NuevaVida -> RE: Interesting take on aftercare (5/20/2011 5:22:50 PM)
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It seems like this “article” was written with only public play in mind, so I can’t speak to that. But I can speak to my personal views and experience with after care. I was used to not having after care. The ex owner never provided it, and often went home when I was still lying in a heap on the floor. I hated this, and it would take me days to recover from some of his sadistic pleasures, but I learned how to recover on my own. I still hated it, but it was required of me. So when the Mister and I got together, he would start taking care of me after “play” – and I felt really awkward by it. I told him he didn’t have to do that, that it was my job to do that. Well, he set me straight. He made it crystal clear that his use of me means his responsibility to get me back into shape, period, the end, and that he LIKES doing these things and it’s not up to me to tell him what he can and can’t do. So yeah, sometimes he’s changing the sheets. He brings me cold water and feeds it to me. He holds me. He tucks me into bed. He pampers me, because that’s his own aftercare to himself, as well as me. His choice. Personally, I don’t “need” it, but I find I really thrive a lot more WITH it. And he wants us both to thrive. As others have said, we are each other’s responsibility. We look out for each other. He takes care of me after enjoying his sadistic pleasures, and while he’s doing so, I wrap my arms around him and rub his neck and stroke his hair and ask him if he needs anything. We’re in this together, and whatever we go through – pleasure, pain, happy, sad, highs, lows, (my) beatings, and care – we do together.
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