barelynangel
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OP, You know, i keep hearing what you want, i keep hearing all of your opinions on this girl are right. I keep hearing that your opinion here is the correct one. Your Master said you are being closed minded --- you immediately deny same. So just out of curiosity -- why are you right in this case and he is wrong?
What really made me blink was when YOU decided what was disrespectful and wrong for her to do, say etc to your MASTER. That is not your call and shouldn't be your concern. He is a big boy and while he may have certain expectations of you as his slave -- she is NOT yet his slave and it's not up to you to determine what expectations he should have of her or decide how they should communicate. It's not up to you to determine the "level" of respect a sub should have. You need to stay out of their relationship and judging what she does and doesn't do with your Master. It's really not your concern and will only cause you to compare and contrast and cause you stress and angst and you will continue to think she is getting MORE than you are. You can as he is allowing you be a part of the process of finding someone with him but you aren't part of the process of his relationship with her and what that entails. I see many slaves and subs misunderstand this concept. They believe that if they are part of the picking process then they also get to determine the interaction and relationship between their MAster and the other girl.
I know that's hard to hear but it's true. Even if she does become part of the poly family, her relationship with him is just that HER relationship with him -- just as your relationship with him will be YOUR relationship with him.
You say you are all gungho to be poly and you LOVE the idea, but have you ever actually been a part of a poly situation? Has he?
You ARE jealous and it sounds like this is what its all about on your end and it doesn't sound like you want poly UNLESS you are first. That's not how poly works -- every concept of poly i have ever seen which deals with a slave demanding she remains first or such doesn't work for the long run. So that is YOUR issue. In your mind it sounds like you are thinking you will come first and the other will be the secondary concept in his life or more for YOU than him.
You are a slave, you SUPPOSED to serve him every day. Sorry but your belief of your entitled because you are doing what you are supposed to do as his slave, just doesn't fit. Maybe he won't take her into his home as his slave but maybe as his equal, his partner. Perhaps you are misunderstanding your place as his slave? Just because you are "first" in his home, doesn't give you an entitlement of meaning more to him than anyone else coming into his home.
YOur trying to indicate its not jealousy speaking is in many ways your in denial. You are afraid of their relationship because it has lasted so long even if it has never come to her actually coming to him. As you said, you are afraid of losing your spot. This tells me you aren't aware of how poly works. Poly doesn't work on "spots" because each person has their place. So she can't take your place. She will have her own place. You may not LIKE that her place MAY actually be different than yours but she will be creating her own place.
And as far as him giving her attention when she calls and such -- do you not think he stopped what he was doing and gave YOU his attention before you came to be with him when you called etc?
As for her not being a woman of her word, that's not up for you to worry about because it seems you are saying that based on her not coming as she said she would. Has your Master even MET this girl offline?
His kids aren't yours, and it doesn't seem as if you have been there all that long. I would let him right now deal with his kids because you may actually be projecting your dislike of her.
NOw all of that being said and you should take a look at what you have written, you may surprise yourself. Now, we have to realize that we are only hearing the side of a slave who feels neglected when this girl calls and is unsettled, who feels jealous, who is pregnant, who, based on what she has written has never experienced poly (which is a lot easier to SAY YES i want poly, than to exist in a poly situation, who is not yet fully settled into her new life and we don't have his side of this whole thing at all. If this man has been trying to get this girl for over a year and a half now, then it is probably less likely she will come to him. She may just be using him for entertainment when she is bored.
But the thing is, he will have to figure that out himself. But in the meantime, it sounds like you both have to sit down and really hear what the other is hearing and what the other wants and how you each see a poly situation working.
Good luck,
angel
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