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RE: #2: Honour & Duty - 6/16/2011 5:41:03 AM

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she is now expected to not only provide me with information, but to actively advise me.

My last relationship was like this. He had the final decision, but he expected me to research things and tell him my opinion about them. He made up his mind as to whether or not it was good advice, but he thought a lot of my intellect. He also thought I was a good person that had his best interest at heart.

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RE: #2: Honour & Duty - 6/16/2011 7:57:00 AM

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my last relationship was like that, too. he would have me do research of things so we could compare notes and share opinions. i was a sounding board for things in a lot of cases. it was nice to be valued in that capacity.

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RE: #2: Honour & Duty - 6/16/2011 6:31:27 PM

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it was nice to be valued in that capacity.

It really is, isn't it?

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RE: #2: Honour & Duty - 6/17/2011 8:27:34 PM

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If I wasn't the type of person to stick to my promises, I would probably be more of a 'do-me' sub, submitting only when I wanted to, to the things I wanted to.

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And why do you think you wouldn't still want to submit to him, to the things he wants of you? By your definition I'm a do-me sub, who just happens to always wants to submit to him?

I don't understand why people stay with those they don't want to be with, but have to be compelled to do so, even by their own promises. I'm in this voluntarily, and have been so for going on 9 years now. Pretty good for a do-me sub.

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RE: #2: Honour & Duty - 6/17/2011 8:29:26 PM

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having given my submission to my mistress, I do feel a responsibility to obey her requests. she may request something I might not enjoy, but discomfort is not a reason to ask her to reconsider. I imagine it is a fair bit of work to come up with ways to push my boundaries. if I constantly second guess her or bitch and moan about her requests (which are actually orders) I am questioning her authority, weakening trust. discomfort is worth coping with to show her my trust, love, and submission. However, I also see it as my duty to give her good background information and inform her when something really is not going to be safe for me.

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RE: #2: Honour & Duty - 6/17/2011 8:33:32 PM

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

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If I wasn't the type of person to stick to my promises, I would probably be more of a 'do-me' sub, submitting only when I wanted to, to the things I wanted to.

owned xxx

And why do you think you wouldn't still want to submit to him, to the things he wants of you? By your definition I'm a do-me sub, who just happens to always wants to submit to him?

I don't understand why people stay with those they don't want to be with, but have to be compelled to do so, even by their own promises. I'm in this voluntarily, and have been so for going on 9 years now. Pretty good for a do-me sub.

i think you're reading too far into it, Des. nothing she's saying should be extrapolated into a universal for anyone. she's talking about her own point of view. some people simply have different motivators or honor systems with themselves. after that section you quoted, she goes on to say that keeping her promises is her way of making sure that there's balance, that she isn't just taking but also giving back.

nothing in her post sounds like she is in a situation she doesn't want to be in, and it doesn't sound involuntary. it sounds like she's found her own way to work towards the success of something she believes in.

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