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Rule -> RE: Why don't men read a female's profile CAREFULLY? (2/12/2011 9:23:57 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: blkswitch
What part of -- I'm not interested in out of shape men don't they get?

I presume that it is the word or concept of 'not'.

quote:

ORIGINAL: blkswitch
How much clear do I have to be?

Are you asking for suggestions for a new nick?

quote:

ORIGINAL: blkswitch
What are you subs/slaves thinking?????

I cannot answer that, as I am neither. In any case I never think, I think.



Nanako -> RE: Why don't men read a female's profile CAREFULLY? (2/12/2011 9:35:14 PM)

I would suggest you write a custom generic response.

Something that is suitably condescending for their stupidity, that points out that you know they haven't read your profile, and that the behaviour they're exhibiting is why they never get replies to mails.
If you can, provide links to suitable resources on how to not be a complete idiot. The threads for how to contact mistresses will probably work. Also say that they're blocked and any farther correspondence will not be read.

Once you've written this, save it somewhere easily acessible, then copy and paste it into every reply that seems appropriate.

This saves you time, but also helps to gradually solve the problem, in theory.



KeepMeUnderneath -> RE: Why don't men read a female's profile CAREFULLY? (2/13/2011 3:55:41 AM)

I read carefully.  Why does every womens profile say "read carefully." I read a profile, write a message in regards to the profile so they know I've read it and yet every women with here hates me [:D]

Go figure.  Can't please them. I'm considering just sending a photoshopped photo of a ridiculously huge penis with the words "My profile" written along the length of it and a  message saying "Read my profile before you respond"



DarkSteven -> RE: Why don't men read a female's profile CAREFULLY? (2/13/2011 4:08:26 AM)

Blkswitch, I did read your profile. It will get you mail from clueless men because it is clueless itself.

Under 'Looking For', you state that you are looking for Doms and switches. Your profile begins by introducing you as a switch and about how fussy you are about who you submit to. Later you specify that you're only looking for slaves and subs. Sounds like you don't know what you want.

You say that you don't want anyone out of shape. Lots of men don't consider themselves to be out of shape, and you gave no guidelines regarding your preferences.

Finally, you give a sexy pic showing an attractive body and no info about what kind of relationship you want in your profile. Makes it look like you're seeking play sessions only. No wonder you're swamped with wankers.



lally2 -> RE: Why don't men read a female's profile CAREFULLY? (2/13/2011 5:57:33 AM)

well, im considering putting in big letters - dont write to me if its all about BDSM [:)] - i hoped my profile says that already - but people dont read profiles or, what ive noticed is they read them and translate them to their way of thinking.  now that is wierd - i had a guy write to me and say 'at last a sub who gets that its just kink in the bedroom' i had to read my profile over again to see where id put that, i knew i hadnt but for a moment there....[&:]



thishereboi -> RE: Why don't men read a female's profile CAREFULLY? (2/13/2011 6:14:15 AM)

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ORIGINAL: blkswitch

its really amazing how these folks are responding in a forum that clearly is titled:

"Ask A Submissive"

I had to ask myself if I was in the correct forum.



Yea, I asked myself the same thing when I was reading your OP and the  responses to it. But don't worry, it will probably be moved to it's rightful spot soon.

But while we are waiting for that, let me respond to your question. I looked at your profile. Nice ass, makes me want to grab a paddle and hit it a few times. As to people not reading your profile? All it says is you are fussy about body size. No info on what you offer or expect from a relationship. It says you are not fully submissive to anyone, but that is not going to really tell us much except that you might be a player and not serious about the lifestyle. At least not as a submissive. Maybe if you really want quality people to respond, you should spend a little more time working on that. Or, gasp, go out into the real world and meet some real people.



