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Tease/Denial - 1/7/2012 8:20:07 AM   
undercover00756


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Status: offline 		Is tease/denial just interpreted as a wanker? Gets very frustrating to constantly hear that
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RE: Tease/Denial - 1/7/2012 9:14:13 AM   
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Status: offline 		That depends...how are you approaching people about it? Your profile is all but non-existent. What little there is of it consists mainly of whining about "fakes" and pro dommes. There's certainly nothing that would attract positive interest from me or, I suspect, from your target demographic.

Some dominant women enjoy tease and denial and others don't. This isn't a one-size-fits-all issue and your success rate depends entirely on your approach. If you're smarmy about it, then, yes, you'll be treated like a wanker. If your OP is any indication, your approach probably needs a lot of work.

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RE: Tease/Denial - 1/7/2012 9:45:22 AM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		Well, when ugga ugga me want tease and denial is about the only thing expressed.. then yes, it can be perceived as someone that just wants to wank.

Full expression of a thought is very important. Full and complete sentences are important. It is called good communication skills and those get down to some real basics with some men, especially around the time their cock gets hard. So try brushing up on your communication skills and expressing yourself and then when you discuss tease and denial you may be met with a more positive response... if that isn't the only thing you are trying to discuss with a stranger.

The non talkative strong male has its benefits but not usually with women that are unknown to a male and might wish to be treated with some respect. At least the minimum of respect that means they aren't being treated as a tease and denial supplier.

I personally love tease and denial... but never with a stranger and never with someone that cannot talk about anything else. I need to know the man before I wish to know his cock.


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RE: Tease/Denial - 1/7/2012 9:59:19 AM   
Clickofheels


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RE: Tease/Denial - 1/7/2012 11:27:13 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Lockit

I personally love tease and denial... but never with a stranger and never with someone that cannot talk about anything else. I need to know the man before I wish to know his cock.




I can see it now. You have your subbied all tied up......teasing him bring him the the brink....all the while discussing the vanilla things. How was your day dear, what did you do at work today??? I like it LOL

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RE: Tease/Denial - 1/7/2012 12:02:07 PM   
Lockit


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lockit

I personally love tease and denial... but never with a stranger and never with someone that cannot talk about anything else. I need to know the man before I wish to know his cock.




I can see it now. You have your subbied all tied up......teasing him bring him the the brink....all the while discussing the vanilla things. How was your day dear, what did you do at work today??? I like it LOL


Don't think I haven't done it. Talk about mind fuck, but it has to be with the right guy to work effectively. Yet, that wasn't quite what I was talking about.


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RE: Tease/Denial - 1/7/2012 12:07:02 PM   
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Status: offline 		LOL.....I know.....I just could not resist. I read your post and that mental image popped into my mind. Then I thought about it for a minute and thought that really would be torture...LOL

For the tease/denail scene I think it works so much better when you know your partner. You know his/hers body language. You know what they like and what they do not like. So you can easily do a very long and drawn out scene all the time keeping him/her on the edge. Hard to do that with a stranger.

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RE: Tease/Denial - 1/7/2012 12:11:47 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		Well, if you have a guy that hates when you talk about meatloaf or tuna fish and you make killer meatloaf and tuna fish that he loves to eat... but has no desire to talk endlessly about it... and you know he is thinking... shut up already(!), you just get him off while talking about it a few times. Then you can talk all the meatloaf and tuna fish you wanna... cause you know that boy is going to have a hard on. 

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RE: Tease/Denial - 1/7/2012 12:34:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		Yanno this could work in reverse.

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RE: Tease/Denial - 1/7/2012 12:34:29 PM   
Wheldrake


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Well, when ugga ugga me want tease and denial is about the only thing expressed.. then yes, it can be perceived as someone that just wants to wank.



Or who just wants to not be allowed to wank, perhaps.

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RE: Tease/Denial - 1/7/2012 12:39:40 PM   
Lockit


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Yanno this could work in reverse.

Whistle Light my Fire to the D during wax play etc.


It might work once or twice... but I would be thinking gag ball or duct tape. I am not the trainee. hehehe I must keep my status!


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RE: Tease/Denial - 1/7/2012 12:42:46 PM   
Lockit


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lockit

Well, when ugga ugga me want tease and denial is about the only thing expressed.. then yes, it can be perceived as someone that just wants to wank.



Or who just wants to not be allowed to wank, perhaps.



Could be. If my block or telling him he is blocked gets him off... he gets one for the road I guess. lol


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RE: Tease/Denial - 1/7/2012 9:27:00 PM   
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Is tease/denial just interpreted as a wanker? Gets very frustrating to constantly hear that

It depends on how you present that idea. If your profile is any indication of your approach, it, well, SUCKS. You say almost nothing about yourself but you whine and bellyache about cammers, findommes and fakes. Why not say more about yourself in a positive way and do less bitching and whining about what you don't like? We've heard all that crap a million times before and really don't want to hear it again. If you present it as one part of a whole package/person that's one thing. If that's all you talk about you're going to sound like a wanker and be a total turn-off.

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RE: Tease/Denial - 1/8/2012 4:53:50 AM   
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RE: Tease/Denial - 1/8/2012 4:09:19 PM   
MSubEdinburgh29


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Status: offline 		Im no expert, but I reckon the dominant will enjoy tease/denial only if they really know their submissive... otherwise, yes, it's only for the gratification of the submissive.

So, I don't think you're gonna find someone who will give you tease & denial on a 'first date'!

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