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RE: Need input from DOM/DOMMES - 12/10/2011 7:53:53 PM   
sweetcreamsub


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Status: offline 		Thanks Poise

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RE: Need input from DOM/DOMMES - 12/10/2011 9:15:44 PM   
lizi


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Status: offline 		Sounds like you dodged a bullet then, glad things turned out so you could see more clearly what he was up to. You listened to your instincts, good job. 

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RE: Need input from DOM/DOMMES - 12/11/2011 2:05:23 AM   
MisterP61


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quote:

ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

No. He is not your dom and will not be your dom. Move on.
Friendship is possible with people you used to be with, but not ownership.
He either wants all of you, (and you want to give it to him) or it's over (as far as a master/sub relationship goes)


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RE: Need input from DOM/DOMMES - 12/11/2011 2:24:07 AM   
TigerBDSM


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Status: offline 		Why allow someone to alter your success. His desires are not yours.

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RE: Need input from DOM/DOMMES - 12/11/2011 5:41:51 AM   
Buzzzz


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Status: offline 		I wonder if poise can come over here and "clean up my cache" :). ?

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RE: Need input from DOM/DOMMES - 12/11/2011 7:15:55 AM   
poise


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Status: offline 		The last word on my mind when looking at your bodacious buns is clean.
Besides, didn't you say in another thread that you were gonna start charging?

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RE: Need input from DOM/DOMMES - 12/11/2011 8:01:06 AM   
sweetcreamsub


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Status: offline 		I think it worked.....someone please tell me if it didn't

Many thanks all

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RE: Need input from DOM/DOMMES - 12/11/2011 8:07:22 AM   
LillyBoPeep


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Status: offline 		The shysub page comes up as "Profile Not Found" for me, so I'd say you've succeeded. ^_^

Good luck, and glad you worked out this issue.


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RE: Need input from DOM/DOMMES - 12/11/2011 1:46:51 PM   
Buzzzz


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.The last word on my mind when looking at your bodacious buns is clean.
Besides, didn't you say in another thread that you were gonna start charging?

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The 1st one is on the house ;)

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RE: Need input from DOM/DOMMES - 12/11/2011 3:17:47 PM   
kalikshama


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quote:

He wants to remain friends, but more than that, he wants to stay in my life as my DOM. I have mixed thoughts and feelings about this, especially as I am looking to date other DOM men and hopefully find a relationship.


R and I ended the D/s aspect of our relationship in 2005 but remained friends - I continued to live with him for another four years, cat-sat for him after I moved out, and he drove my car from FL to MA when I moved to MA. My new D and I went to visit R and k last month.

However, him remaining my Dom would not at all have been possible and the only pussy related benefits he received was the cat-sitting.

I've had many successful FWB relationships, but none that started as an intense D/s sitch than dialed back.

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RE: Need input from DOM/DOMMES - 12/11/2011 4:16:44 PM   
Toppingfrmbottom


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Status: offline 		I certainly wouldn't want an x to remain my dom. They're x's for a reason. And even if that reason was an ok one, and not a negative one, I still wouldn't because I'd be looking to move on and get into a full and complete relationship with someone that included a sexual relationship and one as life partners. Not very many people will want to come into a relationship with someone who already has a dom, and you will keep the dom or are not free to focous on them cause said dom, and said Dom will probably not like being discarded once you get a new partner.

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RE: Need input from DOM/DOMMES - 12/11/2011 4:19:14 PM   
thishereboi


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Status: offline 		It wouldn't work for me. If I still wanted him to be my dom, then I would still be with him. If I am not, then there is a reason for that.

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RE: Need input from DOM/DOMMES - 12/11/2011 7:24:01 PM   
NiceButMeanGirl


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Status: offline 		OP, it sounds like he wants to keep you under his thumb, wield power in your life, and be a FWB, even though you've broken up. Is that what you really want? I can tell you, as a Domme, I would have absolutely ZERO interest in anyone who has another Dom/me telling him/her what to do, or having sex with him/her. I would steer clear TOTALLY.

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RE: Need input from DOM/DOMMES - 12/21/2011 12:54:08 AM   
Pestilence


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quote:

ORIGINAL: shysub4152
unfortunately, in the vanilla world, I knew there was too much about him that I would not want in a long term relationship.


you've answered your own question. he wants the relationship to go on, you already know that you don't want a long term relationship with him. it is always painful and unfortunate when the collar must be removed from the wrong person. you are right that rushing into it was a mistake. as i've said in other threads, though, a mistake is only truly a mistake if you've learned nothing from it. :]

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RE: Need input from DOM/DOMMES - 12/21/2011 6:04:17 AM   
SailingBum


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Status: offline 		I checked the OP profile she is 43 years old. For some reason I thought perhaps at most 20. At 43 if you havn't got the whole dating thing figured out, you never will. I pity the poor bastard that dates her next.

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RE: Need input from DOM/DOMMES - 12/25/2011 11:18:35 AM   
MasterSlaveLA


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quote:

ORIGINAL: shysub4152

He wants to remain friends, but more than that, he wants to stay in my life as my DOM.



Oh fer-fuck's-sake... do I REALLY have to say it?  Really?!!  Fine... (clears throat)...

BOOTY CALL ! ! !




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RE: Need input from DOM/DOMMES - 12/26/2011 11:13:55 AM   
Dscouple7383


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Status: offline 		I don't see how it's possible, to be honest. Best in my opinion if you cut ties completely, and move on. In about 4 weeks time, you won't even think about him anymore.
You need to find the right Dom for YOU.
And NEVER settle.

Derek

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