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RE: Why No Queening? - 5/5/2006 1:36:00 PM

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Dear Rumtiger, Ladies and Gentlemen;

As far as I am personally concerned, I do not want a man who expects sex in any shape or form. Sex is an earned gift, not even an expectation. Perhaps why I can relax more around Gay men as they don't have sex on the brain and treat me as a lady.

I am also a lady, I prefer a more dignified manner and service, to which queening is out of my interest totally, as I don't like to participate in humiliation either.

I also don't want men who just been involved in queening touch or kiss me afterwards--rather awful thought. {{Shivers grossed out at the thought of terrible hygiene}}

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RE: Why No Queening? - 5/5/2006 2:06:51 PM

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You mean people don't like facesitting!?! That's the most fun thing in the world. Being able to suffocate another with your "ASSets" seems totally enjoyable to me. I jest just a little bit. Well about the suffocation part.

There's something humiliating in facesitting that sparks my evil side. I do it with my playmates. I don't know why more folk don't do it. And there is no sex involved in that either. I spose there could be but that isnt the goal.

There is nothing else that comes close to facesitting. <(period) Well, maybe certain aspects of Watersports and Cuckolding and even Suffocation that could go along with this. A Dominant womans enjoyment (even evil enjoyment) is the point. I can surely understand a woman NOT wanting to engage in this as getting to know if a sub is trusted or not takes time.
While there is a strong facet of power and control involved, Oral pleasure recieved by the Woman HAS to be a part...how could it not be especially if he is bound and forced to perform? I can't imagine that a Woman doesn't enjoy it for those that DO engage in it.
If there are any other things that She can enjoy while Queening, I'ld love to know.

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RE: Why No Queening? - 5/5/2006 2:56:27 PM

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If there are any other things that She can enjoy while Queening, I'ld love to know. torsionman

Reading the Sunday paper, doing my nails, soup and a sandwich, a nice cup of tea,,,,lol.

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RE: Why No Queening? - 5/5/2006 4:52:28 PM

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Even though it's not on my list, I (and my submissive) both enjoy queening very very much.

But I get enough guys who contact me with only "oral service" on their minds, so it's nothing I have (or want) to encourage by having it on my profile. I really want men who understand that service involves more than their tongues or their genitals.

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RE: Why No Queening? - 5/5/2006 5:08:31 PM

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While I cannot speak for others, this is My take on "queening". It is a rather
awkward way to do oral sex. I do not want to do the smothering part either,
it just does not appeal. Some of the Ladies here use the bench technique,
not something I have gotten around to trying yet so I cannot comment
on how well it works.

If I want to be orally serviced, it is much more relaxing to be sitting or laying
on my back. A big, oversized bed with lots of pillows or comforters spread
out all over the floor are both good settings.

YMMV,

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RE: Why No Queening? - 5/5/2006 5:57:32 PM

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quote:

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You mean people don't like facesitting!?! That's the most fun thing in the world. Being able to suffocate another with your "ASSets" seems totally enjoyable to me. I jest just a little bit. Well about the suffocation part.

There's something humiliating in facesitting that sparks my evil side. I do it with my playmates. I don't know why more folk don't do it. And there is no sex involved in that either. I spose there could be but that isnt the goal.

There is nothing else that comes close to facesitting. <(period) Well, maybe certain aspects of Watersports and Cuckolding and even Suffocation that could go along with this. A Dominant womans enjoyment (even evil enjoyment) is the point. I can surely understand a woman NOT wanting to engage in this as getting to know if a sub is trusted or not takes time.
While there is a strong facet of power and control involved, Oral pleasure recieved by the Woman HAS to be a part...how could it not be especially if he is bound and forced to perform? I can't imagine that a Woman doesn't enjoy it for those that DO engage in it.
If there are any other things that She can enjoy while Queening, I'ld love to know.

torsionman

I like the idea of having a male perfom orally at my direction... but I do not think that sharing that part of myself is something I am forcing upon him.. like a punishment, bondage or something harsh. It should be seen by him as an honor to be pleasing his Mistress in such an intimate way because she desires it.

I enjoy it... no doubt about it, but if it was all the male was interested in, and the only thing that motivated him, I wouldn't be interested in serving his kink with my wetness. I do my best to avoid the 'oral slaves' of the world.

Talking on the phone, working on the laptop, watching a movie, reading a magazine/newspaper or just enjoying music and relaxing are options while in Queening mode.

