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RE: Questions to Consider - 5/21/2011 5:12:18 AM

SirJ40

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I always ask first .. "why are you considering this? What are your motivations?"
Often, unrealistic and unrealizable expectations or misunderstanding lead people to consider this life. Clarity helps.

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RE: Questions to Consider - 5/21/2011 11:14:47 AM

penelopebound

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Thanks for this tread.

i have been begging Husband for a sister sub, and i am the big pusher for this. i really want a polyfi relationship.

But the unicorn hunting has left me feeling a little strange. Mostly because i find that many of the women who say they want a couple really want him, and have no understanding of what polyfi is. A submissive will be more attracted to Him than i, though i do have my evil switch button(and I tend to be more stern than he is). I feel more evil as a switch though, more Dom than Husband, and i dont know how he will see me after this. So far he loves the ideas I bring to Him regarding Shiny New Potentials.

He encourages his potentials to talk to me, and i have right of refusal. We know what we want and like others have talked it to death, however i am not certain that many of them women on CM singles know what they want. However i think the Message boards tend to be more intelligent than the profiles. Most of the best profiles i have looked at are posters to the boards.

i have know a number of hippie triads and i love the sisterhood between the women. The economies of scale actually seem to let everyone have more time to grow. You have another person in the household who has different strengths. Husband is also a very good Man and i think he would make another woman very happy. As a bisexual i feel like i am missing the lesbian sisterhood i had when my primary partner was a woman. i am hoping that having a sister sub we could go to GLBT events together.

i learned a lot from reading the thread. Thanks!

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RE: Questions to Consider - 5/22/2011 11:59:17 AM

ranja

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quote:

ORIGINAL: penelopebound
Mostly because i find that many of the women who say they want a couple really want him

there is a poster here who has found find that all submissives they consider for her husband unfortunately always want her too and eventhough she is flattered, she is not interested at all in that... maybe you could swap notes.

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