Focus50
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Joined: 12/28/2004 From: Newcastle, Australia Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: Focus50 Lol, this is rubbish...! First and just to clarify, "his statement" wasn't anything he stated on this public discussion board - you lifted it from his personal profile. As for that statement: "I am hoping to satisfy my craving for having someone to punish around when I'm in the mood to, and wanted to be served". The last few words are a bit confusing but generally it's harmless if you factor in that probably the most confusing and bastardised word in BDSM is "punish". He probably should've substituted "dominate", or even "control", instead.... And, best for last and as one of those Doms who "turns it off and on" - you're advocating a dom has to be an "island"? Geeeezus, even a full-on sociopath needs downtime! I admit to being at a total loss as to how you misconstrued that from my statement. I meant turns it on and off as in merely playing a role. Look at his interests, he's heavily into RP games. Now you can't have it both ways...! You may have meant that he turns it on or off as roleplay, but you didn't say that. Roleplay is not the default meaning of dominance, at least not to the considerable percentage of us who live D/s or M/s as a core personal relationship dynamic. So if you don't stipulate that which is relevant but not obvious, you don't then get to plead innocence/ignorance in regard of statements others *allegedly* "miscontrue" from you. quote:
Just so we're clear, you don't think it reasonable that a dom can have a relationship where he can love his submissive in all ways? You know - friend, companion, lover, confidante etc in the everyday - just like any other mature/adult couple! It has to be total disconnect of emotions (24/7) to be "true" D/s or M/s? That most subs only want the cruel, strutting control freak who's never allowed to just be human occasionally - with all the fallibilities implied? quote:
I certainly never said any such thing nor implied it. Again, I am quite baffled. But then this venue appears to be virtual minefield in terms of what people can read into a simple statement. Again, your baffled-ness comes from the relevant you failed to stipulate. As for this venue, I'd think those who thrive on conflict and confrontation could find minefields at a newborn's christening. quote:
You recently mistook me for Gorean and I thought you were a domme until this thread. But I am familiar with the hyper-uberness (posturing, sweeping statements et al) that only a switch can project. You don't have a monopoly on "confrontation".... quote:
Yes, I did make a genuine error and mistake you for a Gorean, and I have apologized to you publically and sent you a Cmail. So I am confused as you why you brought it up, and most especially in the context of my being a switch. It sounds like a domme you would give the benefit of the doubt, a switch you would not? That is quite hugely prejudicial, but nothing I have not heard before. On that note I'll just uber posture my way on out of here. Enjoy your evening, Focus. I brought it up because my experience of internet bdsm Forums (here, bondage.com and the old bdsm-online) is that the domliest of all tend to be switches who over-compensate in (apparently) feeling they hafta try harder or prove themselves or whatever it is. Been a few years since I posted at bon.com but I still remember Greggy and Fire in particular - switches who thrived on conflict and confrontation, too, and were equally proud of it. So shoot me for a lightbulb moment in recognising a familiar theme once you identified as switch. The sleight (if any) wasn't in calling me Gorean but your reference to "my" Gorean BS - you're not without your considerable prejudices yourself, or the sweeping statements that freely emanate from them. I've found most people treat me as I treat them. I'd reckon you find that, too; that "minefields" are symptomatic of an atmosphere you readily generate.... Focus.
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Never underestimate the persuasive power of stupid people in large groups. <unknown> Your food is for eating, not torturing. <my mum> (Errm, when I was a kid)
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