LostUnicorn
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I suppose since I started this thread that still appears to be going, I will weigh in again.
I am still looking, but not "actively" at the moment. What I seek will find me or me them eventually.
The reason that I am secondary to a relationship is the woman is often married to him. That is fine with me, it shows me that the man cared enough to marry her, and isn't afraid of commitment. I am not only looking for a relationship with another submissive woman, I would mesh in a relationship with a submissive man or two Dominants. It is the family I seek.
The female doesn't even have to be bi-sexual, it's not a must. A perk, but not a must. As a submissive, I do not expect sex, it's not my place to demand. Yes, I do expect to have my desires considered, but as for their being granted, it's not my place to demand it. I am not even seeking to live in the household as a must, nor expect to sleep in the bed with them every night. (If either of those happens, it is fine, but it is not a "must".)
It was so much easier when I was going to the swinging groups, the feeling was much more relaxed. Perhaps because it was two couples? Or the S/M parties where I was tied to a chair and others were allowed to do as they wished with me, or He would simply hand me over to someone else's custody for an hour or two. There was no fear, no resentment, no worries that the world was not right. No jealousy, no passive-aggressive behavior, just adults at ease with the way the tide was flowing at the moment.
I will find that again, I have faith. Not all unicorns are looking to steal the Dominant in the relationship, if I wanted a single person, I would seek a single person. Not all of the "good ones" are taken. Honest. (I wouldn't want a man <in this or the vanilla world>who would break off a relationship to be with me. The men who seek "a triad" simply because they are bored will become bored with me and seek out another.)
I have no problems being an occasional third in a relationship, but it should be stated at the beginning what it is, and all should be content with that. Ditto for if everyone involved wishes a triad relationship as a LTR. Honesty on everyone's part. Not just her submitting to his wishes regarding me. I am sorry if saying that I will not be in a relationship knowing that my presence makes another sad or jealous or whatever negative emotion the reluctant third is feeling, but it would make me feel miserable in the long run.
It's early, I haven't had my coffee and PMS hormones are raging in my blood and as always, my opinions are purely my own, they might not mesh with yours, or your idea of protocol. That's okay. If we were all a pack of stupid sheep with the herd mentality, none of us would have the courage to break from the vanilla herd to admit we enjoy S/M or B/D or were bi-sexual, homosexual, transsexual, etc.. Wouldn't that be a very boring world?
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