Malkinius
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Tal and greetings all....
This is the first post of those I have been catching up on that I felt an need to reply to. Almost all of the others I have already said, usually several times, what I would say about them in earlier versions of the same questions.
Ainye....pay close attention to what Angel said and ignore what some others have said. Do your research. Do it first and consider it part of learning about the field. When you study what people have said about it you will learn from them. In most cases, the more you can find out what someone has said about a topic the more likely they are to know something about the topic. But...don't take their word for it. Keep reading and see what others say about their posts. Do they keep saying, Yah...what he said," or are they talking about picking up bovine feces and cutting off their supply of people responding to them so that hopefully they will go away and stay away? Obviously the former is the one you want to pay the most attention to. Search them using google and the other search engines. The more hits you find, especially over years, not days or weeks, says a lot about their reality and staying power. Pay attention to what you read and search clues and information you find to verify it and to find more things about the person. Yes, they can be a real idiot who has been around for years. <grins> However, once again pay attention to what they say and what others say about them as well as what they do or claim to do. Good owners and trainers do this with prospective slaves and smart slaves and subs should do it with prospectives Masters and Doms. Do your homework and you will come out ahead of most.
Yes, when it comes to being Gorean you do need to read the books. You do not need to read all of them. For many years the books stopped with number 25, Magicians of Gor. Are people who were considered Gorean then no longer Gorean because they have not yet read Witness, Prize, Kur or Swordsman? No, I don't believe so. However, they are no longer as knowledgeable about things Gorean as they once were. The field has grown as more books have been published in the last few years. This would make an excellent topic in its own right and I may start it.
If you want to learn about being Gorean from people who live it, pay no attention to people for whom being Gorean is something they do online. Look for proof they are known to the offline Gorean community. Yes, there are people who meet people off line and there exist chains of meeting other people so people can be vouched for even if any given two have never met. The more someone is known as an offline Gorean as opposed to what they do in BDSM the more likely they will be able to give you good information. Lastly, look for people who have done, and can prove it preferably with reference you can contact, done what you want to do. That means they have owned and/or trained slaves. They have been a slave to one or more owners. There are a few, usually female, who have done both.
One last thought. If you want to learn without commitment, find someone to teach who is not someone you want as a potential owner and/or who does not want you. That reduces a lot of tension and feelings that build up between a Master and a slave or a trainer and a student. Stick to what you are trying to learn and become and don't let someone move you too far off course. A good teacher will broaden what you are looking at, not reduce it to just whatever they want to talk about, which usually turns into sex and/or pain play.
So...do your research....ask various people about what they know and whom to ask for more information. We like helping people learn and grow. OK...we like a few other things too. <grins> Mostly we like to live and enjoy our lives.
Be well....
Malkinius
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