his money and will want to cement their relationship with a child ASAP.
Look at that sweaty, red-faced asiaphile, he can't get a quality woman at home so he goes to Bangkok instead
by fuck you asiaphiles.


2. Asiaphile

A non-Asian person who sees Asian people not as individuals but as sex objects.
for example many guys that say "I wish I had an Asian chick, they're hot"...to women that sounds like "I wish I had a (insert inanimate object here)"
We're human, not commodities


3. asiaphile

A none asian male who prefers asian women. This attracation is based on shallow perceptions and media stereotypes of asian women.An asianphile believes asian women are better to screw aroud with because they think they are more submissive and much weaker.
The asiaphile went to Bangkok to find himself some nice young asian prostitutes.



If the shoe fits, wear it....Especially if it is bounded to your feet.




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RE: Black Doms/white subs - 5/11/2010 9:25:33 AM   
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You must be wrong about all this.

The community would never behave in such a fashion.

We are all special and better than  everyone else!


This shall resonate through the community!

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RE: Black Doms/white subs - 5/11/2010 9:30:56 AM   
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Did I miss something exciting, or just the usual? I am an old white broad but I would love a hot asian slave, just saying.

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RE: Black Doms/white subs - 5/11/2010 9:31:14 AM   
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domiguy,
You're a liar!
I sent you a post asking "Are you black or white? You look black in your picture."
I was interested in you. But no more!
Please do not make up stories in your angry offtopic childish rants ruining any adult discussion.
Your childish personal attacks reveal far more about you than you really want us to know.

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RE: Black Doms/white subs - 5/11/2010 9:33:07 AM   
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...still no word on the embalming situation...

(kidding, kidding...)

Seriously: what Pompeii said was unpleasant. It was an exaggeration, it was a generalisation, it was the perpetuation of a negative stereotype.

But stereotypes and archetypes don't come out of nowhere. I'm not sure I buy your 'blame it on the economics' theory-and moving to another country doesn't entirely invalidate your original culture, so I don't think you can dismiss what sunshinemiss had to say as off-topic quite so readily.

Saying 'you're an Asian, therefore I expect you to be quiet and passive' is flawed. But saying 'some Asian cultures traditionally value passivity and quietness in a way that wider American society doesn't, and therefore some Asian American women are quieter and more passive than your average white American woman as a result of the influence of their primary culture' is more understandable (if much more long-winded).


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RE: Black Doms/white subs - 5/11/2010 9:33:15 AM   
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Gold coast slave ship bound for cotton fields
Sold in a market down in New Orleans
Scarred old slaver knows he's doin alright
Hear him whip the women just around midnight!

ahhhhhhhh, Brown sugar, how come you taste so good
ahhhhhhhhhhh Brown Sugar! just like a black girl should!

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RE: Black Doms/white subs - 5/11/2010 9:33:24 AM   
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RE: Black Doms/white subs - 5/11/2010 9:35:31 AM   
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Sing it, Anteaterman!!

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RE: Black Doms/white subs - 5/11/2010 9:35:36 AM   
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I sent you a post asking "Are you black or white? You look black in your picture."
That's a PICTURE OF JESUS.

Come on, girl-nobody is that daft...


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RE: Black Doms/white subs - 5/11/2010 9:37:19 AM   
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"Daft"... that is so cute!

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RE: Black Doms/white subs - 5/11/2010 9:40:14 AM   
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badunkaduk???




This might help.

*Don't tell Holly. She loves this guy... She'll faint on the spot and heaven knows we don't need her hurting herself again.
ooooo Trace!!!

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RE: Black Doms/white subs - 5/11/2010 9:42:03 AM   
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Good Lord, how I try. You know what separates us from the little people? It's the community! (and by little people, yes, I mean the Asians).......(and by community I am strictly referring to caucasians)

Without the community we are nothing. it rips me insides asunder to see the good folks of the community turn upon each other in such a manner. Where else have we ever seen blacks and whites fighting and Asians hating virtually everyone? It only happens out here!!.... Of course unless one wants to be a total stickler for detail and throw in all of those wars that have left millions butchered.

Anywhoooo, I am sickened over the events that have transpired here over the past 24 hours.

Even though I feel there has been irreparable damage done to the once positive relationship shared betwix asiansubmissie, slavelynn95008 and myself, I think it is only fair to mention at this juncture that if they were ever to engage in a pillow fight I might be possibly coaxed into watching.

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RE: Black Doms/white subs - 5/11/2010 9:45:31 AM   
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You are truly a generous and open hearted man, Domi!

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RE: Black Doms/white subs - 5/11/2010 9:48:07 AM   
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You are truly a generous and open hearted man, Domi!
Only to women who *genuinely* think he's Jesus


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