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NuevaVida -> RE: Is It Really All About Sex? (8/3/2011 7:12:04 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Fetters4U
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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida
I'll answer your questions, Hannah. I do it because it brings me inner joy and that joy fulfills me spiritually. It's not a sexual drive, although my sexuality is a part of it. It's just more encompassed than that. The fulfillment is deeper than my sexuality. It exceeds it.
All creatures have one and only one need, the need to survive. When the first animal came along survival meant the need for food. When the first animal that bred sexually came along, survival added the need to procreate. Other basic motivations, like pain and fear, came later when animals gained nervous systems and the ability to think.
The need to survive, feed and breed. They are build into our brains at the lowest level. It does not go any deeper than that. Things you consider deep, like love and spirituality, are shallow recent constructs built upon our need to survive in some way and usually have sexual connotations..
We are complex creatures. Sometimes our wiring gets mixed up and or basic needs show up in weird ways. However, no matter how you slice it, BDSM is always about sex.
First, wowee, the cleanup crew came in last night! With 2 pages of posts deleted, some of my posts look like I'm talking to myself, which wouldn't be the first time, of course lol.
I find it fascinating that one word - spirituality - caused such a stir. But the way I see it, telling someone they're absolutely and factually wrong for believing they have a spirit and that it's that spirit which drives them is on par with some of the bible thumpers who insist anyone who doesn't believe in certain religious entities is wrong and going to hell. We all have our beliefs, and I think it's been proven time and again that arguing about right and wrong when it comes to such strong beliefs is futile. We're unlikely to change anyone's mind, which is why people often just agree to disagree.
I, personally, believe I have a spirit, and my relationship with that spirit/soul/core/whatever makes me spiritual in my personal operation. It's not a problem for me that others disagree (to the point of name calling, no less) because I'm comfortable with my beliefs.
I still believe that what drives people is not just the drive to procreate, however. People can disagree with that; it's their right. Viktor Frankle wrote, in "Man's Search for Meaning" of his experiences in Auschwitz, of his belief that the only reason he survived in a room full of men who died of starvation around him, was due to his need to fulfill a purpose in life - and it wasn't procreation. Endless books have been written on the topic of purposeful lives and the human quest for happiness and fulfillment. Endless books have been written on Sex Magik, which I'm not well versed on myself, but which also give examples of experiences which go beyond the need to procreate.
We all believe what we believe based on our experiences and what we've learned along the way. My beliefs are not intended to minimize anyone else's beliefs, nor will I criticize others for believing what they do. I simply find our differences fascinating, and our reactions to those who believe differently equally fascinating.
So, for me, life is more than a quest to procreate. Others may not feel the same. If this makes me Castle-Realmy, hey I can live with that. I like my little world, and I like that some of the ideas presented by others makes me think a bit more. Maybe I'm totally wrong, after all. Maybe I'm not. Maybe it doesn't matter! [8D] It's been an interesting and enlightening discussion, no less.
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