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Hunting Unicorns - 10/19/2010 5:47:02 PM   
MasterDetrix


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Status: offline 		Hello to everyone reading this post. My wife/slave and I have been on this site for a very long time. We are looking for that elusive unicorn. We have a very extensive profile. We put a lot of stuff on the table about our selves. When we first started looking, I did not think this to be such a rare person. I thought a bisexual woman would prefer such a relationship. What could be better than fulfilling ones dichotomy. Alas, I am wrong.

I am writing this post to perhaps make some friends on collarme, get some advice/encouragement from anyone willing, and just plain be more active on this site. Like I have said, we have a very extensive profile here. Please check it out, and see if there is anything that we can talk about.

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RE: Hunting Unicorns - 10/19/2010 5:52:03 PM   
BurntKitty


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Status: offline 		Make sure you have your unicorn hunting license stamped. The season opens on Nov 1. I heard from Bugs Bunny it's duck hunting season right now.

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RE: Hunting Unicorns - 10/19/2010 5:59:36 PM   
VaguelyCurious


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Status: offline 		I've been unicorning in a non-submissive way quite a lot recently. The gulf between the way the couple I've been spending time with present themselves and the way you present yourself is staggeringly large. I don't even know where to *start* with the things that put me off about your profile, other than to say that extensive is not necessarily a good thing. But I'm only starting with that because you seem so proud of how long the bloody thing is.

Also, way to stereotype bisexuals. That's right, all we're driven by is our desire to have it both ways-we don't have any concern for how hard it can be to fit in with an existing couple, or the expectations that get dumped on our head, or the thousand and one things that make three-ways  difficult-nope, offer us pussy AND dick and we're guaranteed happy! What more could we want? (Not.)


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RE: Hunting Unicorns - 10/19/2010 6:12:10 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		You didn't think they were rare, but you understood that they were called unicorns?

I actually don't look for females to join the household.  I'm not bi Myself, so My experience in the matter may not be of much help.  My poly family is Myself, My husband, and My sub.  However, I think that specifying that the person who joins your home has to be bi and automatically willing to sleep with both of the members of the primary relationship is what hangs a lot of people up.  It leads people to think that the sexual part is a higher priority than the person themselves.  It's automatically implied that this new woman (that you've never even met yet) is just willing to fall into bed with you.  As a woman, I know it doesn't work that way for Me, so I'm thinking it might not work for others as well. 

When clip joined our household, his being bisexual was not a requirement.  All he was required to be was himself. 


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RE: Hunting Unicorns - 10/19/2010 6:22:52 PM   
January


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Status: offline 		Hi MD,

I read your profile, and although you appear to be forthcoming and honest, there's more to catching that unicorn than a full profile.

For example, you need the new slave to be pagan or pagan friendly. Not every bisexual slave is pagan. You say the new slave needs to be comfortable in a family with three children, and be willing to have kids of their own. You can't see why that would make a potential slave nervous? I'd be thinking this couple just wants a babysitter! You state your goal as being able to live off the grid. A good sentiment, but not all folks are up for that.

What you say in your profile is detailed--but you and your slave are also extremely picky, picky, picky. That's fine. But you need to be patient, patient, patient.

January

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RE: Hunting Unicorns - 10/19/2010 7:18:25 PM   
MistressRosalyn


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Status: offline 		I'm not going to pretend to know everything about attracting a unicorn, I only know myself, so I will respond as if I were your target audience.
In many ways, your profile seemed geared towards attracting a man, not a woman. Talking about video games, showing very explicit pictures...just seemed that your marketing was targeting the wrong group, IMHO.

Also, you haven't updated your text in your profile since 2007...
Just sayin' is all.

Good luck with your search.


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RE: Hunting Unicorns - 10/19/2010 7:22:25 PM   
MasterDetrix


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Status: offline 		To BurntKitty: that is extremely funny. thanks.

To VaguelyCurious: All points have been taken. I did not think that I was stereo-typing, but in a sense, yes I was. It stems from being for naive in such areas. I should have posted this a lot sooner to get better educated about these things. Thank you very very much.

To LadyPact: Your points also have been taken. We said this though:

who ever I/we chose will be more than just a slave she will also be OUR wife. All my slave's/wife's life she has wanted a wife that she could love. Who ever joins our family would be equal to my slave/wife.

Yes the sex is a high desire, but love and compatibility are the high priorities. With out them a relationship is doomed from the beginning.


To January: your points taken as well. We decided to be picky, picky, picky, because if we do not find just such a match, we believe the relationship will fail. I knew that having such a picky request would take along time, just did not realize how long. It took a couple of years for me to find my slave/wife. It has been over 5 years now we have been looking for our third. That is a long time. We are frustrated, but not giving up the hunt. With the advice we have been given here, I think we will do better. I shall adjust my understanding of the bisexual personality/mind.

Thank you all for the help.
Master Detrix

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RE: Hunting Unicorns - 10/19/2010 7:26:14 PM   
MasterDetrix


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Status: offline 		To MistressRosalyn: Thank you for your advice. We will have to take a hard look at our profile.

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RE: Hunting Unicorns - 10/19/2010 8:57:48 PM   
Twoshoes


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Status: offline 		I also do not understand the point of your 'clinical' pictures of genitals. I was not shocked, but you'd figure near the age of 35, you'd expect everyone to know what a penis and a vagina look like.

quote:


geared towards attracting a man

Hahhaha, no. I can honestly claim that I was not 'attracted'.
Although my index finger is the same length as my ring finger and I have feminine facial features (so I can't speak for all men).

