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RE: "I don't want to disclose my photo right now f... - 10/23/2010 8:41:06 AM

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ORIGINAL: ReginaMirus

I'm getting this quite frequently as of late from subs who CMail me, offering their services. To me this is code, either for "I have something to hide", "I'm married and don't want them to be used against me as evidence in the future", "I think I'm THAT MUCH of a celebrity" or "I really think I'm THAT ugly". To me, it's becoming a blaringly red flag for "fantasy player" which as stated in my profile is clearly NOT what I'm looking for.

To my fellow sisters who are actively seeking, do you ever get the "privacy clause" from guys who initially proposition you when you ask them for a photo?

It's grounds for the round file immediately with Me. In fact, mails without photos attached go deleted, unread. My prerequisites seem like a double-standard, being that I 'm cautious about full front-on photos of myself, but that's how the game is played with me. They either conform or get deleted. I don't waste anymore time reading three-paragraph excuses why a simple photo salute can't be sent. Life is too short.

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RE: "I don't want to disclose my photo right now f... - 10/23/2010 4:19:15 PM

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The only thing which concerns me is that someone would use my photo to set up a fake account on some other site and pose as a female, for purposes of predation, or some sort of mind fuck.

I think some guy who wants to pose as a woman will find enough pics on the web, why go through the trouble of asking somebody here for a pic?

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RE: "I don't want to disclose my photo right now f... - 10/23/2010 4:19:18 PM

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I don't want my slave (24/7 husband/slave 000-733-561) to be known, and I don't want my identity exposed just like that. If we can shat, exchange experiences, tips, ask advice between Mistresses... maybe, just maybe you'll get more info like a picture afther a few years.. On the other hand : we don't ask anything else but the exchange of ideas with other people. We're mainly here to learn and to let others know they are not alone. And that since 1988. So, there's no need.
But in other cases I would demand a live connection via webcam to verify who I'm talking to.

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RE: "I don't want to disclose my photo right now f... - 10/23/2010 4:42:49 PM

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ORIGINAL: mummyman321
It cannot do that. But it can pick up photos in profiles or posted to any general web page.

Maybe I'm confused then. I was thinking the original was based on sending a face pic through email, not necessarily posting a face pic on the site. If the software isn't able to do that, how is the concern valid?

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RE: "I don't want to disclose my photo right now f... - 10/23/2010 4:54:48 PM

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Yeah, I think the thread's getting topheavy now. People aren't reading through all the responses are taking it as a criticism of profile pics (or lack thereof), which was not part of my original discussion at all.

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RE: "I don't want to disclose my photo right now f... - 10/23/2010 5:10:53 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mummyman321
It cannot do that. But it can pick up photos in profiles or posted to any general web page.

Maybe I'm confused then. I was thinking the original was based on sending a face pic through email, not necessarily posting a face pic on the site. If the software isn't able to do that, how is the concern valid?

I never said I would not send a picture via email. What I said is that I want to make sure the other person has similar interests as myself before I send a picture. And my reasoning for not sending the picture was for privacy and went on to say that is also why I do not have a picture in my profile. I got off topic a little going into the reasons why I am a little more cautious. My appologies.

Getting back to the OP. I tend to be more private for reasons I have already stated. I will share a picture if I feel we have simlar interests. This may take 2 or 3 emails but no more than that. The point I was trying to make is that there are valid reasons why people do not share a photo up front.

Unfortunately for the women on here, I would agree the many hundreds of emails they get are from married men who have no intention of ever meeting. But there are those of us who a real also :)

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RE: "I don't want to disclose my photo right now f... - 10/23/2010 5:51:54 PM

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Thanks for taking the time to explain that. I thought My well earned reputation as a computer twit was showing there. I was curious about what the program could or couldn't do.

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RE: "I don't want to disclose my photo right now f... - 10/24/2010 6:59:03 PM

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I'm uncomfortable with sharing face close ups/identifiable pictures in a kinky context with someone I haven't met, especially as a profile picture. As it is, I've run into one person from a local dungeon at work (different company in the same building), and at various vanilla hobbies/events locally. I don't need some random guy coming up and asking if I'm "that girl from CollarMe" when I'm at the supermarket or something. I've met probably 50 people who have profiles on CM - people I dated last year, people I met at BDSM events like local munches, Folsom Fringe/street fair, or through a different site which has a lot of overlap with this one. I had one "oops" where I didn't have the guy's picture either and there was a different man with black hair, brown eyes, wearing a red long-sleeved button-up shirt and black pants, but the way I approached him didn't give away that I was kinky, or anything of that sort.

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RE: "I don't want to disclose my photo right now f... - 10/26/2010 9:31:17 AM

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ORIGINAL: ReginaMirus

I get that. Truly, I do. Not everyone CAN place a photo on a profile, and that I understand.

