LadyNTrainer
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ORIGINAL: chicagosubsteve first, thanks A/all for your input. not the answers i was hoping for (why is it guys can't have their cake and eat it too?! *s*) but the answers i should have expected. Same reason a woman can't either. Ethical poly works, cheating and lying to someone you love doesn't. Denying your partner the choice of being in a relationship with someone who chooses nonmonogamy, or worse, exposing them to the risk of disease without their knowledge because you didn't play safe, that's utterly unethical. Lack of trust destroys and undermines intimacy, and makes it impossible to have a healthy relationship. That's equally true for both genders. Having either a dick or a pussy does not make it okay, or very functional or healthy, to lie to your partner. If you are a decent person, you'll quit doing it and come to terms with her in a way that is honest and honorable. That could be a breakup, or that could be ethical polyamory, where you are honest about seeing professionals and seeking a D/s relationship with her permission and under the boundaries and rules that she sets. But as long as you're a lying, sneaking cheater, nobody who isn't the same caliber of person will want you. And think about it - do you really want to submit to someone who lies and cheats? Or do you want a better class of person in your life, someone you can trust and respect? Be the change you want to see. Or don't, and accept that you suck and that nobody worth respecting will want to have anything to do with you. Choices are pretty clear here. quote:
i'm glad i could be honest here and put myself out there for Your respectful and thoughtful perspectives. Now go do the same with your wife. That's where it counts, not in a chat room of Internet strangers.
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