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RE: Why No Queening? - 5/5/2006 6:31:09 PM

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I never meant to leave it as a mean thing though "evil" was referred to. It's an honor to serve a woman in such a manner. Be it mean, evil, forceful, coerced or given as a reward, a sub/slave is honored by his Mistress in this way.
No matter how it's viewed by Her or him, doing the difficult task of pleasuring Her is the right thing even if it's a hard thing. You honor your servant, that is good for You first and him afterwards. The key here is "consent", you enjoy it, he gives it. In my experiance, I feel Her enjoying, feel Her relaxing, feel the tension becoming Her overwhelming pleasure as She releases. This doesn't even include the time spent, carressing, massaging, and etc leading up to Her grand pleasure. She may make it hard on me but the eventual satisfaction She derives is well worth it. Her control and power over me is shown in this fashion.
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RE: Why No Queening? - 5/5/2006 6:35:21 PM

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Mrs MacComb,
These are part of the other things I just mentioned in my above post. what is serving if it isn't in a complete sense?
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RE: Why No Queening? - 5/5/2006 8:29:59 PM

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I don't like queening because it's not comfortable for me... plain and simple LOL... if a subbie is just gonna sit there and do nothing, I'd much rather they rub my feet. ;)

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RE: Why No Queening? - 5/5/2006 9:16:27 PM

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If you take a riding crop to his nether regions during Queening (facesitting)... he'll do more than just lay there.

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RE: Why No Queening? - 5/5/2006 9:19:47 PM

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Oof.... I almost forgot...... or for a girl.... a nice feather crop.

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RE: Why No Queening? - 5/5/2006 10:04:09 PM

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Mrs MacComb,
These are part of the other things I just mentioned in my above post. what is serving if it isn't in a complete sense?
torsionman

I'm sorry. I don't understand your question. Please clarify.

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RE: Why No Queening? - 5/5/2006 11:06:22 PM

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For me queening is a bit different, seeing as I dont always see it with the domme having to be bared open. The concept is still the same with her clothes on, dominating me, trapping me under her, the smother aspect is another thing that drives me nuts, I've currently been craving primal play more and more, and I see smothering with the body as just an aspect of that whether it be her breasts or between her thighs or anywhere else, is that sexual? sure but its pretty fun when put in that context. Primal + Smothering/Queening = good times.

So I see queening as a dominant act first, a sexual act second, if it was just queening all by itself, my mistress wearing nothing and on my face with me performing service on her as she did her casual things, then yes I would think that is just sex, not too much different then a vanilla couple where the girl gives the guy a BJ while in the car, when hes at the computer, when they watch TV ect.

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RE: Why No Queening? - 5/6/2006 10:52:27 AM

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MistressLorelei:

I'm halfway through making my own chair. I found a real cute wooden adolescent's rocking chair at a thrift store - had a cane seat. Cut out the caning, wrapped sides, front and back in cotton batting and taped. Now have to cover with vinyl and put a sling beneath (along with a place to clip his cuffs).

I'm leaving it a rocker <grin>

Sounds like a great idea... and I think I'd leave it rocking too. Unfortunately, construction projects are not one of my strong points... I lose my patience, make a mess and break a nail. Hope the chair works out great for you.... how could it not <winky face>

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RE: Why No Queening? - 5/6/2006 2:11:08 PM

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hmmm.....the reduction of a man to a mere object (like a chair) is part of humiliation thing I do with my play persons. There is no oral involved as im sure to keep my parts covered. Oral service is required of only one other person that i play with aside from the husband.

It is an honor to service your mistress orally if she requires it of you. I just choose to reward them in another way.

Im not saying facesitting is in and of itself evil,or malicious, or humiliating for ALL...it just is with the persons I play with. They usually feel the the ass is a dirty thing so having it on your face of all things while you're being used as an object...well you can imagine....

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RE: Why No Queening? - 5/6/2006 6:54:24 PM

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I see queening with clothes on really to be facesitting. I am sitting on your face. Its about the act of smothering more than allowing open access to my body. Therefore, facesitting is different in my opinion, and maybe there should be a distinction made...ie: facesitting (with clothes) and queening (without clothes).
Opinions?

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RE: Why No Queening? - 5/7/2006 4:17:58 AM

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hmmm.....the reduction of a man to a mere object (like a chair) is part of humiliation thing I do with my play persons. There is no oral involved as im sure to keep my parts covered. Oral service is required of only one other person that i play with aside from the husband.

It is an honor to service your mistress orally if she requires it of you. I just choose to reward them in another way.

Im not saying facesitting is in and of itself evil,or malicious, or humiliating for ALL...it just is with the persons I play with. They usually feel the the ass is a dirty thing so having it on your face of all things while you're being used as an object...well you can imagine....

I totally agree.
I myself am sub and enjoy being queened and oral is the furthest thing from my mind.
Infact if a domme is clothed i still enjoy being face sat.
Its the being overpowered and showing how pathetic i am that i like.
Just being used as a sitting cushion as the mistress watches tv,reads,eats or even farts on my face is what its all about for me.

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RE: Why No Queening? - 5/7/2006 5:07:09 AM

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Mistress Lina....you make a good point. Maybe we should seperate queening from facesitting. But then I'd hate to see the can of worms that gets opened up. We may end up having to re-categorize everything. LOL

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RE: Why No Queening? - 5/7/2006 5:13:39 AM

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I dunno...two good things from one dont sound too bad lol.

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RE: Why No Queening? - 5/11/2006 9:19:19 AM

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Hiya, we design and build the Queening furniture you see on Tickleberry...check out the site... www.queensandkings.biz Happy days.

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