What I DON'T get, however, is getting that response after we've exchanged pleasantries and I personally request a basic faceshot. Seriously, it's not like I'm asking them to pose naked ass up with a trumpet shoved up their ass (although I'm sure there are some out there that would be more than happy to oblige that request). THAT'S the point where I get the privacy clause.

It'd be pointless to require such a thing, I think. It's not like 99% of them even bother to actually read my profile, or would probably send me a fraudulent photo anyway if I asked for one.

SOME PEOPLE just don't want to send their picture to someone they don't know.
Once a picture is put on the imternet it if open season to any perv or pervette to use it ANYWHERE they want...or send it to their wife later on.
Ypu can meet them for coffee if you want to see what they look like.

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RE: "I don't want to disclose my photo right now f... - 10/27/2010 6:20:16 AM

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ORIGINAL: ReginaMirus

I'm getting this quite frequently as of late from subs who CMail me, offering their services. To me this is code, either for "I have something to hide", "I'm married and don't want them to be used against me as evidence in the future", "I think I'm THAT MUCH of a celebrity" or "I really think I'm THAT ugly". To me, it's becoming a blaringly red flag for "fantasy player" which as stated in my profile is clearly NOT what I'm looking for.

Guys that do this, do you have any other explanation that makes sense, other than what I've listed above?

I'm glad you posted this question, and I hope I can give you a little insight into why some people don't do it, although this is only my thought process behind it. I'm no celebrity, nor am I too ugly, I'm not married but I do have some tings to hide. I don't want people to be that involved in my business. I think that in today's day and age it is way too easy for people to find things out about you, and then hold them against you. A little paranoid maybe, but some of us have jobs that demand a certain amount of discretion.
If I see someone that I like here, I message them and explain that because of my job I don't have a pic up here. If they want to talk and get to know each other a little better I would be happy to Email them a pic if they want. Does this turn some people off, yeah I'm sure it does but I think people should understand that we ALL cant be as open and out there as we would all like. I'm sure that I have had people reject my emails just because I don't have a photo, and that's too bad. I have also had great conversations and met a few people here, and thank them for taking the time to understand my position, with the lack of photo, but I can understand your position as well. I can imagine that I can be frustrating getting a bunch of emails, and even more excuses. Sorry for rambling on, hope this helps a bit.

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RE: "I don't want to disclose my photo right now f... - 10/27/2010 6:31:36 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ReginaMirus

I'm getting this quite frequently as of late from subs who CMail me, offering their services. To me this is code, either for "I have something to hide", "I'm married and don't want them to be used against me as evidence in the future", "I think I'm THAT MUCH of a celebrity" or "I really think I'm THAT ugly". To me, it's becoming a blaringly red flag for "fantasy player" which as stated in my profile is clearly NOT what I'm looking for.

To my fellow sisters who are actively seeking, do you ever get the "privacy clause" from guys who initially proposition you when you ask them for a photo?

Guys that do this, do you have any other explanation that makes sense, other than what I've listed above?

Uh...........yes.

Because some of us actually have jobs.

And some of those jobs require discretion.

So I am not going to have my photo plastered all over the internet until I know someone is trustworthy enough to send it to them.

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RE: "I don't want to disclose my photo right now f... - 11/1/2010 9:26:17 PM

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Not interested in photo exchange. Prefer to meet and decide from the chemistry.
Not an excuse to not show your pic on the net. Once on the net, it's there forever.
You never know when that could pop up and cause a problem. I am not on Facebook,
Twitter or any other networking group for the same reason. There is something I
call "future conscious" of today's happenings. That is not paranoid, it's privacy.
My life behind the doors is my private life. My outside life is public and the two shall
remain separate. Therefore, I do not send photos over the net. However, I will meet
and can go out with my partner - and we will be vanilla - no munches for me.

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RE: "I don't want to disclose my photo right now f... - 11/2/2010 3:17:40 PM

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Well for the sake of saying I work for a gov contracting firm from time to time and having any photo posting would blow my job .
It kinda sucks for it would make thing easier if and when you desire to write to someone or viewed. Got watch the Ps Qs

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RE: "I don't want to disclose my photo right now f... - 11/3/2010 7:14:40 PM

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I do not have a face picture on line...... period. I simply will not put one on line. Even on nilla sites such as facebook, I have a picture of my dog as my profile picture.

If someone wants to know what I look like, they can meet me for coffee, or tea and see me in person, not in what could be or might not be my picture. If the person is not willing or able to meet me for coffee then it really doesn't matter, since then I will have zero interest in them.

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RE: "I don't want to disclose my photo right now f... - 11/4/2010 5:44:38 PM

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What about the "pic whores" - People that upload/change the pics in their profile (If I remember, you can have quite a few there) on a regular basis?

Reading this thread got me wondering about the opposite side of this coin...

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