Phoenixpower -> RE: Why don't men read a female's profile CAREFULLY? (2/13/2011 6:19:08 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: blkswitch

its really amazing how these folks are responding in a forum that clearly is titled:

"Ask A Submissive"

I had to ask myself if I was in the correct forum.



newsflash, it doesn't hurt to take opinions into consideration from other folks, too. [8|]

I reply at times on the gorean thread despite not having much a clue about it...or reply at times at the ask a msitress thread despite being strict hetero and would never be involved with a female Domme in that respect...believe it or not, it is an open board, just like in family gatherings where ol' uncle Ted might annoy to add his wisdom to it when you talk to your brother, people are contributing here from all walks of life with all different desires. If you don't like that fact, than you have to put the time and effort into it to create your own homepage in the first place [:)] Then you can dictate the rules [:)]

And yes, folks don't read the profiles, as it had been stated before, I finally managed to reduce the trolls with keeping it as simple and as basic as possible...but I know that between every full moon at least one troll will come along to try to insult me and usually its one from over here...sometimes I delete them unread and sometimes I have my fun with them, like the last one who claimed that folks like myself would block people like him, where as expected it was him who then pushed the block button after a next response from him *snort*.

It's the joy of the internet, learn to ride it [:)]



Phoenixpower -> RE: Why don't men read a female's profile CAREFULLY? (2/13/2011 6:30:50 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: VideoAdminRho

quote:

its really amazing how these folks are responding in a forum that clearly is titled:
"Ask A Submissive"
I had to ask myself if I was in the correct forum.

As several folks have said, any member of the forums is allowed to post in any thread they wish to contribute to.

To all- Please keep the discussion on topic and try to keep it civil. Those gold borders ain't cheap, you know [;)]




Yeah, I heard that the gold price went up at present [8|]



oceanwynds2 -> RE: Why don't men read a female's profile CAREFULLY? (2/13/2011 7:03:31 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: blkswitch

its really amazing how these folks are responding in a forum that clearly is titled:

"Ask A Submissive"

I had to ask myself if I was in the correct forum.



It is unclear to me if you are saying this to me or you just spouting off. I am a submissive and on Cm we are permitted to respond in any area.

Men don't read profiles I am sure for a variety of reasons. You made your profile easy for them to read or not read, depending if they just want to look at the pictures. In reality you could take the pic off your profile, and you would still get men who don't read the profile. So the question why don't men read a female's profile, can be answered, some are just looking at pictures and others believe they must be the exception to the rule, of what the submissive stated she does not want.



angelikaJ -> RE: Why don't men read a female's profile CAREFULLY? (2/13/2011 7:06:14 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: blkswitch

I am on Fetlife and here on CollarMe and I'm still amazed at how many men DO NOT read my profile.

They see my pics and the "penis" goes up!

So, they send me a "provacative" email immediately.

And I shoot them down immediately.

What part of -- I'm not interested in out of shape men don't they get?

How much clear do I have to be?  [>:]

Then I get the weak, perverted men that are CHEAP and want me to purchase a strap-on to use on them.

They don't want to purchase a strap-on for themselves and have me hold on to it.

I expect EACH and EVERY sub/slave that wants me to use a strap-on on them to purchase their own strap on for health and safety reasons.

Its disgusting![X(]

What are you subs/slaves thinking?????
geesh  (obviously not about your health)



Well, to address the first part, you would get emails whether or not you had those pictures up.
I hate to put that out there, but it is true. In that regard, you just aren't special.
I know you have the photos up because you wish to be...but the truth is you would still get emails if you did not have that photo up, and some of them will be men (and women) who don't read your profile.
It is just another profile to them...you aren't anything special to them. It does provide you with an easy tool to weed out the undesireables, though when they do not bother to take the time to read it.

As for the second complaint: isn't that a discussion that is only relevant to have once you agree you might meet them? Why get yourself upset about something that is basically a non-issue for most folks.
You are right: they should care, but fantasy often trumps reality... and if they are literally half way across the country from you, they know it is going to remain in the realm of fantasy.



DomMeinCT -> RE: Why don't men read a female's profile CAREFULLY? (2/13/2011 7:55:59 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: blkswitch

its really amazing how these folks are responding in a forum that clearly is titled:

"Ask A Submissive"

I had to ask myself if I was in the correct forum.




