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Poly Vs Swinging - 12/3/2010 5:38:05 AM   
SubCaptured


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Status: offline 		Hi!
I am not new to the BDSM scene but I am new to the talk of poly relationships and the introduction of a bi female sub into a D/S relationship.  My understanding is that the term 'poly relationships' refer to longer term situations. And that unicorns are the ever saught after long term third person. However, if one isn't looking for a long term third person and would just like to try this once or twice, does this become swinging or is it still classed as poly? or am I completely off track? lol


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RE: Poly Vs Swinging - 12/3/2010 6:15:16 AM   
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Status: offline 		Neets and I have a poly home and we both swing too. The difference is the relationships with one being for some form of sexual gratification or the pleasure of a foursome against the emotional pleasures in our lifestyle.

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RE: Poly Vs Swinging - 12/3/2010 6:29:01 AM   
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Status: offline 		Thank you for your reply and for explaining that. In that case then, seeking just one female for one off play here and there, doesn't fit into either category does it?  

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RE: Poly Vs Swinging - 12/3/2010 6:40:04 AM   
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Status: offline 		Yes and no. Yes because casual play is always on the cards in our home, especially if it could lead to that person wanting to become part of our home. No because although I am happy to seek or enjoy one off casual play with a sub, my preference is a slave rather then a sub. It may of course be the case of necessity to keep practice up with some areas of rope or chain bondage or to work on needle play designs where as long as the body is living, breathing, agreable and female my requirements will be met.

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RE: Poly Vs Swinging - 12/3/2010 7:02:30 AM   
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Status: offline 		To me for a not-so-old codger from the past, poly is a real relationship that is to last whereas swinging is usually a temporary affair adding more to the fun & pleasure.

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RE: Poly Vs Swinging - 12/4/2010 10:04:15 AM   
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Status: offline 		Thank you mr Rodgers that answered my question x

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RE: Poly Vs Swinging - 12/4/2010 11:13:26 AM   
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Status: offline 		I wouldn't really classify it as either one.  I'd say it was an occasional threesome and nothing more.

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RE: Poly Vs Swinging - 12/7/2010 1:09:21 PM   
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Status: offline 		While I share Mr Rodgers opinion of what the difference has always been. I do agree with LadyPact in this particular case I see it as a occasional threesome as well.

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RE: Poly Vs Swinging - 12/7/2010 1:11:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		If a couple occasionally plays with others, either alone or separate, I would more likely categorize them as having an open relationship. Polyamory to me must have the amory part, must include love of the third.

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RE: Poly Vs Swinging - 12/8/2010 1:56:09 PM   
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Status: offline 		Since many people defer to the people in the relationship define the relationship I think you will get conflicting answers. Poly or mono relationships are very much the same when you compare them with the dynamics involved in swinging. Good luck.

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RE: Poly Vs Swinging - 12/26/2010 1:03:50 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: SubCaptured

Hi!
I am not new to the BDSM scene but I am new to the talk of poly relationships and the introduction of a bi female sub into a D/S relationship.  My understanding is that the term 'poly relationships' refer to longer term situations. And that unicorns are the ever saught after long term third person. However, if one isn't looking for a long term third person and would just like to try this once or twice, does this become swinging or is it still classed as poly? or am I completely off track? lol



Poly is more than 2 people in a LOVING relationship that encompasses everything that a typical 2 person relationship involves.

Swinging is more than 2 people in a PURELY SEXUAL relationship ... if you get lucky, than maybe they'll buy you lunch too

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RE: Poly Vs Swinging - 12/27/2010 5:17:06 AM   
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Status: offline 		I agree with desfit.. Poly has to contain love.

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RE: Poly Vs Swinging - 12/27/2010 5:21:05 AM   
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Status: offline 		Poly MUST MUST be always love. Otherwise, it's just messing around, isn't it?

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RE: Poly Vs Swinging - 1/9/2011 9:39:03 PM   
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RE: Poly Vs Swinging - 5/17/2011 2:13:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		in my mind...swinging is...sex...poly is a relationship...D/s...love...service etc

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RE: Poly Vs Swinging - 5/17/2011 3:42:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		Do you think this definition makes my butt look fat?

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RE: Poly Vs Swinging - 5/17/2011 4:40:51 PM   
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ORIGINAL: SubCaptured

Hi!
I am not new to the BDSM scene but I am new to the talk of poly relationships and the introduction of a bi female sub into a D/S relationship.  My understanding is that the term 'poly relationships' refer to longer term situations. And that unicorns are the ever saught after long term third person. However, if one isn't looking for a long term third person and would just like to try this once or twice, does this become swinging or is it still classed as poly? or am I completely off track? lol



Why does it matter what it qualifies as? Do you enjoy it? If so, call it whatever you want. People who don't understand the lifestyle, like nosey neighbors, will always think you're a "swinger type".

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