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Quite a rarity that I post in this section however! - 3/2/2011 6:22:29 PM

pyroaquatic

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However I have revamped my profile to best suit my growth over the past year placing myself back on the market.

I would love to have a male and female dominant to serve in a long term relationship. Or some combination of male/female with dominance interlaced somewhere.

It is much to my chagrin that I continue to attract penis, penis, and more penis.

I don't want PENIS I want BOTH and I am not backing down on this. Nuh Uh, no way, okay, excellent.

The question is:

WHY AM I ATTRACTING NOTHING BUT DICK?

I am quite frustrated. Is this another numbers game thing? Are these gay male doms not actually reading my profile?

Also,

hello Polyfora.

~Pyroaquatic

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RE: Quite a rarity that I post in this section however! - 3/2/2011 6:24:41 PM

Mstrsskitten2010

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we are seeking to add to our household we are a M/f couple if youd like to talk more

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RE: Quite a rarity that I post in this section however! - 3/2/2011 7:49:54 PM

LadyPact

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I'm going with numbers game. I know more households that are male Dominant led than female for the HOH. Also, I find that more households have a D/s situation (either sub or switch) than there are D/D households.

In your case, pyro, I'm going to stress a very important word. Stability. It's going to be very important for you.

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RE: Quite a rarity that I post in this section however! - 3/6/2011 8:06:11 AM

AriesHausdorff

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My two pence:
When a male can interpret a profile as something.. ahh... Fuckable, thinking is henceforth done by the balls.
Ball's don't have eyes so they don't read the finer details of your profile.
At this time I haven't read your profile at all, so I do not know if you are either male or female.
Okay, so lucky me is not influenced by such details at this time.
Assume you are male:
Many couples with a male dominant won't consider you becasue the male might feel uneasy getting in a - however lowly - competitor.
A couple with a female dominant might rather consider a playtoy for the male to busy himself with so, doh!
A couple with both parts dominant... They are maybe looking for a pack, not single issues.

Now, when you are female:
Well, Cockdunking is the keyword, the balls are doing the thinking. I had that already.
Luckily there are a few couples that , like Mstrsskitten2010, do the thinking with head and heart.

But there isn't such great an amount of those compared to single males with a certain need, a certain temper, and a lack of a lot else.

Wishing you all the best I remain
with kind regards
Aries

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RE: Quite a rarity that I post in this section however! - 3/6/2011 8:53:32 AM

porcelaine

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quote:

ORIGINAL: pyroaquatic

I am quite frustrated. Is this another numbers game thing? Are these gay male doms not actually reading my profile?

Greetings Pyro,

I took the liberty of reading your profile and found it very enjoyable. Your energy is beautiful and the softness that echoes forth is almost enviable. :)

Having said this, I can understand why you're attracting gay men. Your sexuality, manner of speech, personal confessions, and the energy I previous mentioned is probably of great appeal. There's a hint of vulnerability between the lines that I find refreshing and others hard to resist. And a certain innocence that I can't put my finger on but I'm not oblivious to it. In short, you're quite the morsel and rather hard to resist. Why would they?

I wouldn't change what you've written. But I think you need to address what you're seeking early on and make certain that you emphasize a pair. I would draft an introduction and use it as a journal entry instead. People inclined to read will do so. I'm suggesting you drill it down. You could opt for two journals. The introduction that goes into detail all about you. A mere copy and paste. And one that specifies your interests in both sexes along with personal anecdotes that shed light on this. Also, you need to amend those little check boxes. If you want a couple keep your focus there. By selecting a single dominant man or woman you're indicating a willingness to move in that direction.

Best of luck. :)

Namaste,

~porcelaine

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