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RE: Hunting Unicorns - 10/19/2010 9:01:43 PM   
AquaticSub


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterDetrix

What could be better than fulfilling ones dichotomy. Alas, I am wrong.



Not all bisexuals are polyarmous and a lot of us are really sick of the idea that we all are. Ugh... I hate that stupid rumor. I happen to be polyarmous but still prefer men to women most of the time for a combination of reasons. I don't sit around going "Gee, I haven't eaten a cunt in awhile, I'm sure craving some pussy!".

I just happen to be attracted to women as well as men.

< Message edited by AquaticSub -- 10/19/2010 9:02:22 PM >

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RE: Hunting Unicorns - 10/19/2010 9:04:51 PM   
AquaticSub


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressRosalyn

In many ways, your profile seemed geared towards attracting a man, not a woman. Talking about video games, showing very explicit pictures...just seemed that your marketing was targeting the wrong group, IMHO.


*coughs* Remember... there are more and more female gamers every day. The idea that women aren't gamers as well is fast becoming (if not already) outdated.

Considering I require my men and women to be gamers as well, I firmly vote that the gaming references stay. Particularly in a power dynamic - if they don't understand "I'll suck you later, boss fight!", I'm not interested.

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RE: Hunting Unicorns - 10/19/2010 11:33:29 PM   
SpiritedRadiance


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Status: offline 		First off loose the pictures of your cock  and her cunt, Its not something people tend to seek and it says look as us, we only want to use you for sex. Also I would wack the bush, Ive seen a LOT of penis pictures and man seriously TRIMMING YOUR PUBIC HAIR GOES A LONG WAY.

Second trim the profile, for fucks sakes I gave up reading it half way through...

Put whats relevant, like I work in computers not I know this many programming languages, Im a gamer, not everything about said game.

Also Id loose the part about how your sub didnt know how sub she was until she met you, it makes you look arrogant. It also implies that your ego is the size of a large body of water.




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RE: Hunting Unicorns - 10/20/2010 12:09:26 AM   
myotherself


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Status: online 		From the viewpoint of a sub female, I can tell you that the profile did nothing for me at all. I couldn't get past the 8th or so paragraph - it was like wading through (carbon-friendly) treacle by that point. I didn't even get to the bit where you started saying what it was you were looking for, and what you would offer her - I'd slipped into a coma long before that point.

And the pics - makes me wonder how long it would be before you'd be flashing my gash for the world to cringe at.

So - edit the profile. Rewrite it so I know what's in it for me, not just your hobbies and interests...and lose the dick pics.



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RE: Hunting Unicorns - 10/20/2010 1:40:21 AM   
WyldHrt


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Status: offline 		What the bunny said. Lose the cock and gash shots, and work on why a unicorn should be interested in joining your relationship. 

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RE: Hunting Unicorns - 10/20/2010 3:54:23 AM   
MasterDetrix


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Status: offline 		Wow, thanks again to all who have responded. Wow. Ok, we will have a hard look at our profile. Thanks very much.

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RE: Hunting Unicorns - 10/20/2010 7:02:57 AM   
sweetsub1957


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quote:

ORIGINAL: WyldHrt

What the bunny said. Lose the cock and gash shots, and work on why a unicorn should be interested in joining your relationship. 

This. Plus the profile is just too godawful long. I read the whole thing, but it was really tough.

~sweetsub~

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RE: Hunting Unicorns - 10/20/2010 7:54:50 AM   
slaveluci


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Status: offline 		OOPS.......double posting........

< Message edited by slaveluci -- 10/20/2010 7:57:04 AM >

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RE: Hunting Unicorns - 10/20/2010 7:55:55 AM   
slaveluci


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quote:

ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

I don't sit around going "Gee, I haven't eaten a cunt in awhile, I'm sure craving some pussy!".

You don't? I sure do Guess that really DOES show that you like men more Seriously, thanks for the smile..........

luci


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RE: Hunting Unicorns - 10/20/2010 9:14:53 AM   
LadyPact


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterDetrix
To LadyPact: Your points also have been taken. We said this though:

who ever I/we chose will be more than just a slave she will also be OUR wife. All my slave's/wife's life she has wanted a wife that she could love. Who ever joins our family would be equal to my slave/wife.

Yes the sex is a high desire, but love and compatibility are the high priorities. With out them a relationship is doomed from the beginning.

Thank you all for the help.
Master Detrix

From the other comments, I'm going to assume that the one sentence that you highlighted above is probably lost to most people in the quagmire of a profile you have that is also filled with frontal nudity shots.  Which do you think is sending the louder message?


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RE: Hunting Unicorns - 10/20/2010 9:27:51 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		What LadyPact said!

It was 2006 when I was last in a serious D/s relationship. I've met quite a few women, had a short, feeling things out, period of time with a few. But there's been no one serious and there isn't a glimmer of anyone serious. I'm not desperate and I don't have any expectations of the internet changing my personal life. Sure I keep an open mind but I also know that there are a few factors that limit the odds for me.

If I was you, I would focus less on internet stuff and more on physical life stuff (actually meeting people with similar interests at functions, parties, etc...). I believe the odds of success would be greater.

I may be wrong, but I think that the idea of hooking up with a couple from the net, is probably more intimidating to many women. Women that would not meet strangers from the net, contact you, or reply to your attempt at contact......might be much more receptive had they actually met the two of you in person, as friends, socially.

Just my two cents based on my own people watching and communicating.


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