AAkasha
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact I think Aakasha does a very good job of advertising the site. Actually, she doesn't. Speaking as a pro, the time I put into posting on forums is utterly nonviable in terms of getting any financial return from it. The average demographic of the client who will pay money for pro domme services very rarely overlaps the demographic of people who read and participate actively on forums. I don't know why this is, but you can bank on it. quote:
She obviously has a great business sense. It's actually somewhat disappointing that she didn't address the original of the thread, since she turned a free enterprise into a profitable one. I was around for the original days of Aakasha's writing about her ideas and fantasies on alt.sex.femdom, and her finally putting all of this on a website. She paid all the costs associated with the site for many years, and kept it up strictly for fun. Eventually she figured it was time the site started pulling its own weight. But as far as I know it's never been truly profitable, and certainly not in the sense of being a reasonable return per hour of her time invested compared to what she earns in her vanilla job. It *could* be far more profitable and commercial than it is now, because Aakasha does indeed have a good business sense. But she's not applying it to her site, and I can see that very clearly from where I sit. Thank you LadyNTrainer, you summed it up pretty well, but I think most people on CM and other message boards know that I don't participate in online discussions as a marketing vehicle for my web site; if I did, as marketer, I'm shrewd enough to know that I'd play right into the fantasy of every living breathing submissive that posted on here, as just one example. I can't even be bothered to post stories regularly in the Creative section of this site, because I don't have the time, and because my career is where I make my money. My web site is a hobby. You don't do something for 10 years for 100% free out of your own time and pocket. I've been posting in online forums since the Internet was all text; a very, very long time. What set me off in this whole thread is that it paints female domination with a sense of arrogance and entitlement that I don't think does women in general any good. A vanilla woman can put on a sleazy outfit and walk into a bar and have 10 guys ask for her number; that doesn't mean these 10 guys offer anything of quality or connection, and if anything, her bragging about the ability to attract what's seeking her at the lowest common level is just a turn off to the quality men who are observing this kind of thing. It is a woman who likes attention. Don't get me wrong - I love attention, but I don't find the random guys that line up looking to be topped in public bdsm venues to be flattering. I find it objectifying and tactless. And the thing about guys having to give something back in return for the toys or 'investment' or whatever, I hear that more and more, and I think that's bullshit also and a bad line of thinking to be presented as status quo for female domination. What a good partner has to offer me in terms of currency is great energy and chemistry. I pay for my gear because I like my gear. But then again I'm a woman who enjoys being in the driver's seat when it comes to kink, and paying the way of the sub in personal relationships is the way it works for me, down to the toys and other costs. What he brings to the table is the ability to give the energy and effort into making my BDSM topping experience fulfilling - but more importantly, he brings a connection. If a person invests a large sum of money in a room addition with a pool table, do the expect the people they invite over to play pool to bring chalk and donate pool cues every single time they come over, or do they merely invite over the people who they genuinely enjoy their company, and if that person brings over a bottle of wine on their own, they think, "that's very sweet of them!". It all comes down to a matter of personal taste. But I think women who project that they have to be treated a certain way because of the men lining up for their attention are sending an egotistical message. Just jump over two threads and read about how 100,000 guys are emailing us, but all of them but 1 or 2 are crap and just looking for jollies. By projecting that we're just swimming in male suitors, while the guys observing see who these "suitors" are, makes the quality men just shake their head and walk away. The same way a quality guy in a bar observing a woman who is enjoying the attention of creeps is always going to gravitate toward the woman who carries herself with quiet confidence rather than basking in the glory of her 'choices.' Akasha
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