LadyNTrainer
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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer I'm afraid that it *is* true that certain sorts of submales aren't able to conceive of a D/s relationship in which the sub pays the Domme. I'm one of them. The problem is very fundamental: I can't wrap my head around the idea of my paying a mistress to own me. The illogic of that is so blatant and so powerful that it destroys any submissive feelings I may have towards any given woman. If I pay someone for something, then she is providing a service to me. She is therefore a servant. Crystal is mud by comparison. Any arguments I've seen - and I've seen most - about 'true subs realising that they should Tribute their dommes' and 'Goddesses being worth their upkeep', etc, etc - won't even touch that. In my poly group, it's more like each contributing according to their ability. Some people have more time and less money, others have more money and less time, so we distribute it around with the end goal of everyone in the family being happy and healthy. I am not interested in micromanaging another adult's money or stuff, but I set general guidelines and goals for the household and make decisions on the important stuff. Works for us. It's not exactly a tribute model, but it could be seen that way. If you expect to be in a relationship or in a family - any kind really, not just D/s - you need to be prepared to pull your weight and contribute according to your ability and what you have available. If you're not, whether that's because you're untrusting, overly self-focused, unrealistic, inhibited by the mindset you describe, etc, then you aren't a family member that anyone else can count on. And you're not someone I'd want in my family if this was true of you. I get that it makes sense not to want to pay a professional. That's fine. But if you actually are owned, if you are part of a family of choice, contributing financially is not an unreasonable expectation. You certainly have a nice ass, but if that's all you're offering, then you're no more than a casual play partner.
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