Note that the name of this forum is "Ask a Submissive", and not "Answered by a Submissive".



windchymes -> RE: Why don't men read a female's profile CAREFULLY? (2/13/2011 8:43:40 AM)

Cheap pearls.....they make men crazy, they do. [8|]



kalikshama -> RE: Why don't men read a female's profile CAREFULLY? (2/13/2011 8:48:12 AM)

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Blkswitch, I did read your profile. It will get you mail from clueless men because it is clueless itself.



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DarkSteven -> RE: Why don't men read a female's profile CAREFULLY? (2/13/2011 11:36:41 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: VideoAdminRho

To all- Please keep the discussion on topic and try to keep it civil. Those gold borders ain't cheap, you know [;)]



YAY!!!!  I'm gonna be RICH!!!!1

/Heads to ebay/



Nanako -> RE: Why don't men read a female's profile CAREFULLY? (2/14/2011 6:24:58 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Blkswitch, I did read your profile. It will get you mail from clueless men because it is clueless itself.

Under 'Looking For', you state that you are looking for Doms and switches. Your profile begins by introducing you as a switch and about how fussy you are about who you submit to. Later you specify that you're only looking for slaves and subs. Sounds like you don't know what you want.

You say that you don't want anyone out of shape. Lots of men don't consider themselves to be out of shape, and you gave no guidelines regarding your preferences.

Finally, you give a sexy pic showing an attractive body and no info about what kind of relationship you want in your profile. Makes it look like you're seeking play sessions only. No wonder you're swamped with wankers.

I think this reply is good and contains useful advice for the OP
Short profiles do tend to attract people who are unsure of what they want, fantasists, and folks looking for quick sex.



MissEmery -> RE: Why don't men read a female's profile CAREFULLY? (2/14/2011 11:26:15 AM)

Troll, Troll, Troll



Icarys -> RE: Why don't men read a female's profile CAREFULLY? (2/14/2011 11:45:59 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: blkswitch

I am on Fetlife and here on CollarMe and I'm still amazed at how many men DO NOT read my profile.

They see my pics and the "penis" goes up!

So, they send me a "provacative" email immediately.

And I shoot them down immediately.

What part of -- I'm not interested in out of shape men don't they get?

How much clear do I have to be?  [>:]

Then I get the weak, perverted men that are CHEAP and want me to purchase a strap-on to use on them.

They don't want to purchase a strap-on for themselves and have me hold on to it.

I expect EACH and EVERY sub/slave that wants me to use a strap-on on them to purchase their own strap on for health and safety reasons.

Its disgusting![X(]

What are you subs/slaves thinking?????
geesh  (obviously not about your health)


You lost me at the first line..*Yawn

Time for nekky nekky now?



ashjor911 -> RE: Why don't men read a female's profile CAREFULLY? (2/14/2011 1:36:04 PM)

First you don’t walk the street naked unless you want everybody to stare at you.
Second if you still want to walk the street naked have the courage to suck it up & stop whining about what did this & that to you because it’s boring.
Excuse me Fukin Troll I am going to use your word SLURP.



MasterSlaveLA -> RE: Why don't men read a female's profile CAREFULLY? (2/14/2011 1:42:46 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: blkswitch

Why don't men read a female's profile CAREFULLY?



Because a fully erect penis blocks full view of the monitor... well, at least for the men you want to be with, anyway -- kinda like trying to read with the windshield wipers on, I suppose?!! [;)]




porcelaine -> RE: Why don't men read a female's profile CAREFULLY? (2/14/2011 3:00:38 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: blkswitch

I am on Fetlife and here on CollarMe and I'm still amazed at how many men DO NOT read my profile.


Greetings,

It is my belief that when one elects to wear their sexuality on the sleeve it should warrant no surprise that the opposite sex responds to the carrot dangled before them. You've knowingly elected to market yourself in this manner and bring attention to your wares. To assume the onlooker will exercise discretion or adhere to the text that follows when the imagery suggests otherwise (in his mind) is a little naive. If you sincerely wish for prospective subjects to see the real you, stop providing stimulating fodder for their amusement.

Namaste,

~porcelaine



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