windchymes
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Trust me when I say that for anyone with a depressive disorder, be it bipolar, depression, or whatever, that disorder is always going to trump anything you think or feel or need or want while they focus on their needs and wants. The person I was involved with a few years back let me lay on the couch after a spinal fusion with no offers of getting me food or drink while he made himself coffee all day long. I cooked dinner while he laid on the bed with a washcloth over his eyes because he had a headache....caused by the depression, in his words. My heartfelt advice is to drop any ideas you had of having a relationship with him, be it online, real life, M/s, friends, lovers, or whatever, because the world is going to stop anytime he needs to deal with his depression. And believe me, please, if you were "together" it would NOT be easier. More likely, you'd find yourself needing medication soon. Just let it go. I came back to add this: I understand depression, and I understand sometimes the feeling that you need to isolate yourself, but I'm rather upset over this. I guess I feel hurt and disrespected that he didn't/doesn't feel it's necessary to even give me a hint that he's doing ok until I beg for it. I'm also feeling a huge amount of hurt over the fact that we were having some intense conversations with long distance D/s, which just stopped abruptly with no warning and no apology. This whole episode has made me start reconsidering him as a good match for me. This paragraphs tells me that you DO NOT understand clinical depression! You have no idea of the depth of what you're dealing with, and it's not a simple "poor him, he just needs to isolate himself once in a while", it's a mental illness that could get a lot worse. The person I spoke of above was a master of the online "intense conversation", but that only means he's good at typing pretty words, it doesn't mean he's a good potential partner. You really have no idea of how unstable he really could be, though I suspect you're getting your first taste of it. And if he needs inpatient treatment, I don't mean to sound unsympathetic, but, especially if this has only been an online relationship, this is just something you don't want to get involved in, trust me! Just listen to your gut that's telling you to reconsider, it's telling you that for a reason.
< Message edited by windchymes -- 6/15/2011 2:29:06 PM >
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